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I have these two friends and they both lie at times. To me at times...and well one day they were asking weight. And I said I'm 160 and she said 120. now she's pretty fat and she can't in no way be 120. I was really stunned at her effort to lie. I don't want to confront her but she makes me feel like i can't trust her again.

What do I do? help me please cause it relly hurts me she lied.

You have to confront her. I had a friend who lied all the time & I never did anything about it. Once I confronted her, she started to stop & stopped all together after a while. Tell her that it hurts you when she lies. Good luck & Please rate
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I've known my bestfriend since 7th grade (we're now both juniors) and we're the closest two friends can get and I love her to death.

Our freshman year, we'd always hear about this girl Meagan and how slutty and bitchy she is. Meagan is a grade ahead of us. Well, 2nd semester of freshman year my bestfriend had a class with her but only for about a week because she got switched out.

Last year, my sophomore year, I was in a class with her for the whole year and at fisrt I didn't like her because of the things I've heard but we started talking and she wasn't that bad. Yeah, some of the rumors were true but she was still a good, fun friend. Now we're really good friends. Not as good as my bestfriend and I, but nevertheless, friends.

So whenever I'm with my bestfriend, and I talk about Meagan, she gives me this disgusted look and talks smack about her. I tell her to shut up and not talk about people she doesn't know and then that's the end of it.

Meagan and I are going to a concert in July and I asked my bestfriend if she wanted to come with us because I know she likes that band. Well, she told me that if Meagan is going, she isn't.

How can I get her to stop being so judgmental and at least try to actually meet her?

I had the same problem. My friend Dujuan didn't like my best friend Noreene. Dujuan invited me to a concert that I said yes to but didn't mean too. I had actually already made plans with Noreene. I asked Dujuan if Noreene would come since she made a big deal out of me backing out of the concert because I had another comitment. She just abruptly said, "no", and she barely knew Noreene. Now, me & Dujuan aren't friends anymore because I decided to go with Noreene.

Don't let this happen to you to. Talk to your friend & tell her to give the other girl a chance! If she says "no", then she isn't being a true best friend. You need to tell her that even though she is your best friend, you have other friends, & that you really want her to go. Make sure she knows that she is still your best friend. If she says "no" once you say that, then just let her do what she wants & tell her that you really wanted her to go.

This is a tough situation, & it takes a strong person to handle it. I'm sure you will be able to handle it! Hope I helped, Good luck, & please rate.
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Im goig to a new school next year with my best friend, she is great and ive known her forever, but im a fraid that if i hang out w/ her alot that, i wont make alot of new friends. plz help!!!

I had this same problem. Me & my friend Faith were pretty much inseperable. We spent all our time together & ended up not having any other friends. My advice to you is to kind of make some space between you two, but not too much. Still be best friends but just make sure you have room for others. Good luck.
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please please please please help me! how can you email pictures from a phone to a computer?? i have verison, razr and i desperately need to know this before tomorrow. i need details too!!!

if thats not possible, how can i get pics on my phone w/o buying software??????

well. on my phone, when you try to picture message someone and it just has numbers, you go to option or whatever, & there is usually a place where you can change the numbers to letters. my phone is probably really different though. Hope you get it in time.
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I have some best friends, and I have a very best friend. Well we are goin to high school next year. Do you think theres a good chance we will stay best bets friends? JW for your opinon. Tanks i will rate ya!

Well, from personal experience, I know that as you get older you grow & change, & so do your friends. You might still be friends, but you all might change over the summer. We have to learn to let go of our old friends so we can make new friends. Try your best to keep in touch over the summer & that will make your chances of being friends in highschool higher.
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Hi. I need help BAD. Well I got invited to my friends birthday party and I really want to go. Heres the catch, well me, my mom, my dad, and my moms friend are supposed to go down to the cape that weekend to help out with this bike-riding thing and the birthday party is from friday to saturday and we usuallu leave to go to the cape on friday evenings. I kept telling my mom that we could go down on saturday. She justwont listen and really really want to go to this party. What should I do?

I rate 5's!!!

Go with your family. It's only a birthday party, and their are gonna be a ton more this summer. Enjoy the time with your family and make sure that you have no plans for the next one.
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My friends always tell me im pretty and that im the skinniest out of all of us whenever i say im fat or that im ugly or hate my hair and things like that and i dont know if they are doing this to make me feel better or not? what do you think?

People tell me that all the time and I think the same way you do.
I'm pretty sure they AREN'T just trying to make you feel better.
People always tell me, "Come on! Tricia, think better about yourself." But it never seems to help, does it?
It's part of a teenage girl thing. We will never be content with how we look or our bodies. It's a hard thing but its part of life.

Hope I helped =D
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me and my best friend have been bestfriends for a couple years now but sometimes i feel like were growing apart and next year im goin 2 high school but my high schoold wierd its b-r bridgewater-raynham 2 high schools combined and sometimes i think maybe i should just get a new best friend but idk we used 2 have fun a couple years ago wat should i do!!!!

My friend "Julie" and I used to be so close. Well, after the fourth year of our "bestfriendship" we grew apart. Getting older makes people grow apart. It's a way of life. But luckily, after I stopped spending all my time with her I got to meet a lot more people! But we are still good friends.

What I say is just go with the flow.

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Should i tell my bestfriend about my period? I'm not sure. We tell each pther every one of our secrets

Well, I know me and my best friends tell each other when we get ours and stuff. Heck, we are the ones who supply pads for each other!

Periods are nothing to be embarrassed about. They are a natural part of life.

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