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im in 12th grade. and in school, i talk to the hockey boys alot :) i dont know why but im just attracted to them. well i have these two boys nick and ben in two of my classes. they both have girlfriends. in our third hour nicks girlfriend is in our class with us but i dont really talk to them in there but our last hour they are always yelling my last name and stuff. and like today they were like COME HERE! and then i was like what and bens like i have to ask you something. and i was like what? and hes like will you go out with me and i just start laughing and hes like no im serious im like yeah thats why your going out with your girlfriend. and hes like no i dumped her. i know he was joking but then nick is like well if he wasnt going out with her would you go out with him? i probably would but i was like no! hahaha and then its freezing in that class, and i asked nick if i could wear his hockey jacket during class and ben is like noo dont let her she makes me want to kill myself because she wont go out with me. like jokingly. but then he gave it to me and ben walked away and i took his pencil back to my "lab table" with me and sat down. well all of a sudden i hear ben go, where is my pencil!! and then, he comes up from behind me and wraps his arms around me and takes me off of my seat. and when we line up at the door at the end of class and talk, ben was just staring at me. and i was like what are you doing! and i pushed his face the other way. and when us three were walking they were like hey hold hands with me, and i was in the middle and bens like i'll take front and you take back nick and they start laughing. they are always like you going to hangout with us today? and im like ummm no! because i always think they're joking around. i never know when they are being totally serious and i dont want to make a fool of myself...but i dont want to make them think i dont like them you know.

do you think they are serious about anything they say or do!?


thanks so much

It honestly sounds like at least one of them is serious. The question you have to ask yourself is: are they naturally flirty, and do they flirt with other girls like they do with you. If you like them, and want to know if one of them are serious, one day, try taking to joke farther. Play along with them, and see how far you guys will get. If they are just joking, by the time you take the joke farther, they will let you know (verbally or by expression) whether they are joking. If they get serious, or take the joke even farther, then I think at least ben is serious. Then again, maybe they are just attracted to you, and like flirting. But dont push them away. Play along, and see where it takes you.

hope i helped

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I have a big problem wit my best friend and my mom. My mom hates her. Shes a good person she just does bad stuff like smoke drink fight ect.But also we have kind of split apart a little because she gets so jealous of everyone im with.. my mom doesn want me hanging out with her neither does my boyfriend. but i dunno what to do. i feel bad. should i just lie to my mom and tell her im going out somewhere else when im hanging out with her. what should i do? Also its getting really she gets so mad at me when i hang out with my bf she is like u never have time for me is always him. it annoying me now. I love my boyfriend and i want to spend time with him. pleasee helppp me.

Well, right now, it seems like she is not the best person to be friends with, and it seems like she is bringing you down mentally and literally. But she is still your friend. Now, your mother and your boyfriend is against it, but since she is yur friend maybe you shud try to make it work first. Talk to her, it might be hard, but if her friendship is really worth it, then its worth sitting her down and talking to her about her actions towrd you, and her actions that affect her as a person as well. Make sure she understands that her actions are jeapordizing your friendship with her. If she values you enough as a friend she shud make sum changes. Also, for her, u, and ure boyfriends sake, let her express to you clearly why it is that she doesnt really like when u spend time with ure boyfriend. Then maybe a compromise could be formed, or you guys can double date. I hope I helped. If she cant understand, that you are trying to make it work, then she is not worth ure prcious time or friendship, and slowly draw yourlself away from her.

Good luck

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Okay! I am a really nice person who likes to hug people and stuff.So there are these kids with disabilities who attend our school and I love to death because they're nice.I always hug them and stuff.well, i didn't expect for them to take it as a lead on for something more.Well, this boy named (let's say)Louie like me.I don't like him and it isn't because of his disability-I am not attracted to him at all!There are lots of boys I am not attracted too.Plus I don't want a relationship, I need to focus on school.However I don't want him to think I am denying him because of his disability.So what can I say to him that I don't like him in that way without making it seem like it's the disability?I need help!

ALrighty. Im glad that it is not because of his disability.Believe me I know what your going through, I am a hugging person too. SO, the key to this is frienship. Tell him that he is a very good freind, and that moving feelings up, might alter somethings in the freindship to a point of no return. And that he is too good of a freind to go farther. Remember friendship. Be nice, genuine, and sincere about it!

Hope I helped

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34/f
I have a friend who is divorcing her husband. We became friends through church, while the two were still together. They have two children together who are my child's closest friends.

Before they separated, 'Renee' showed me a lot of stuff, asking what she should do. They included e-mails her husband, 'Sam,' had sent on their joint computer, trying to entice women from other states to come have sex with him. He wrote
very detailed, intimate fantasies and sent naked pictures of himself. This wasn't the first time.

Back to the story, they are separated, but they share the custody of their girls. Because our girls are friends, I still see Sam occasionally.
When I do, he makes icky comments and does things like taking pictures of me without asking. I feel uncomfortable around him. Mike (my hubby) can't stand him either. The most explicit thing he's ever said to me, I think, is asking, in regards to the movie The Secretary, which I told him I had never seen, whether I was "into that sort of thing." It's a movie about an S&M relationship between a boss and his secretary.

He often e-mails, calls, or mentions when we see him (last was Christmas) that he wants to get together with us sometime when he has the girls. He suggests dinner at his house or outings to
the science museum, etc. We always politely decline. Either we have other plans or we're not able to commit to a date. He keeps trying. They've been separated for 9 months now and we've been trying to avoid him longer than that.

So, do you think we're going to need to tell this dude to buzz off in no uncertain terms? I don't want to make it Renee's problem. She has enough on her mind. I don't want to be mean, but he should know that I see her probably every week
and we get the girls together about every 2 weeks. We never invite him along. What do you think? Would it be less cruel to explain to Sam that I'm Renee's friend and don't wish to hang out with him? Think he'll get the hint eventually?

I think that so far you are doing the right thing by not hanging with him, and letting your husband know. But with you just declining invitations, and himstill asking you means that he is persistent. I think that you should set boundaries. Let him know that you are very good friends with Renee, then tell him you can not go out unless you are with your whole family, and he agrees to stop being inappropriate. Let him know that you are serious.

Hope that helped

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I used to be best friends with this girl.Then i started to like her and all was going well in our relationship.Then stuff happended and we had a big fight.Its been months since then i just want to be friends with her. I stopped liking her. a week or two ago i said sorry and we both "forgave" each other and all seemed very well. days later, i talked to her and she started shutting me down.
What more can I do to be friends with this person again?Do I just leave her alone?

No Dont leave her alone she is obviously a special person that you care about. Call her have a long conversation...and be consistent. Just remember if you have other best friends especially if they are girls...dont compromise their place with you or whether or not you talk to them ...just to befriend this other girl ..k

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im going in to my sophmore year and we got our schedules yesterday. last year i got in a big fight w/ one of my best guy friends, he blocked me on aim and swore hed never speak to me again (the fight was over something stupid that makes absolutely no sense so im not really mad at him) anyways, i was talking to some of my friends and they told me that hes in my chemestry class. what do i do? i have about 3 other friends that i kno of in that class so its not like ill be forced to speak to him but do you think i should say anything to him? or just let him stay mad at me. i hate that we arent talking weve known each other since 6th grade! thanks so much

HAving a best guy friend is a special thing, so be glad u have a class with him...make things right..do whateva it takes, throwin a friendship awa shouldnt be that easy, sit next to him

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