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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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Wow...The total sacrifice should not be on you alone. Is it possible for you and your husband to compromise? Seems like being too close will poison your kids and strike resentment in you which would poison your marriage. Maybe move CLOSER, but not in the same town? Perhaps by making it a bit inconvenient for your family to visit, may make their influence less threatening.
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I am a 35 yr old Christian with Christian parents and wish to help my parents financially.My Mom has no job experience, other trying to be an Avon lady when I was a kid, got chased by a Doberman and quit. She's a mother that's all she knows how to do. My parents have raisied 6 children and 1 grandchild, he is a jr in high school. My Dad receives a very small disability check and now a little social security from a work related injury 10yrs ago and forced into early retirement (which is all gone now) He has had several back surgeries and still not in real good physical shape. He has to have cortizone shots all the time just to unstiffen. For extra income he mows lawns in his neighborhood, but it is just killing him. He's stubborn. But now that has slowed down due to the season change and honestly I'm not sure that next spring he will be able to do it anymore. My nephew, that my parents are raising, needed braces, has an upcoming school band trip in February..etc, etc, etc. For the first time, my Mom called us all and said no Christmas this year, we can't afford it! That's ok it's time we (my 4 sisters and 1 brother) take on the Christmas event. I am about to receive a $10,000 commisson check thru work (biggest yet-and rare)...how and how much should I give them? They will take it eventually (after refusing due to pride) but how do I go about presenting it to them without making them feel bad, or depressing my Dad for not being able to provide like he always has. My Dad can't get life insurance due to medical problems and I know they have not planned for the future (life insurance, death,etc.). Since there are so many of us kids, they were never able to set back $. Honestly, I am the only child that can afford to do this for them, I just want to do it right and find a way to make sure they are financially comfortable. Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
Denise in Texas (link)
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Wow! I believe it's no coinsidence that you suddenly have money to be able to do this. It's 100 percent biblical to take care of your parents. The question is how.
As I read your situation, the first thing that came to my mind is "be an angel". If pride is standing in their way, it will be difficult to just hand them the money. God will have to break that in them. But being an angel would take you out of the equation. If no one knows about it, you could be a servant that is laying up treasure in heaven. How awesome! Little things are the best. For instance, pay their utility bills ahead of time so when they get the bills, there's no balance. Or pay the dental bill in secret and by money order. Or leave groceries on the door step. The creativity is endless.
I'm sure they will mention the angelic miracles, you can then say, "The Lord is obviously providing."
What a mission you have been given. Take it very seriously and pray every step of the way. The Lord will lead you into how much should be given. You must have been faithful in many small things to have been given this responsibility. Continue to be faithful. What a wonderful ministry!
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hello, i am 13 years old, female, my name is Kayla I feel like I cause trouble for every one that I know. I don't like it. And I don't mean to. But I guess I do and i'm sitting here crying because I do and i'm tired of it! Can you help me? (link)
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Kayla,
I'd like to try and help you. What is it you do that makes you think you cause trouble for everyone? What's your situation? Can you give an example of what's happening? You can post an explaination at my column or email me privately. My email address is posted on my column page.
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