There's this girl that I dated almost before kind of. She really likes me but I dont like her. I really like this other girl. Im not sure if she likes me though. I keep thinking about her though. Yet this all is confusing but I told both of them that I was gay. Which I thought I was for along time.Yet now I think that I really like the girl. I dont know even know what to say to either of them. What do you think I should say to both of them? I really need some advice.
Oh god...I've been there! I dated a guy who swore he was gay..well..he wasn't when I got through with him. Hah! Okay, hunnie, you shouldn't have lied to them but to get out of it, all you have to say is "Yeah...I'm gay...but I'm beginning to question it because I'm crushing on you big time." Or something along the lines of questioning you gay status because of her. Don't be shy...We're just girls. We won't eat your soul...well..They won't. I will.
*Lying about being gay...NOT A GOOD IDEA*
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My ex-best friend Hana and I used to be really close, but ever since she went down to visit her cousin (who is pretty slutty herself) she's been acting like the only thing that matters in the world is how good she looks. It was really starting to piss me off, so I told her. She blew it off like it was nothing, which made me angrier. So, now she's started hanging out with two other girls that are known as sluts at our school, and they've really been annoying me. She pretty much dropped me for them, which made me sad. Now since she's found out that her only friends are the other two sluts, she's been trying to be friends with me again. I don't know if I should accept her friendship or not because it really made me angry how she dropped me like that. She hasn't even said sorry... Now since she's been hanging out with those two girls, I haven't talked to her at all. It really makes me sad that we're not friends anymore because we used to be able to tell eachother anything. I've made new friends, but in a way I miss my old one. If you have any advice for me then that would be awesome! Thanks
Look, babe. You've got to make a choice. But before I tell you your options...I'm going to tell you that she will NEVER be the same way again. No matter how hard or how deeply you want it, she'll never go back to the way she was before. There will always be something different about her. Now, you're options are: Ditch her and find some new friends, or take her back and explain how you feel to her about the way she's been acting. See...She thinks she's doing nothing wrong. Open her eyes. You're gonna hurt her by doing that...but later, she'll be happier that you did IF she changes her ways. Make her understand that what she's doing is horribly dangerous. Show her pictures of herpes, genital warts, all of them. Show her that if she keeps on this path, she's going to end up like that. EVEN if she protects herself. Only 99% effective against HIV and Pregnancy, but not even close to protecting her from Herpes, Syphilis, or Genital Warts.
Take care, love, and let me know what you do.
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ive lost my 2 best frends this week and its all my fult, i had a bad week n i thort i was going 2 lose them, so i lied 2 them 2 fin dout how they feel, they found out and now they hate me, i dont no wat 2 do i need them mor then n e thing n there more important 2 me then life itself, they wont here me out , can u plz plz help me, i cant live without the 2 ov them can u plz email me on JLEA_8701@hotmail.com or leaj@ridgewood.dudley.gov.uk thnx 4 listenin J
Listen, J. You seem to know what you did was wrong. So, I won't lecture you on lying. What exactly did you lie about anyways? If it had to do with some guy, phew, you'll get off easily. Now if it's something else, you may have a big problem. What you need to do is somehow get them into a room and lock the doors so they can't get out. Be in there with them and tell them that they aren't leaving until you talk it out. Tell them why you did it and let them tell you why they are angry with you. Settle on a good conclusion. Don't be all upset if they tell you they dun wanna be your friends. You'll find someone else.
*Friends will always be there unless you piss them off*
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Hi, I'm new at this. Well lets see, this Christmas my parents found out that one of my best friends was headed down the wrong road. She was telling people that she was having sex with my other best friend who is a guy. Well now we both don't talk to her and so she is saying that me and my guy friend Matt are sleeping together. Last week we did stuff that I wish we hadn't and now it feels weird. He's Bi and has a boyfriend now, and I think that i may like him. I told him, and he likes me too. Well my problem is that he says he thinks i'm the one, but he doesn't want to act on it now. He asked me if someday i would marry him, but i want to go out with him now, not later. He tells me all about his boyfriend and i don't think i can take much more of it. I don't want to end the friendship, but how can i tell him that i hate the fact that he has a boyfriend, and not a girlfriend {me}.???
Well...it sounds like this guy doesn't really knows what he wants. He is telling you no because he has no idea what he wants. Wait a while and let him come to you. You can write him a letter and tell him what you think he needs to know about you. But other than that, go out and have a life of your own. Don't think that just because he is not into you, doesn't mean you can't get a boytoy yourself. And don't drop the boy your seeing when he says he's ready for you. Make him wait a while before he gets you.
*Teasing is a natural occurence*
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One of my friends, Lizzy, is always talking about her friend, Kate. It didn't bother me until I realized how much Kate hates me. Kate once went on Lizzy's screenname on AIM and started saying "I hate you!!" and stuff like that. When I told Lizzy, she said, "I'm going to kill Kate, I am so mad at her!" but they are still best friends. Also, Lizzy talks about all this stuff she hates and when I do, she says its not that bad. And she is always saying blondes are dumb, which they truely aren't and it bothers me to hear people say that. But when I told her it bothered me she just said "Its only a joke." K, so today I said, "wow, Mrs. F really acted like a cheerleader today!" and she said "most cheerleaders aren't ditzy."
K, she said blonde jokes as a joke, I realize it...so when I say the cheerleader thing as a joke, why should she get all mad? She's not a cheerleader, but I am a blonde. blondes aren't dumb. I told her that!
PLEASE HELP ME! WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER WHEN I TALK TO HER??????
Just stop talking to her. If she asks why you stopped, tell her the truth. She needs to know that you don't like the way she's treating you and maybe that'll prevent her from doing it again.
*Friends can hurt you*
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what does seduce mean?
It means to charm into having sex or doing sexual things for someone.
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My friend is really annoying. She's always complaining about everything. Her grandma spoils her rotten, so I know her life is not that bad. I want to tell her o shut up, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I do?
Just sit down and talk to her. Be nice and say something like, "I think you need to stop complaining about everything. Your grandmother treats you good and you have everythign you want. So instead of complaining, lets go down to the [homeless center, Old peoples' place, etc.] and help the less fortunete."
So be gentle.
*Annoying people...sometimes you wanna shoot them*
Abby
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