Greetings people! Name's Greg, I'm 27 years old and a very proud member of the United States AirForce. I am currently stationed at Peterson AFB here in Colorado Springs, CO. but originally from Mississippi. I can offer fantastic advice on most any subject, but I'm particularly good with relationships (in any capacity), cooking, and social settings. Any questions are welcomed!
E-mail: greg.yarbrough@peterson.af.mil
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I am almost positive that one of my professors is changing our answers on tests so that we get better grades. Let me start from the beginning....
After the class took the midterm exam, I was looking over my answers and I noticed that some of the writing was kind of funny. I thought, geez I must have been really tired when I took this test, and I let it go. Then, some of the other people in the class started whispering about it. Apparently someone had changed some of our answers to the correct answers before the tests had been graded! We all assumed that a student aid or graduate student had done it.
What's the problem then you might ask. I got a better grade so I shouldn't complain, right? Well, I try my best to be a good person and the fact that that had happened made me feel sooo guilty. It stressed me out to no end. I don't need to get a great grade in the class. With the corrections my score had been boosed from about a 70 to a 90. I didn't need the extra points. All I have to do is pass the course.
I didn't want to be the tattle tale and ruin everyone's day by possibly making the entire class take the midterm over again, but I couldn't deal with the dishonesty I was feeling. Later in that day I went to talk to the professor about what had happened. I liked her and I thought that telling her was the right thing to do. She seemed very understanding and told me to just keep working hard and that she would take care of it. I felt so good after I did it and knew that it had been the right choice. Well, nothing was done about it and I began to wonder.
We took another test and when I was handed my test back I got a "Great job!". When I noticed that the same thing had happened I almost cried. Nobody else in the class seems to mind, but it is tearing me apart. Now everyone is almost positive that it is the professor that is doing it. It's almost the end of the semester and I worry now that we'll all have to take the whole course over again. I can't afford to do that! I have just enough time to fit all the classes in that I need to graduate.
I think I know the reason why she does it (if she does). She isn't allowed to make her own tests or assignments for us. It has to be the same for everyone that is taking the class. The head of her department makes everything and she is often confused on what to teach us and what to tell us to study. I think that this is terrible and that a professor should be able to teach the way they want. Boosting our grades like she does (or allowing it to happen) is her way of giving us a curve.
It makes sense and it seems like a good thing, but if it's supposed to be the same for everyone taking the class, then my class is getting a very unfair advantage! Yeah, there needs to be some change, but it should be done in an honest way! There are so many better ways to have handled that. I believe that the professor is retiring after this semester so I don't think it would affect much in her life if she was found out.
Should I tell? I think I probably will anyway. I don't want to have to live with this for the rest of my life. If I do, who should I go through? The head of the department or someone higher in the college? She doesn't let us keep the tests and I have a feeling that if she were being investigaed for this that they would mysteriously go missing. With no proof, can anything really be done?
I give a lot of advice, but now I need some myself. I have no idea how I would answer this question if it were asked by someone else. Am I doing the right thing? I doubt anyone has gone through something similar to this and can offer an experience based answer. I shouldn't have to deal with this, I'm a student! I should be the one that's cheating if anybody! HELP!!
~sizzlinmandolin, (20/f) (link)
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Dear sizzlinmandolin,
May I give you congrats on your honesty, it's very refreshing. I'll be straight hun, I don't quite know how to respond to this but I'll try and help as much as possible. Morality issues within a college environment need to be elevated up the hierarchy to the appropriate personnel, and this is a very touchy subject because it deals with real people's (the students) futures. I'm 27, graduated college and been in the real world, and I've seen people's careers and lives been destroyed by situations such as this. If it were me, I would keep quiet and let the woman retire in peace. However because it's affecting you emotionally, I think you should confront your professor once more, but be more stern and pro-active. Don't elevate this up the chain just yet; force an answer out of her, albeit very professionally and politely, and maybe warn her that you're willing to take this up the heirarchy if necessary. Best of luck to you.
Flannl_bxrs
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I recently was diagnosed with clinical depression.
I've had depression for years, but never sought out help for it.
I just started college in September, but things just kept getting worse for me.
I found a counselor over here on campus and she thought that my idea of going back home and coming back next year would be a great idea for me.
I could get used to anti-depressants (which I haven't been able to start yet, I don't have a doctor over here) and also so I could work out my problems.
My big problem is that I don't feel like I am being supported by anyone but my boyfriend and my 3 best friends.
My mom, dad and sister keep saying like a broken record that they want me to stay over here (I go to Central Washington University in Ellensburg, WA, but I live in Auburn normally)
I already made the plans a while ago that I am coming back over there, and that I am going to go to a community college and not feel so guilty about spending my dad's money while I am confused and unsure of what I want to do with my life.
They just don't understand that the more I am over here, the worse I feel.
I feel horrible about myself, I feel horrible because my dad keeps complaining about how much money he spends on each of us kids, and that I just can't handle it over here right now.
I've explained to them all many times why I want to come back and why I am coming back, but it's like it goes in one ear and out the next.
I feel like I need to go out and live on my own because they all make me feel so horrible about leaving here that I just get worse in my depression but I don't have a job yet, and to get over there, I have to get a ride from one of them because I was in a car accident a short while ago so I don't have a car.
I am so tired of feeling bad but they don't hear me.
Any advice on what I should do?
Thank you all ahead of time. (link)
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You poor thing! One of my best friends from college suffered from clinical depression as well. Your support system is obviously with your boyfriend and your best friends, so rely heavily on them. I would also have to disagree with your councellor, if you "take a year off" of school it's more than likely the case that you won't go back. Spend time with people that you enjoy being around, take up a random cool class and a couple of fun hobbies (I find that cooking is a huge stress reliever) and start to enjoy life. You're in college, the best years of your life! Maybe consider a sorority? When I was in a fraternity, my problems were their problems. Friends are your best safety net. If you need a job, consider being a waitress or bartender. Normally those positions have flexible hours and really good money. Best of luck to you!
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