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i know this girl and last year we used to be best friends. now this year she met a new girl and only hangs out with her.she completly ditched all her old best friends! now she being wicked mean to me for no reason. her and her new friend always talk about me cause i can tell they are and they always try to annoy me and my friends.now her new friend totally changed her and she like wayy different and whenever i look at her she gives me a dirty look. i have tryed to talk to her but she just wont listen or is just more mean to me. how can i make this all stop? (link)
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I am sorry but there is really nothing you can do besides ignore her, show her that the things she is doing doesn't bother you. Kind of act like it isn't even happening. And show her that you are happy and having fun with the friends you have. Act like you don't need her. Maybe after this goes on for a while she will begin to miss your friendship. She will see and start to remember how happy and fun it was having you as a friend and the things you did together. But other then all of this there is really nothing you can do. You can't change the way someone acts, the things someone says or does. It has to be up to them. But usually if you ignore it long enough and show her it doesn't bother you she will get bored of doing these things. Because if it doesn't bother you then it is no longer fun. I hope all of this helps. Good luck hon. *Hugs* Fiesty
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one of my best guy friends constantly smokes. he is only about 13 or 14, which really makes me sad for him. he said he quit, but he hasn't. i really care about him and am concerned, i've tried getting rid of the cigarette while he was using it, and trying to explain to him that i care, but he is not emotional at all (he doesn't cry over relationships, and not even when his brother died). i would appreciate suggestions on how to get him to quit completely. thanks! (link)
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The choice to quit smoking has to be his. All you can do is be patient with him. And you can also do research and get information and pictures of what smoking does to you and show him those things. He can refuse to read the information or look at the pics but you will at least know that you tried. Just continue to be his friend. And voice your opinion and concerns once in a while but don't do it all the time. Because if you do it constantly it may make him want to smoke more just because he knows you want him to quit. But seriously try getting information and pics about smoking and what it does to your health. Bring the issue up and try to share those things with him without being too pushy. Just remember this has to be his choice. I hope that everything works out. Hugs Fiesty
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ok to start out with i never had alot of freinds. but now i have like 2. all of my old freinds never hang out with me and they always say stuff about me thats not ture. first they say that they will always be my freind and the next they say that they hateme. i've tried to talk to them but them wont say anything and when they do say something its usely somehting hurtful like your to fat or to ugly. now none of that is ture but htey wont stop and all i want to do is see why they hate me so bad so that i might try to fix that in the weeks to come. i even tryed to leave them alone but then they get even madder and say even worse stuff about me. now i dont want to lose the freinds i already have by changing but if i dont then i get hurt. so what do i do?
-->mandy (link)
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I am sorry to tell you this but it seems to me like they get enjoyment out of hurting you. And they know just the right things to see to keep you tagging along. You can not control what others think, say or do. And changing who you are is not going to make them be your friend again. And if it does, they are NOT true friends. Because true will always accept you for who you are, faults and all. A true friend would never ask you to change. So stick with your new friends and just do all you can to show the other girls that what they are saying and doing doesn't bother you. Eventually after enough time of you showing them it doesn't bother you, they will get bored with what they are doing and they will stop. But right now they know it hurts you so they keep doing it. Remember to always be true to yourself, never change for anyone else. Good luck Fiesty
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Sometimes, my friend Liv tends to make a huge deal out of things that don't really matter. It's also hard for me to talk to her because she doesn't talk well, she yells and gets mad and is mean. What can I do? (link)
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All you can do is try to talk to her in a calm normal voice and when she starts getting mad or yelling tell her that you are not going to talk to her anymore untill she can talk to you in a calm normal voice and give you the same respect you give her. Tell her that you do not deserve to be yelled at and treated in that manner and therefore you will not allow her to do so. And when she wants to talk to you in a calm normal voice with no yelling to come find you and then you will talk. But untill then you don't want to hear anything she has to say. It may sound harsh but you have to be tough with her and stand your ground on this. I hope it helps. Good luck.
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So last year in 6th grade i met my friend marissa and we were like attached at the hip for the rest of the year. i was friends with her and being friends with her made my other firends jealos and i lost them... and now im kinda regretting it-- my friend marissa has a boyfriend peter that ive known forever and hes my friend and all but whenever me&her are on the phone she always ditches me for him and says that she doesnt like him and all this crap but it changes when hes around.. so i had enough of it so i told her thta i was mad at her and now shes mad at me. i dont think she has a reason to be mad cause this has been bothering me forever and ive just started to tell her. i know that tomorrow at school we will probably be friends again, but i know its gonna keep on happening. ilove her and i cant live without her, but she is just really getting on my nerves and i dont know what to do.
Helppp mee & ill rate high. (link)
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You really need to stand your ground on how you feel but don't push her away. Even if she doesn't have a right to be mad, she is obviously mad for a reason. So just let her know you are still her friend and give her time to cool down. And as for your other friends being jealous and you loosing their friendship, if they were truly your friends in the first place they wouldn't have stopped being friends with you just because you got a new friend. And whatever you do, don't ever let a boy come between you and your best friend. No boy is worth that. You and your friend just need to talk without either one of you being mad. Just have a calm conversation and discussing issues that are bothering both of you but also make sure you both take the time to listen to the other one then respond when they are done. I hope it all works out for you.
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so my best friend isn't talking to me anymore.
and shes been asking her three best friends to do really nice stuff like go to a nice far away mall n horseback riding but she hasn't asked me to do anything with her((its spring break))i feel really left out cause she never does stuff wiht me anymore. why is she doing this to me? (link)
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There is no easy way to know the answer to this question except for talking to your friend about it. If you can't go to her house then call her or write her a letter. Just ask her what is going on and if something is wrong. Tell her that you feel left out and that you miss the company of her and her friendship. You can't force her to hang out with you or talk to you but you can tell her how you feel. Then all you can do is be patient for a response and hopefully she will come around. You might even remind her of things you two did together that you really miss. Reasons why you miss spending time with her and doing things with her. Let her know she is an important person in your life.
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Okay im trying to find a few songs that are like.. based of friendship if you get what i mean?
i dont want rocky music something kinda soppy.
can anyone suggest a few please :) rates all round.
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I don't know of too many of them but I am a music lover here are a few songs I highly reccomend... One Friend by Dan Seals, Count on me from the waiting to exhale cd by Whitney Houstan and CeCe Winans and I'm your angel by Celine Dion and R Kelly. I hope you are able to hear these songs and that you really enjoy them.
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