my name is Rachel and iam 18 and i smoke and i get the ciggerates from my cousin but the thing is she didn't know that i got them from her until this morning and now she is pissed off at me becouse when i was 17 she let try smoking becouse i was curious and wanted to know what it was like but she made me promise to never do it again so i promised her i wouldn't do it again but now she won't even speak to me becouse she's mad becouse she thinks my mom'll find out that i started smoking at her house and won't let me come back anymore and she thinks i hate her but i don't .I don't know why i wanted to smoke i didn't know it would make my cousin this mad at me becouse we've never even had a fight before in my life becouse we used to be so close like sisters.I don't think she'll belive me if i tell her i'll quit becouse i told her i wouldn't do it again the last time and i lied to her and went behind her back how do i regain my trust and not make her mad at me anymore i hate when she's not speaking to me what should i do?
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Well sweetie, the only reason she is that upset with you because she cares about you. She's probably felt betrayed and hurted since you lied to her. She's also worried because she doesn't want you to become addicted. Smoking is one of a bad addiction there is. It causes cancer, lungs cancer, diseases, etc. She doesn't want you to be sick.
You shouldn't give up and keep on trying to gain her trust back. it can get frustrating sometimes and you feel like she doesn't care about you.. but she really does. Trust is a fragile thing, once you break it.. its done.
You should sit her down and show how sorry you are and that you promise to quit. Tell her once you make this committment, you will stick with it. You don't expect her to trust you right away but ask her for another chance so you can prove yourself to her. convince her .. show that you're sorry. Give her some times too.. let her cool down and think about her decision.
hope I helped. good luck =]
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my familys split up
i live with my dad.
he always yells at me
when i lvied with my mom
she always yelled at me.
i dont know what to do.
it really hurts hwen i get yelled at
i usually have a massive breakdown
what can i do?
-.-
i cant swear infront of my parents.
or ill just get beaten.
Damn! Do the just yell for no reason?? .. but I know how that feels. I'm in the same situation. When I live with my dad, he's constantly yelling at me over little things and blame me when things went wrong. Then when I live with my mom, she yells like every day! she yells when she's tired and I asked what's for dinner. She yells like no others. you'll never find anyone like her.
Here's the solution, you can sit down and talk to them. Tell them how you feel about all these yellings. Its affecting your emotions and life. If they care they'll listen. Instead of yelling at you all the time, they can tell you why they are yelling at you? and what have you done wrong?. If they say it calmly and inform you your mistakes and you'll fix it.
If they yell at you for aboslute no reasons then.. just ignore them. You know who you are and what you've done. if you didn't do anything wrong, they can yell all they want. Just block the negativities out of your life. Its not worth to be stressing over. When they yell, just listen to music, or think of somethin that makes you happy, or what you did today, ect. Don't let them ruin your mood, day, self-esteem. You have people who truly care about you.
hope it work out! =]. good luCk hunn.
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My mom got mad at me becasue she thought I was trying to break the television. Well I wasn't breaking it. IT has a lot of channels and the remote is missing because I lost track of it because when we moved I had to be quick. The bag the remote was at is missing. She got mad at me like I was the only one in the world doing something wrong. She got mad at me too when she found out the remote was missing. I don't get why she had to get mad at me like that.
Your mom could be PMSing or in a bad mood and she's taking it out on you. You could sit down wit your mom and explain to her how she made you feel. All that yelling is upsetting you. You prefer her speaking to you in a nicer tone. Tell her that you're only a kid, and you make mistakes that you don't realize. if she talks to you nicely and tell you what you're doing wrong and help you through the process of doing better than there's no point of yelling.
hope I helped. good luck. =].
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So when my parents split up i lived with my mom up until last year. I havent talked to my mom barely since that but my dad is an asshole ALL the time. I dont know... i really want to move back with my mom.. if i knew that she would still let me see my boyfriend and i would still be able to go out. But i dont wanna to move in with her and find out that shes gonna be a bitch and not let me see my boyfriend and not let me go out with my friends at all. What should i do because my dad is an asshole ALL the time.
I know how you feel.. I'm in the same situation. Well would you rather have your dad being an ass hole all the time OR you can move with your mom and she's only being a bitch sometimes. Its a 50% kinda thing. You'll never know what's the outcome going to be until you move with one and see the consequences yourself. Everyone parents have their own rule.. in my case, both of my parents are remarried.. my mom and dad doesn't talk to one another. And with my dad he doesn't let me go out at all but I can do watever I want in the house. With my mom I can go out sometimes but I have to take school first and always focus on education.. and so on which is boring. But I chose to live with my mom.
You case, you can look at what benifit you if you live with you dad .. and do the same with your mom. You can also think about who would you love to live with more.. mom or dad? or who you have a better connection with.. ? who do you love more?
Since your is being a jerk.. then if you decide to move back with your mom... you and her can have a compromise that you both can agree to. Then you can see if she agrees to let you go out and see your boyfriend or not. So you can make your decision from there. But I hope you and your mom would come to a compromise that you both will be happy with.
hope I helped. good luck.! =].
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I'm 14/f and my sister is 19/f. It's ironic how I'm more mature about things than she is. Everytime break starts and she come home, whether it's Thanks Giving, Winter, Spring, Summer break, it's always disastrous and I can never relax.
My sister complains and gets mad over the smallest things. Over Thanks Giving Break, which was about 2 weeks for her, she got braces and oh my goodness. It was horrible. She would barely eat, she would complain, mop around, lock herself in her room for getting stupid braces. She was like "I can't eat. It takes 30minutes just to floss" blah blah..for 2 weeks and MORE. I must say that a 10 year old wouldn't whine so much. That really got my mom pissed off because she was buying stuff for my sister and making all these soft foods just for her to make her feel better and my sister just turned away complaining. And when my mom is mad, I have to watch what i do around her. When she's mad, she's likely to go off at anyone at anytime so it's like I always have to help her during breaks, watch what I say and do and I can't go and hang out with friends as much because my mom won't be in the mood to drive me. Then there's the problem with my sister getting pissed off at every single thing that doesn't go her way. If she wanted this and someone said no, she'll get pissed off, lock herself in her room for days, and get everyone in the house pissed off. I mean if she wanted to get , let's say a coffee from starbucks, and my mom said no, she'll get pissed off. If she wanted to help me practice violin and I decline NICELY (because, personally, she is horrible at teaching and when I tru to tell her that she's going too fast or something, she'll get pissed and say "Well you should've practiced more blah blah") she gets pissed off and locks herself in her room. This is getting really old and I don't knwo what to do about it. I can't talk to my sister because I'll just make it worse and if I talk to my mom or dad, my dad won't do much about it, and my mom will either just get pissy about that or talk to my sister which will still mak things worse. Any suggestions on what I should do to get her not get pissed so easily?
Actually there's nothin' you can do to not agravate her. That's just the way she is, its within her. I suggest you should tell her how you feel and tell her to take it, process it, and change it. I mean if she does this all the time.. the whole family should just ignore her and she'll be over it. She just wants attention. She's 19, 5 yrs older than you. But she acts like a spoiled brat, and childish. Let her know how immature she is. She's older, she should set an example for you. You look up to her.. so let her know she needs to get her act up and stop complaining. The more she complains and whine... it doesn't make anything better, just worst. So I think you should be straight up with her. Also tell her .. its the truth and even if she gets mad.. its still true. Truth hurts.. that's the way life goes. If she doesn't like it then do something to change it.
I know its harsh. but she needs to know. you can't be nice and happie go lucky to her when she's being a brat. Well good luck and let me know how it goes.
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