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ok i dont know how to word this but i will give an example like today i got some headphones from around the house to see which would have the music come out the loudest from my ipod and like i took these pair of headphones from our family room and my dad started yelling at me saying im not supposed to leave the room with the head phones when i didnt and and so he was like i thought i told u to put them back when he never did so i yelled back at him so he came like running over to me and like almost broke my finger and he said if i did it again he would beat the $h!t out of me and a couple of times he has hit me and i dont know what i should do cause my mom never believes me when i tell her this and when he hits me it never leaves any bruises and he says if he goes to jail for beating me at least he would have found the enjoyment in it

i sujest taking his ass to court for hitting you. what he does is child abuse and he had no right doing that. i've never bin in your shouse but my dad is an alcoholic so i know what its like to fear him hitting me. just think to your self, are they really good parents if your mom doesnt beleave you and your dad hits you. you could aways get your self put into a phaster home. it may help. if you need someone to talk to i sujest e-mailing my friend joe at salem_22_@hotmail.com

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See I have this really awsome Dad. But I stopped seing him because him and my mom got in a fight. Like not physical. But like swearing. Then that went to court and I am not allowed to see him anymore. I havnt seen him in 5 years. And all my friends at school know him and get to see him and are always talking about how cool he is and I know he is cool but I miss him reallllyyy bad. And I cant wait until I am 18 to see him but I have to. Every night I cry and cry. What do I do? What do I do to stop being depressed. Everyone at school calls me bad names and a girl even sprained my pinky but the teachers dont really care. They just gave her lunch detention for one day. All my friends are like get over it. Dont care what people say. But ever since I strted public school (since 5th grade) people have been treating me like crap every day and it doesnt stop. Its not just the normal name calling, its worse and it has scarred me. I cant take it anymore. Its so annoying and I am a sensitive person but I act tough and just cry when I get home. I have tried to do something about it but they just blame it on me when I am kind to them even when their mean to me. I even got suspended once for no reasen. Well, the person blamed somthing on me and i got suspened for 4 days (in school suspension) plus week of detention. I dont know what to do. Plus my mom verbally fights with me a lot. I dont feel safe anywhere. What do I do? My mom even called me a loser and I suck and said my friends are losers and no1 likes me? HELP!I am a girl and I am 12. HELLLLLPPPPP!

who cares what the chourt says if you wanna see your fauther you have the right. like what the hell girl he is your flesh in blood just see him in secret and im sure the chourt will never find out. and with the name teasing thing i know what you go through. people through rocks at me from my old school. and i've bin teased all my life. if you ever need some one to talk to just e-mail me salem_22_@hotmail.com. there is really nothing you can do. but if you record your mom and the way she yells at you. then you can show the court that and i think they might let you live with your dad.

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okay. i need to talk to someone and none of my friends can really help. my parents are divorced and i dont see my dad very often. i live with my mother who is an alcoholic and gets pissed off easliy. today my brother and mom got into a huge fight. she is now gone, i mean she just left. i called her and she said that she just needed to be alone. she hasnt returned yet, and i dont know what to do. i am only 14 and my brother 11. she is most likely going to come home incredibly drunk and when she is drunk life just sucks... i dont know what to do anymore because i am just sick of it. this isnt the first time she has just left......

i know what its like to have an alcoholic parent. exsept its my dad. hes bad enogh to come home drunk on my birthday. if you need someone to talk to just e-mail me at salem_22_@hotmail.com dont be shy i'll be there to talk. I'm online everyday just about.

im 14/f
my name is joe

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ok i wrote before about my mums friend and everything how he wanted me to stay at his house and stuff well now he said to my mum if only he was 20 years younger he would go out with me. My mum got very angry at him and shouted at him for saying this! To be honest with you i don't know what to think. He keeps telling my mum i am so lovely,he asks me to come to his house and stay there. He is in his 30s and i am 17! and recently he has been phoneing my mum more since he met me! is he a pedo? i don't know what to do i am becoming quite scared of him.please advice me. Thanx

what you should do first of all is not start living with that guy. you're only 17 and him being like 30 that is really sick. if he trys anything you have the law on your side you're still minor and that fact that he fells this way about is elegal and well thats only if he acts apon it. dont be like on of thoes big breasted blonds living with an old guy for the money. even though i dont know why he would as you to live with him. he must be one sick old man.

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well im 14 and my parents got divorced a few years ago and my dad married this person i hate! she is seriously like the wicked step mother and it blows. She always talks bad about my mom too and my mom is the sweetest person in the world. How can i tell her to shut the hell up without getting grounded forever. help! P.S. sorry its so long!

heres a few things that might work.
1. leave a skate bord infront of the stairs(if you got stairs at your dads place)
2.if look in her room when shes gone out and find some emaracing stuff like sexy gross photos, sex toys, maybe find the granny pantys that she weres. and when you find that stuff. tie it to a rope/ strong sting and nail it to the out side of her window.
3.heres a good one if you have a fire pit or your just a fire bug. burn her personal stuff like old love letters or what ever you can think of.
4.call her names behind her back(like slut, vergin no more) make sure she hears it.
5.fine out the littlest things that'll bug her and do them all you can and act inectent. If she starts yelling at you for it then your dad will think she's insane.

WARNING: IF YOU ARE GOING TO DO THIS STUFF MAKE SURE YOU DONT GET COUGHT

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Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day!

just maybe if your old enough get a job and give them the money

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My husband has smoked for years...35 to be exact. We have been married for 30 years. He is slim, but not very healthy, I think. He almost quit just recently and I was so proud of him and told everyone that I was. He was down to about one cigarette a day. I feel like garbage when he smokes because he does it in the house, car, whatever. It makes me feel like a smoker myself. I feel that if I wanted to smoke, I would have kept it up in college, so you see, I know what it is like to be a smoker, but not what it's like to be a non-smoker, even though I don't smoke. I am sorry this sounds bitter. I am mad. Tell me what to do. I am ready to move out. We have a great marriage, but I don't want to feel crappy anymore because of someone else's vice. He refuses to go outside to smoke.

Chanon

I have a father that does the same. he smokes around me even though he knows that I have a hard time breathing. I have no clue what you can do but here are somethings that help for me to get my dad to stop smoking.

1. I ask him... do you really wanna kill me with that death stick your smoking.
2. I also tell him... your not the only one your killing with that cig.
3. I flush his cigs down the toilet.
4. throw them into the rain if its raining out.
5. I ask him... dont you wanna see how life is with out smoke in your face and your lungs being out of breath.
6. I also show him the disterbing pictures of what smokers lungs, heart and brain.
I really hope I helped. just try these out.

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My dad died when I was ten and I acted wierd. I didn't cry very much at all. I only cried once or twice. Now I'm 13 and I don't cry about it still. It makes me feel guilty, and I don't know why I can't cry. It also makes me mad because everybody thinks I'm over it, but I'm really not. The last time I cryed about it was last night. But the wierd thing is, is about a month ago I whent to these family riunons, and just started crying for no reason. So here is my question: Am I a freak because I don't cry, and how can I make it so that I don't have the sudden outbursts? Can you help?

yes i can help. I know what its like to cry out of no where. It's because you hide pain that you only know is there sometimes. Your not a freak bacause you don't cry over his death. I only cried once over my grandma's death and well I never went to her funeral. Maybe it would be a good idea if you serch your mind for some reason to have hatered agenst your dad. That could be the reason that you don't cry all the time. Or it could be in your personality to show your pain in a diffrent way.

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