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So recently I got in touch with my father and we didn't talk much because I'm really shy and when I meet new people and it takes awhile for me to get used to them. For christmas he gave me a really expensive gift that I was not expecting and because of it I shielded away even more because it felt kind of like he was trying to buy his way into my life and I have now not talked to him for a couple of weeks not even daring to go on facebook because of him. Today I did dare and I shared a few things and kept the tab open while I went to do other stuff. When I looked back I saw I had a message from him and it said "What, you can't talk to me now?" and now I feel horrible but I also feel he is being rather rude about it and I don't know what to do and if someone could please help me I would be forever grateful. (link)
I feel like i could give you more advice if I had more information like do you live close together or how long has he not been in your life, etc. it might help, but I can relate to your situation. I have a similar situation. I just recently started talking to my father on and it's a tricky situation for both of you. If he wants to be in your life, he needs to realize that it's not easy for you, maybe you're scared. He hasn't been in your life and this is new for you and you don't know how to react. You shouldn't feel upset about what he said. This can all be more developed if I know a little more information.


My cousin and her family have stopped talking to me and my family. We were very close and used to see each other every weekend. We have approached them and asked them whats the matter. And even offered to apologize if we have done anything wrong, but they do not want to discuss nothing and have just scrapped us out of their lives. Not sure on how to handle this situation??? (link)
At a certain point, you may have to just stop trying. Yes, they are your family, but sometimes family members don't always work out the way you want them to. You can give them the option of telling you what's wrong, but if they don't want to tell you, let them be. I have a similar issue with my family and i have a very small family, but i just don't talk to them. It's not worth it. You can find other people to call your family, your extended family. Sometimes your real family are jerks and you have to create your own family.


I'm feeling terrible. I can't stand my brother any longer. Actually, he lives in another city, and is spending his vacation time at home. Thing is that he won't do anything at home, he doesn't help us with anything and sleeps the whole day! I hate him! How can I cope with this situation? It's aweful, since I don't want to confront him either; I just want him to go away!
Thanks in advance!
(p.s please, I don't want ''adviceman 49'' to reply to this message, I mean it. Thanks again!) (link)
I don't know how old he is so i cannot fully determine what you should, but from what i know, give him the choice to help or leave because he needs to know being on vacation doesn't mean you get to be lazy and selfish.


So recently my cousin came to stay with us for a while and we weren't as close at first but we became like best friends now he is 26 and I am 14(girl) a couple weeks ago he kissed me on the lips. I didn't think anything of it because I thought it was an accident. But now he started rubbing my thighs and back really slowly and kind of sexually then he wanted to kiss me but this time longer. I kissed him anyway because I didn't know what to do. I feel really guilty and dirty afterwards but he seems to be his normal self. Is this ok? Or should I tell someone ? (link)
This is wrong what he is doing. You need to tell someone or push him off, be assertive. That is not okay for your cousin to do that to you and an older man that far in age, that is sexual harassment.




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