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So 25/female
I used to think living with a guy for a roommate would be so much less drama but I was wrong.
I live with my best friend, well the guy I thought was my best guy friend. And lately he is becoming extremely rude and insulting and I don't know what to do anymore because we have another 5 months of our lease and neither of us can afford to break it.
I don't know if this started around the time I rejected his advances romantically. Well actually it was more sexual advances than romance because he doesn't do romance. And he knows I don't do casual sex so I don't know why he even tried. He knows me better than that.
But anyway there is specifically this one thing that he's doing lately that drives me absolutely insane and I've tried ignoring it, I've tried responding, I've tried just being nice and I lose every single time. What he does is everytime there's people over or even when there aren't but not as often, anytime I say something or make any sort of move or even come out of my room hell loudly joke with me asking me why I'm so angry all the time. Or I say something and he'll respond in front of everyone "don't get mad" and then him and his friends all laugh. It drives me crazy because I'm not mad not even a little bit but if I say that he'll respond "it's ok you don't have to be mad" or they'll just laugh more. If I ignore it they'll take it as "see she's pissed now you got her mad" and laugh if I smile and say something nice they'll still take it as I'm mad. I don't have an out.
I tried speaking to him about it in private and his response is the typical "I'm just messing with you Ashley relax, don't be so sensitive"
And I even tried not to care. I'm learning about Buddhism, meditation, psychology, how to not let things get to you. But when every move you make they Call you the angry girl and laugh it really ruins my day no matter how happy I am that day.
It's so stupid and immature. So I guess my question is what can I do or say to get him to shut up. Like a really good comeback or action I can take to get him to leave me alone until I can move out. It's really stressing me out.
Thanks in advance.
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I know exactly where you're coming from I hate when people accuse me of being mad when I'm not mad, that actually makes me mad. I think you should play a little prank on him. Tell him you're moving out and he has to pay for the place himself. Tell him you talked to your landlord about the problems you have with him and they decided to take you off the lease. If he is at all affected by this let him know it was a prank or not and let him know you have decided to stay but if you really have to you will leave. See if that shuts him up! Good luck!
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I used to have this best friend, and we were really close. We used to do everything together. After one year of being friends, she started to get mad at me over little things that weren't even my fault. When she was mad at me, she would trash talk me to my face so much that it made me cry and it still hurts to think about it. I would always have to apologize to her. When she ditched me for other people, I was upset to think that all of our friendship went to waste, but somewhat glad because I had never completely forgiven her. Now she acts like we are strangers and never gives me a second look. When I'm with my other friends, I talk about the good memories I had with her. Then, when I'm about to call her up and try to talk it out, I think about the bad in our friendship. Besides the trash talking to my face, it hurt me the way she treated me like a stranger. Also, it seemed like she would use me. She would always take my math hw without asking and even forced me to give her the answers to a math test (because she knows that I usually get above average grades in math). After all that, I know I shouldn't talk to her anymore especially because she encouraged me to do some bad stuff, but I miss our fun memories together. Is it worth it to let her go? (link)
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I think you should do what feels right to you and i know exactly what you're going through because i basically was going through the same thing not to long ago with someone that I thought was my "best friend" but i decided to let her go because i didn't think it was right for her to treat me the way she did that's just something friends don't do to each other constantly putting each other down and fighting over stupid things that's just not what so called "friends" should always do. Since I've let her go my life has been better and I haven't been mad and sad like I used to be just do what you think is best for you but if you don't think it's going to workout then let her go because you shouldn't waste your time on someone that doesn't appreciate you.
Good luck with your decision and by the way if you do get rid of her she will realize what she had when you're gone but it'll be too late. That's what happened with me and me now ex best friend.
Need more advice? Don't be afraid to ask me :)
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my ex and i are friends. Alot of people say he likes me although he denies it. we text hug ect and he always takes my stuff just so he can get my attention. just today i was rubbing my hand together caus they were cold so he grabbed them and placed them in his.... im not sure if this is friendship flirting or just him not knowing his boundries.
i like him but the last time we dated it was long distance and didnt last but now were at the same school.
to day i over heard his mate say "just ask her out" ROFL im not sure what to do i like him but dont want to be hurt again.
he asked me to his house this saturday to watch movies.... were still just friends.. does that mean anything
HELP thanks xoxoxox (link)
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I think maybe he's willing to go out with you again especially since it won't be long distance this time...maybe you should give it a try this time and I understand u don't want to get hurt but that's just part of life and you need to take chances...I hope I helped...good luck. :)
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alright my friends are way to over protective.
i like to hang with guys thats just me. even with my bf its hard to even hug.
like seriously they need to learn its my choices and who i hang with
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They are probably jealous because they might not have that special connection with the guys like you do...I think you should try to hook each of them up with someone to get to know or just introduce them to the guys to make them feel comfortable around them...good luck hope I helped.
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I have this friend whom i really like. I got rejected by her twice and fucked up our friendship. Throughout the summer, we've been getting really close. We are actually super close w/ each other now. Now i don't know if i should tell her how i feel. Like this time i know for sure i can take what she has to say. I really just want to see her happy! But if im not the guy, thats fine. We also have so much chemistry together. I don't even know how to bring it up to her. I'm just scared of fucking up our friendship again. Like i know she'll probably feel a little different towards me. I just wanna see her happy and not fuck up our friendship. I really need advice because this has been on my chest for the longest time. (link)
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The Best thing to do is tell her how you feel the other times you told her she was probably was a little confused to why you really like her but maybe she has thought about and if she really likes you too there is a chance between you 2. Hope this helped, best of luck!!
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my best friend kylie and i recently got into an argument, and i decided to end the friendship.
what happened was that i found out somebody was passing around naked pictures of her. like giving them to her friends and shit. she wasn't supposed to know because only a small group of kids knew about it. the person that i found out from made me promise not to tell kylie. i promised. i wasn't going to tell kylie until i thought about it. i felt like withholding that kind of information from her was being a bad best friend. better to hear it from me than some stranger, right? so i told her. i pleaded with her not to tell anyone, that it would make me look bad, like a big mouth. she promised not to tell anybody.
to make a long story short, she went straight to the source and started bitching out the kid who passed them around. the more she tried to cover up, the more i found out she was lying to me. she even directly told the kid that i told her. she GAVE him the text messages to read, but lied about it and said he took her phone.
she wouldn't even admit that she did anything wrong. she acted like i was the one being selfish.
i told everyone that i was done with her, that i didn't want to speak to her ever again. two nights later, she apologized. i didn't expect her to do that.
now, i miss her. she's apologized and i feel like she should have a second chance. but now i make myself look stupid because i kept saying how i never wanted to speak to her again. the other thing is that i don't trust her anymore. she lied to me and kept secrets. i don't know what to do.
i'm sorry this was so long. but thank you to anyone that read it and can offer advice. (link)
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Well I think you should dp what ever your heart tells you to. If it tells you, you should give her a second chance give her a second chance if it doesn't than you figure it out. I hope everything works out for the best.
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so my friends mike and drew invited me over tonight to hang out with them and this one other guy, but i'd be the only girl there. i'm afraid it'll be really awkward. like i'm friends with these guys, but idk, should i go?
15/f (link)
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I am a girl that likes to hang more aroung guys too but what I think you should do is bring a couple of your girlfriends cause being the only girl anywhere can be dangerous.
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My best guy friend who I've known for three years is suddenly not talking to me.
he won't look at me or even talk to me. In the hallways when we walk near each other he'll look the other way and pretend like I was never there. It never use to be like this he's not those type of boys either he's really respectfull and diffrent I'd had to really screw him over for him to be doing this but that's just it ! I haven't done anything to upset him the last time we talked was on tuesday he said hi to me like we always do and then wednesday he started avoiding me and its been like this ever since I'm really confused I don't want to loose a good friend . (link)
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Just try telling him how you feel and ask him why he been avoiding you.
I wish you the best of luck!!
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