hey, i'm 14/f and in 9th grade. =] and this is my story.
i always seem to make really good friends then somehow distance from them, then I cant talk to them anymore and now everything is so awkward. this has happened 3 times but there's only 2 girls i want to be friends with again.
i used to be best friends with a girl (I'll call her "Ellie") in 2nd grade to 5th grade. Then, we kind of drifted..and now I really want to be friends with Ellie again, but I have NO idea how to go about it. We havent talked in like 4 years or the entire school year, but now we share a class and I know she notices me because we've made eye contact but neither of us says hi..which is kind of awkward
that's a tough one.
do you have a myspace or sn? thats a GREAT way to break into new friendships if not i'll try and give you my best advice..
next time your with just one of them start real small talk. just hey how was your weekend? and whatever they say be like, oh how cool! we need to hang out sometime!.. or "we need to hang out like old times!" and then follow it up with "yea me you and ellie should hang out next weekend!"
and just got shopping or to the movies, something that doesn't require too much one on one action but ya'll can do as a whole! you really need to regain your confidence with these girls, it sounds like you're good at makin friends, just deplete silly thoughts like "this is so awkward" and go for it, they'll say yes, and ya'll will probably have a lot of fun.
oh yea and if shes up for it ask for her phone number so you can call her with plans! and give her yours!! good luck!
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My ex-bf is like going out with me friend, and whenever i talk to him, cuz were still friends, i kinda just act like im realy happy for him and her. its getting really annoying but wuts like worse is that theyve already broken up and got back together, now my friend is gonna break up with him again, if i tell him he wont believe me and then he will think im jealous, which i kinda am becuz i still like him alot, but i just need advice on how to handle like them and stuff???
don't voluntarily tell him.. make him ask you
what i mean is say something like "so how are you and jessica?" ((w/e her name is)) and if he says "we're good" then bite your lip like you're preventing yourself from saying something then nod your head and say "oh"... then he'll ask you why and then you can be like "oh i don't know.. i don't think i should tell you" haha and it goes on from there and you can tell him she's going to break up with him without making you sound jealous or w/e
like my specific steps? lol
good luck
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can telll it was bad. i planned so long for it, and then they didnt
wanna play any games, and like they were bein all ******* and not even listen to
me at ALL when they got here (at 6!) they watched mtv music videos (that i didnt
even like) untill 10:30
i called that i was opening gifts twice. like YELLED it. and they all ignored me
because this one girl was crying (i dont even why) and then she called her crush and so
they missed out on me opening the gifts
and they rejected all of my game ideas and i had really good prizes too and it
was so not worth my time im never doin this again. and then finally (today) 30
miuntes before they leave they ask me what i wanted to do. and its like well uhh
theres only 20 minutes left theres not much you CAN do. and so im like well OKAY
GUYS WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO and they ignore me, and its like WTF and shes im shes
like WELL THATS BECAUSE WE WERE TALKING and im like WELL ITS BECAUSE YOU KEEP CONTROLING
MY PARTY (which is true) SHES LIKE THEN MAKE THEM STOP CONTROLLING IT (talkin
about her friend) and i was like THATS WHAT IVE BEEN TRYING TO DO! and it was
all messed and yeah.
its like HELLO THIS IS MY PARTY WHY IS NO-ONE LISTENING TO ME!
my friend even made a list about all the mean things they did:
1) they got mad about the presents thing,( i called them twice that i was
opening presents i litterly yelled it but they were like ignoring me) when you
told them twice. and cia (other preson) heard, but she didn't tell them, so it
wasnt all your fault or anything.
2) people were ignoring me for the gift thing because this stupid lee thing (she
likes this guy and she was like calling him saying she loved him and crap). when
lee doesnt like her as more than a friend. and there was 8 girls at my party,
she told all but 3 of us (me and my best friends) she kept a secret from me AT
my party!!
and they were just bein ______ to me.
advicee please!!
k first of all that was all sorts of confusing... try re reading it haha and i also didn't see a question in there so basically i'll just tell you how to get over it.
you need to take this as a learning experience and never invite the "party ruiners" again. don't be rude to them or say anything about the party at all! feel lucky that you at least had a couple loyal friends there and cherish them. take some deep breaths and just realize these types of things happen. everybody has bad parties and its unfortunate that they ruined your birthday but the sooner you get over it the better. now you've learned not to invite people like that to your parties and hopefully this will never happen again... if you had a different question ask me cuz i really had no idea what you wanted me to answer
good luck!
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hi...i need yo help home skillet...my dog eats bunnies..and i eat..eggs. lava you
well maybe your dog is a gay murderer... but i still love him. omg i love eggs too i even have egg slipperzzz can you say PIMP well i sure can. anyways i uh volcano you! haha get it?! lava, volcano????!! anyways peace homie G
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okay my friends and i, i think we are pretty tight. we have fun in school in all, i don't exactly have friends that are the sleep over at each other's houses type. but this summer its weird. okay they always say hey i'm bored we need to hang out sometime and when i say always i mean..always. well, everytime i ask them if they want to do something they kinda hesitate in talking almost as if they don't want to go and since we can't drive *we're 15* they procrastinate in asking they're parents. every once in awhile we get out and they're okay then but its when i'm asking them. do they really want to hang out when they say 'lets hang out'? why do they hesitate and kinda stop talking when i do mention something we can do? it doesn't make sence? HELP!
First of all don't feel bad about yourself or like you're the reason they don't want to hang out. They're just lazy and some people rather watch tv by themselves. You should definitely ask them to go play putt putt or something fun before you have them over to your house so you can break the ice right off the bat. If you do feel comfortable enough to ask them why they always say they want to hang out but never act like it then go ahead and talk to them. But everyone is different and they just might not be very social... who knows. If you acted really excited for them to come hang out then it might make them want to come over sooner. be like "omg i haven't seen you in forever maybe you could come over and swim from 2-4!! that would be so much fun, i miss you!" times are a good thing too... if you tell them a time that would be good to come over then they'll ask for a ride sooner. There's lots of ways to get them hyped just be creative and find out what they want to do.
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HI My name is Allie and I heart Andie and she is one wicked cool cootie if you ask me. Haha. She is very good at giving advice and I am not. Wicked Andie has Cooties?! Haha okay i'm done.
bye wicked andie!
wicked andie does have cooties. laksdjflkasjdf woot woot lata playa ; )
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hey andie this be brittany and i need ur advise...lol okay so theres this chick named andie and she thinks shes a true gangsta but ive told her a million times shes not even HALF as gangsta as me...but she wont listen to me...and um well she beter or im gonna hafta bust a cap...
hmmm? well ur a good body guard...everyones scared now...as they should be....!!! muahahahahahahahhahaha i love you and please give me some good ass advise on what i should do...
maybe you just too caught up in da game to realize the true gansta within andiddy... give her a chance and there will be no bustin a cap unless its done by yo body guard. haha i'm a hoss!!!
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ok..if this is the second time i wrote this sry. it says i didnt ask a question and i need some advice. well i am 14 years old and there is this guy. we have been talking for about a month and a half now. he tells me he loves me and we almost had sex. everyone always asks me if we go out, i never know what to tell them so then i just asked him what were we?..were we just talkin or do we go out?..and he said we are just talking. i mean i like u but i want to talk to other girls.
should i keep talkin to him to see if things get better. or shut him outta my life? i just dont wanna get hurt. yah kno?
shut him out of your life... men are dogs.... outdoor dogs, ew let him find another poor bitch... haha get it bitch, female dog? lol wow that was a good... k it was stupid but you should totally dump him its like a 'friends with benefits' thing, hate to break it to ya but he's just using you. be careful good luck
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i wuv you pandie!! we need to have a reunion sometime!!! i miss u soo much!! xoxoxo!! sorry i dont have a question for you! haha
smooches
lolo!
I KNOW BABE!! I miss all of you, ya'll were my greatest friends!!! xoxo
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i have been friends with these people forever and after a fight(that i dont even know what was about) i seem to cant make things right what do i do..?
figure out what the fight was about... be completely honest with these people and straight out tell them you want to make things right and then follow through with it. If you have trouble being forgiven then you need to be extra careful with how you act towards these people... don't get offended if they won't accept you back right away, they've been hurt whether you realize it or not so now its your time to help them feel better and treat them like you'd want to be treated.
ps: I'm sure you've felt this way about someone ((they hurt you and you didn't want to be friends with them)) so remember how it felt and do what you wanted them to do in order to become friends again... sort of confusing sorry but hope I helped, good luck
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Well there's this guy that I've known pretty much my whole life. He's my neighbor but we've never really been that great of friends. We both play tennis so I see him kind of a lot in the summer. The other day we were talking online and he said we should hang out more. He's gonna call me when he gets back from basketball camp. I really wanna hang out with him but thing is, I don't know him that well. I don't know what to talk about with him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to talk about? How can I open up to him more? Thanks, any help will be appreciated! Oh and I'm 14/f
I've been in quite similar situations, all you need to do is plan on actually doing an activity when ya'll get together ((like playing basketball or something)) that way if you can't think of something to say you'll at least be doing something together. So at first don't just "hang out" with him. You can also try getting a group together to do something and invite him along too! Hope I helped
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