My mother and I have jsut started talking about a year ago. She was with a man I did not like and she choose him over me after he crossed a few lines that should have never been crossed. Well everytime I have something important come up like surgery or graduating from something she does not show up. She makes these big excuses and blames everyone else for her not showing up. Now I understand that she lives 12 hours away from me, but when she is offered a free trip up here with someone else I think she should take it. Ever since my little girl was born my mother has only seen her 4 times. I feel like I'm the one that has done something wrong. Should I feel this way? How can I tell her that she is hurting me and don't even act like it bothers her? I'm very confussed and feel like I"m the one to blame for her acting this way. Could you please help!!!!!!!
First of all you are not to blame for your mother's actions. Nor are you responsible for them. She is a grown woman. I'm afraid talking to her about how she makes you feel will only cause further heartache for you. She has been this way your whole life. If she acts like it doesn't bother her then it probably doesn't. I'm not telling you to write your mother off or have no contact with her but don't give her the importance in your life that she obviously doesn't deserve. As far as her not seeing your daughter, that could be for the best as she may cause your daughter the same hurt she has caused you and you certainly don't want that. Focus more on the people who love you and HAVE been there for you. Thats where your true family is.
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My husband migrated to Toronto Canada 6 years ago. He abandoned me and found a new love. I found out that he already has a daughter with the girl who is living in Manila Philippines, where I am. He cancelled my immigrant sponsorship 2 years ago, took my money, and sponsored the girl as a common law wife to migrate to Canada to stay with him. How can I ask him to divorce/annul our marriage if he is avoiding me?
I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. I know you must be eager to move forward with your life. I don't know why he would be avoiding you since he has obviously moved on I would think he would want a divorce himself. I would suggest seeing a lawyer. Many will give you a free consultation. This way you can find out what your legal rights are and what you can or cannot do. See if there are abandonment laws in your state. You may be able to file a legal seperation. That isn't the same as a divorce but would give you some relief as you wouldn't have any legal ties to anything he may be doing. Contact a legal professional they can at least let you know what your options are.
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Hi peeps ,
Just a quick question ..I have a 14 years old niece and she wants to get a job(to buy some extra clothes,make up etc)...But is this right ??...she may loose focus on her studies...I saw another nieces of mine work at this age and some of them the parents loose control over them becuase they think they work and have everything they need so they think they do not need their parents anymore...On the other hand it stimulate them to work for what they want but...it may leed them to fatal distractions working at so young age..just for buying extra clothes etc etc....
Am I worrying to much..?????
I will rate very high for good answers...
It's perfecty normal to worry about the children in our lives ( especially teenagers) I think it is always a good idea to let children learn responsibility and to gain a little independence is good also. school should always be a priority. The key here is balance. Since school seems to be a concern here let her know that school comes first but she can work a few hours a week or weekends to make a little extra money as long as her grades are good. If her grades drop then the job goes!! This will not only give her an opportunity to gain a little independence by making some money of her own but would also be a great incentive to take school seriously too.
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I really dread my grandparents dying. Practically every other night i cry myself to sleep because i am afraid that we will get a call the next morning saying one of my grandparents is gone. (grandparents on my mom's side the most) I see them every week, i have been seeing them a lot recently, and we are very close. I try to think about the happy times, and have fun while i am with them. I still can't keep the thoughts out of my head. Is this ok, just a girl that doesn't want to lose someone she really loves, or should i try and not be so close? i really don't want to pull apart from them. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
Losing someone we love is always hard but unfortunately it is a fact of life. dont dwell on the ineveitable. You know it will happen someday as it will to all of us. dont pull away from your grandparents! Love them and enjoy them while they are here. Don't let the future ruin the time you have with them now. Talk with your grankparents. let them know what you are feeling. I bet they will have some things to tell you to ease your fears.
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