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I'll answer question on pretty much anything, though as I'm studying psychology and from past experience, I'm best at answering questions about love life, mental illness as well as giving career advice or job advice. I am also really into fashion and love these types of questions!. Oh and any pet help...

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Should I wait to get my books until after the first day of classes or should I go ahead and get them? My parents say that I should wait, but I'm not really liking the idea of walking into class the first day unprepared.Will the books be sold out if I wait to buy my books?

You should wait. The books wont be sold out, as Amazon always replenish stocks.
People may tell you not to wait, but I know from experience-I'm 18.
If you don't know EXACTLY what syllabus you're on, then wait else it'd be a waste of money.
For example some syllabuses come with different editions and specifications, and its next to impossible to know what your teacher has decided before you start college.
Its rare people do this aswell, look around on the first day and everyone will also be waiting.
I admire you for wanting to be organised though, but just by the staple items you are 100% sure you'll need, pens, books etc. This is an end of August job, enjoy your holiday for now!

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I don't have any skills or interests that are obvious that I would like to develop. I have spoken to the guidance councillor at a local college who told me I needed to know what I wanted to do before she could tell me how to achieve it. Not much help really. There is a psychologist that can do a heap of tests and stuff to determine my aptitudes but she costs about $400 and it is way too much money for me at this time. Aptitude tests don't really hep me either and those tests deigned to tell people what carriers best suit them always come back with strange results that are always different. Any advice on how to determine where my strengths are would be helpful, thanks.

I'm going to Uni this year, and I would suggest if you don't have an interests to go for a course that leads to a job. Put it this way, many history graduates struggle to get a job. Do something with real world work experience-like a degree in HR (office work). If you do this then you'll get a job because they'll always need admin.

I live in England, so maybe this is true for America aswell,but I'm telling you YOU WONT GET INTO UNI IF YOU HAVE NO INTERESTS/HOBBIES. No offense, but Uni's want interesting people. I think you need to get a hobby. Try something like dance/sports/writing/Guides until you find something you love,and that could give you career goals aswell.

Top tip would be to do something you like but also make sure it leads to a job-after all that is the point of going to Uni.

If you really cant choose, don't waste students/leturers time when you don't want to be there. You don't HAVE to go to uni. Why not get a job and work your way up :)

Whichever you choose,good luck :)

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So I am a junior in high school but I feel really unprepared for senior year, when college apps start. My dream school is any Ivy League school in the East because I wanna be away from home, but I think I have a less likely chance of getting admitted because I have bad grades and I'm below the GPA average (I have a 3.0). I failed my SAT, which makes me frustrated and I hate the Critical Reading section, but I'm retaking again in February (hoping I get at least a 2100).
Any suggestions to help so I can make my college apps look "better" when it is my turn to apply? And I need leadership, so any suggestions on that?

Hi,

I'm form England, but I'm guessing you're talking about university?

If not ignore this!

So I have just applied to uni as well, and here are my top tips to make your application stand out:
1) For the course you want to do, try to volunteer in that field of work, if you arn't doing already.
2) Try to show an interest in your course, by doing extra curricular work like blogging about it or reading about it.
3) Centaintly in Britain, it was announced that the two things uni's think students lack is cultural awareness and independance. Why not do some charity work? That's what I did and it worked. Also, it'll make you stand out, because not many kids do charity work as it doesn't pay. But that's what you need to do if it means you stand out!

As for your leadership question, try Girl Guides. You don't HAVE to be a guide to lead, but then again you can't just swan in and ask to lead.
If you ask to volunteer at your local centre, even if it's just making tea for a few weeks untill you fit in, eventually you'll be running meetings and this will make you stand out. It's also a great way to gain new frineds.

The key for all these courses to be honest is experience, plus abit of effort. If you want the amazing CV or application, then your gonna have to really put some effort it!

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Hi !
So I am a currently finishing up my last year in high school and I am now in the process of signing up for universities. I've already signed up for a university near my house, but I am also starting to consider applying to universities outside of my hometown . I've already brought up this topic to my mom, but from what I can already tell, she's not that very fond of the idea. I don't know what to do .. Because the thing is, whats holding me back is that I'd be leaving my only mom at home, my family the place that I grew up in ,and plus the fact that I could be leaving my old ways and comfort of my moms support is really hard to let go. but then there also a part of me that wants to experience the world and try to live and grow independently as well. Should I apply for schools outside of my hometown or not ? Do u think its a good idea ?
Should I just do my undergraduates at a far university and then come back to do my graduate /proffesional school and residency at home ? Vice versa ? Or should I just go full out and do all of university away from home and then go back home for my actual career ? Cause I think I still want to live in my hometown in the future ! Please help !

Hey!
I'm from England and am applying to uni myself.

My mum has always 'wrapped me in cotton wool', so I really want to use university as the opportunity to become independant, so my advice is you should aswell. Also, I have a twin sister so want to have a seperate life from her.

I plan on being a train journey of an hour to two hours away-so like I can still see my mum at weekends, but I'm far enough to start afresh and live by my own rules.

And about the career bit, nowadays it depends where you can get a job-if you can get a job you want near where you live currently then that's great, though I'm sure your mum will understand (like mine) that to get a job you're qualified to do, you may have to travel. Theres nothing to stop you living where you live now later on, but personally you should put career before that kind of thing for now-focus on getting that job and then where you'd like to live!

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Hey, 17, female. I am moving into college 3 days after my 18th birthday. I'm the baby of my group of friends as I am the last one to start college. So, this will be my freshman year. I like my style now, crop tops and high low hemlines. As I do want my style to somewhat be more sophisticated in some aspects for class, I want a more sexy style as well for weekends in town with friends or (no judgments, many college students will at least once) party. I know you guys do not know my wardrobe and everything that I own but I would appreciate any type of clothing such as stated above or how to alter the clothing I already have to be more sophisticated and sexy. Such as, blazers, I have a few of those to throw on top of a blouse for a more mature look for class sometimes, when I'm feeling really classy, haha. Thanks for your time and answers.

Hey!
I'm actually a young 17 and have recently found a new look for myself as I look about 15!

Firstly...I never reveal too much body in summer. If I'm wearing a crop top-I'll not show much of my legs and wear a flattering long skirt. Similarily if I'm wearing shorts I'll wear a long floaty blouse. Doing this I find makes me look more sophisticated, as I guess you're not being like a typical teen by putting yourself out their to impress guys.

I'll work through various items of clothing here then:

Top half:
Blazers (as you know) make you look mature.

Fitted cardigans (normally cardigans are for older people but if their fitted to your body shape they look feminine and flattering.

Fitted long sleeve tops in plain colours such a white or cream with a scarf look sensible

In terms of for weekends, I'dwear a simply cut sparkly sequinned crop top, as its sensibly cut but you still look ready to party

Bottom half:

Invest in some really well cut jeans to suit whatever body type you have, and I tend to not follow fashions of coloured jeans as this can make me look younger.

Knee length skirts are flattering but not too much-the key is to not reveal too much flesh

Also, fitted, sandy coloured trousers that are the same size down the leg as peddle pushers look more mature.

Overall-I'd just say 1)Dont reveal too much flesh b)Dont follow all the fashions of the high street shops as thats what younger teens do c)Choose stuff to suit your body shape d) Dont worry too much about what you look like in class-most people dont remember one evening what their class mate wore to class 10 days ago!

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What degree should I go for? I love video games and computers, but I've never been good at it.

I suppose you mean degree as in study a subject to degree level?

You need to pick something you like, not nessesarily that you're good at though this obviously helps.
Also consider what career you want to take. Its all very well people saying I want to be this or that, but if there's never any vacancies in that sector of work then you need to be realistic and consider what has a future for you. Good luck :)

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I'm not from north america. That's for starters. I really wan't to be succesful in college and have a good life. But I don't know what I should study that I would like but that could also help me in economy. I LOVE to write and draw and was thinking about journalism but I like it better in English. Where I'm from universities don't cost as much as in U.S. but there is nothing that has to do with what I like AND in English. I'm 16 but tons of people keep telling me that I need to choose from now and I know they are right. It also scares me going to college and ending up miserable.

Hey!
I'm from England-so I'm guessing because fees here are about to become soo expensive you're not?

And I'm also 16, and also (not making this up) I want to be a journalist.
Firstly, you need to do something you love. Because then you'll be able to really progress in you're career, and you'll be motivated at least enough to get you out of bed in the morning.

Why don't you check out for journalism degrees? If not, then you could always do an english degree as thats what you're good at, and maybe even a postgraduate degree somewhere else in journalism?

But what I've done is I've already gained work experience even just for a week in a public relations department with the local council writing press releases. So this could help.

Alot of the time, universities and employers don't want a bore or a know it all. They want someone who has a bit of an edge and stands out.

So I'd suggest you write articles and send them into newspapers and trade magazines. You're going to get a few no's at first, but then the yes will eventually come. And this shows you have a passion for the subject and stand out from people that are only able to perform well in exams but have no redeeming qualities.

So to reap, its you're choice what degree you do, but I'd make sure (like me) that you do extra pieces of writing and gain recognition for this right now, constantly, as it'll show you've got that pasion for the subject most employers want.

Good luck :)

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