for probably about a year now my dad has been screaming at my brother and i for the stupidest reasons and at this point im pretty sure that he is verbally abusing us (not physically or sexualy) like on friday i was going to my friends party and i told him to get ready in 10 minutes....7 minutes later i gave him a three minute warning and then when 10 minutes came up and i wanted to leave, he started screaming at me that i didn't tell him that we were leaving in there minutes i mean i was crying to death and he was about to take me to this party, but saying no you didnt tell me your a liar!!! but screamed it and he started making this whole drag about it and i started to cry my mom was right there on my side, she was mad at him for actually going through all this crap. So then i waited by the car and at this point i didn't want to go but my mom offerend to take me there, while my dad came outside and my mom was getting her phone he apporached me like he was going to hit me or strangle me i started hyperventalating and crying but he didn't he then went around and went to his car and left. A couple of hours later he came home before i did from the party that my mom took me. But a second time if he makes a statement to my brother, my dad would scream why didn't you answer me!!! answer me now!! and it wasn't a question or anything, and when he screamed it i was in shock for about three hours cause i was just really scared i talked about it with my friend shes like talk to him, but i did and he just argues with me. So on monday i want to talk to the school psycologist but i think there going to make a huge deal about it. but do you think based on what i've told you hes being verbally abusive.
note- he does this at least twice a week
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okay. well. all parents are kinda like that. but obvisouly your dad is takeing it to the next level. this is going to sound stupid but try really hard to like not agure with him. just sorta do it. cause i mean honestly there is really nothing you can do about it. unless you convience your mom to get a devorse. which we both know is slitely impossible. but what you CAN do it talk to your mom and HIM about it. the school conseriler will just call CPS [[ child protect service]] and like take you away from your parents. but like im sure if you kindaa just goo along with your dad.. like if he says WHY WONT U ANSWER ME just be like ohh im sorry what did u ask. or if hes like YOU NEVER SAID THAT. be like i didnt? oh im sorry i thought i did, but heyy can you take me to the party now.
ya know. but you really need to talk to your mommy about it. and together yall can work out a solution.
=)) sorry if i didnt help.
mikelaa.
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I'm 15/f and my older sister is 17/f. She refuses to believe that I wear a bigger bra size than her. I don't think it's a big deal or anything becuase why would it be? Now she always talks about how I wear really padded bras. I hate padded bras and I've never owned one. I tell her that and then she goes into how I probably stuff. I don't know what her problem is. What should I do other than just ignore her? I can't ignore her because she talks about it infront of everyone!
hahahaha. your sister is in denial. she knows ur boobs are bigger than hers. but she doesnt want to admitt it. i mean shes your big sister she thinks shes SUPPOSE to have bigger boobs than you. haha.i think its kinda funny. and you should too. let your sister think she has bigger boobs than you. if she says ne thing about it be like yeah your right. yours are bigger. and drop it. shes just upset. its cool one day when shes mature enough shell get over it
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ok mikela... im just like that girl below.. but yeah... mymom is ALWAYS mean to me!! i cant remember 1 day when we got along with out fighting! i mean sure she seems nice and all in front of my friends and on the phone.. but thats because she changes totally!! and i mean shes only mean to my best friend too because shes use to her! ughh.. ahhhh! and i dont even know what im doing wrong.. im always pbeying her rules.. and everything idk what i do.. am i a bad kid or something? im like totally pissed off!! i dont wanna go on with my life everyday being mad at my mom.. because one day shell leave and the last thing we did was fight!!.. I NEED SERIOUS HELP!
miikela says:
YOUR MOTHER LOVES YOU !
if you want to solve your problem that is the first step. realizing your mother loves you. parents are weird maybe you dont think you're doing something wrong but maybe in your mothers eyes you are. as for fighting.
DONT FIGHT BACK !
let your mother yell at you. Just nodd and do whatever she says. your mother is just mean she isnt just picking on you. shes probally on her period. you know how bitchey people get where they're on it. and it doesnt even have to be that. maybe shes just really stressed out from work or kids or her husbend. just talk to your and tell her
" mom i feel like...(da da da da da)" your mom will listin. they have to theyre parents. and if that doesnt work out tell your dad about.
after reading this say this out loud a couple of time.
"MY MOTHER LOVES ME BECAUSE MIIKELA SAYS SO" and its the truth
^^^ ok member me!!! yeah well guess what mikela.. YOU HELPED! like we havnt fought in like 2 weeks! HAH. yeah and like i only got mad at her once. but thats because im on my period so i get pissed VERY EASILY! hah. but i mean WOW! THANKD MIKELA GOSH I LOVE YOU!
your welcomee. =)) thanks.. if i knew you...id love you too!~
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ok. my friend and i are like really close. were like sisters. and we always used to hang out. but then she got a boyfriend and everythign changed. i mean she had them before but it was just differant. ok anyways, she never wants to hang out anymore, and i know its not cause im annoying her because we rarley ever hang out. i call her everynow and thena and usually she cant do anything. but even when she can, all she EVER talks about is her boyfriend. its really annoying and i want my friend back!!!! help...? help!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
miikela says:
yeah that has happened to me be4. its not cool at all! i suggest you talk to your friend. i know no one ever wants to just come out and talk about their problems but trust me. its the best way to go. Call her up and invite her over and be like heyy dude i havnt seen you in a long time why dont you just come over and hang out. say something what will get her to come over. then when shes there just be honest and be like heyy ya know what i dont feel as close with you anymore and is it because im annoying or because of your boyfriend. if she says its becuase ur annoying just lay off for a while. give her her space. thats what i always do.
i hope i helped
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thanks mikela... you helped out A LOT!! :)
miikela says:
your very welcome. =))
hey from now on can yall like sign the questions with like. names that relate to the problem that way if u ever give me a thank you letter liek this i know who i helped.
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ok mikela... im just like that girl below.. but yeah... mymom is ALWAYS mean to me!! i cant remember 1 day when we got along with out fighting! i mean sure she seems nice and all in front of my friends and on the phone.. but thats because she changes totally!! and i mean shes only mean to my best friend too because shes use to her! ughh.. ahhhh! and i dont even know what im doing wrong.. im always pbeying her rules.. and everything idk what i do.. am i a bad kid or something? im like totally pissed off!! i dont wanna go on with my life everyday being mad at my mom.. because one day shell leave and the last thing we did was fight!!.. I NEED SERIOUS HELP!
miikela says:
YOUR MOTHER LOVES YOU !
if you want to solve your problem that is the first step. realizing your mother loves you. parents are weird maybe you dont think you're doing something wrong but maybe in your mothers eyes you are. as for fighting.
DONT FIGHT BACK !
let your mother yell at you. Just nodd and do whatever she says. your mother is just mean she isnt just picking on you. shes probally on her period. you know how bitchey people get where they're on it. and it doesnt even have to be that. maybe shes just really stressed out from work or kids or her husbend. just talk to your and tell her
" mom i feel like...(da da da da da)" your mom will listin. they have to theyre parents. and if that doesnt work out tell your dad about.
after reading this say this out loud a couple of time.
"MY MOTHER LOVES ME BECAUSE MIIKELA SAYS SO" and its the truth
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my father has alway been picking on me ever since i was small.. he denys he hits me. but aftr he does he says ssorry. i mean.. if he`s really that sorry why`d he do it. My friend is coming down from the states into canada for 2 weeks. She knows about him and stuff. just hopefully he doesnt do anyhting stupid. i ant her to have a good time here. any advise on how i can just calm down and think positive. i took walks. but im still paranoid. maybe this is just a fear right? o well thanks anywayz
Honestly. there is no way changing your dad or what happened with your dad. There is no real way of getting your self to calm down. I had a problem ALOT like that. My dad was a physco. My friend knew all about him and HATES him. What you should do is just nto bring the thing about your dad up ( sorta let her think its over ) then just stay out the house. if she says anything about it be like yeah i know. lwt just forget about it and have a good time.
i hope i helped.
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dear mikela,
i have a sister that is older than me and she's reallyy cool, but we dont really get along that well and i would like our relationship to be like best friends,not like enimies what shouldd i do?
miikela says :
hmm. dont try to force a close relationship with your sister. but dont just not do anything about it either. i had the same problem at one point. you just have to be nice and propose ideas of stuff yall could do together. If you give her compliments and try really hard not to fight with her and just agree to some of the things she says yall will probally start getting closer. but dont be a total kiss ass. give her her space and she will give you yours. OR you could just come straight out and be like. "ya know i never felt really close to you. do you think we could maybe start hanging out or doing more stuff togetehr cause i dont want to be enimies" or make up ur own lines. but i think you get it.
i hope i helped.
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