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Age: 34
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Long story short, my mom is constantly bringing me down. I'm only fifteen, about to be sixteen.
She tells me I'm selfish and treats me like I'm five. I'm a very forgetful person and I get punished for it. I think it is wrong. My mom tells me that I won't make it anywhere in life because I don't know what to do with myself. She expects perfection out of my sister and I and we are very sensitive. She is always bringing me down. She has no faith in me. She gets mad and pissy because I can't be what she wants me to be. She gets angry when I tell her things and she's always trying to control my life. I need some freedom. She is tearing me apart. Yesterday she threatened to smash my head through the windshield because I didn't turn down a certain street while driving. She always threatens to take my cat away and is always making huge violent threats. I am scared of her. I'm scared to go to her for problems so I go to my dad. My dad lives in California. My mom says I'm a two face because I talk to my dad after he cheated on her ten years ago. She says I'm just like him and that hurts because my dad isn't the best person around. I come to school in tears and pain because we fight all morning over the dumbest stuff. I can't take it anymore. Nobody has faith in me and everyone treats me like I am retarded. I feel worthless and alone. I tell her it hurts when she does certain things and she uses the whole, I'm your mom and I can do whatever I want, phrase. I can't take it anymore. I need help. (link)
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I have to be honest, it sounds like your mom needs help. From the short bit that you wrote, I would guess that she is verbally and emotionally abusive, and if she hasnt started already, on her way to being physically abusive. You are not worthless, nor are you retarded...you are simply being hurt by a woman who should be loving and protective of you. I urge you to reach out to an agency for help, a school counselor, the boys and girls club, even a hotline for abused children, anything. She cannot do whatever she wants, that statement is being used to control you. I will; be praying.
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The only computer in my house is in my room. My dad is the only one who used it today and in a minimized window is "Literotica." I flipped back through the pages and he's reading titles in the Incest section under the searches "love," "lust," and "daddy."
I am his only daughter. I'm 17. He's 60.
I'm really disturbed. I've seen it on the history before but I've figured, everyone has strange fetishes. But incest?! This is really grossing me out. I feel like I have to hide my body now around him. I dress like most teenage girls-- short shorts, low cut tops-- and now I just want to cover up and die.
Should I bring it up with my mom? She's the only other one living in the house. I'm too embarrassed to tell my boyfriend. This is just so weird. My dad's seriously not a creep or a perv, this is just so unexpected.
Thanks for any advice =/ (link)
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Yes, go to your mother, immediately. Its possible it means nothing, its possible its just a weird mistake, but you need to let your mom know what is going on and let her help you.
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alright, i could write ALOT about this, so i'm going to try my best and be brief. me and my mom have always been on and off, fighting pretty good and then other times we're totally fine and happy.
but anyways, i'm going on 19 in the next couple of months, have been in college for about half a year now, have had a steady job for two years and some friends of mine (i commute) were thinking of all getting a place together and asked me (which makes me happy cause i really only get to see them when i go to school or stay after school and don't ride the bus home so i can hang with them). well i mentioned this to my mom and she was just flat-out no about it. other situations liek this have happened - i'm going to a concert a state away and she FREAKED out when she heard cause i didn't run it by her. a friend a couple hours away wants me to come visit at their college but i'd have to take a train - "no". i want tattoos/piercings, but i can't get any unless i want kicked out of the house, but i can get them when i get my own place. well i just TRIED to and i can't! i understand where she's coming from, she's my mom and everything, but i just feel like she's not realizing i'm going on 19. my brothers a couple years older and he just randomly'll go out come home at 4am sleep all day and yeah she blows up on him but it just seems like there's that "oh well that's typical him "attitude to it and when it's something i did it's like, "how could you"? the most rebellious thing i ever did was went behind her back a couple years ago and gauged my ears and they're not even that big.
i just don't know what to do. i've tried talking to her about it and it just seems like she doesn't want to listen and "she's right". it just pisses me off cause it's like i need to abide by all HER rules in her home until i get my own place, but then i TRY to and she still says no. its just driving me crazy cause i just have no idea what to do.
i don't even know if this is something anybody can really give me advice on (my mom really doesn't like hearing anything that would put HER in the wrong; she just likes her side of the story), this may have been just more of a rant type of situation but if anyone feels like they can give any input i'd much appreciate it. i can try to explain it more if there's even more to explain, really, haha. (link)
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Sounds like mom is scared. She might be having a hard time with letting you go, being a mom, its scary as heck. Moms want to protect their kids, even when they are 30. Fighting wont help anything, ever, but you do need to try and talk. If you want to get your own place, do it, you are an adult...But please remember that your mom has spent 19 years being there for you, and the thought of you leaving is going to be hard for her.
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