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Q: 14/f
My mom recently got divorced like 2 years ago. She's been dating other men recently and I really haven't had any problems with it...but suddenly she's been dating this one guy she's really interested in (lets call this guy Joe).
I actually like Joe and I don't have a problem with him. But I'm starting to get jealous of the time my mom is spending with him. My mom is always very busy with schoolwork and "paying bills" she says, so she doesn't have a lot of time to do things with me. Now she's with Joe a lot...he comes over a lot...she's on the phone with him a lot...and it upsets me she always tells me she's busy yet she has so much time to be with him. Not only that, but the time my mom and I ARE together, she's in a bad mood.
So I thought the only thing i could do was talk to her about it. I really didn't want to, because I know this man makes my mom happy and I want her to be happy, and I was scared she'd stop seeing him if i told her. But it was bothering me so much, so i talked to her...and she didn't take it so well. She said I was being unreasonable. But she also said she's going to stop seeing him if I really feel this way, and I didn't want that to happen! So now, she's going to dump him because of me even though i begged her not to. I literally told her i would get over it and it's okay, but she simply wouldn't listen and now she's not seeing him anymore. And I feel AWFUL!
All i wanted was for her to spend more time with me. But she thinks she already does, so i'm assuming in her opinion she thinks doing things once a month with me is enough.
So now I don't know what to do...I feel so bad, because this guy she's seeing is a nice guy, and he shouldn't be dumped. And my mom deserves him and deserves to be happy. Now she's all depressed and even moody-er than ever...she was so happy. And I screwed it all up. What should I do???

look its not your fault!
your mom i think you need to tell her that all you want is her to balance work and you and her love life equaly [[even tho that is hard]] but damn i dont know if you already told her that you didint want him to leave well i dont know what else to do. maybe talk to him and tell him what it is you felt and tell him to talk to both you and your mom together..maybe all 3 of you work something out and your mom is happy again=]]

Q: Awright, 16/f. Three of my friends and I are starting a band (ska/punk, if it matters), and we've got some huge plans for this. It's a common dream. Music brought us all together and all that stuff. Well, the only problems is that all of these friends are boys who are 19 or older and my mom either doesn't like them or hasn't met them. They're good guys and I know I'm completely safe around them, but I know that my mom wouldn't approve of them because they're punks. It's gotten to the point where I had to lie to be able to hang out with them, telling mom that i had different plans.
How can we make this band work if my mom decides she doesn't want me hanging out with the guys? Or how to I make it so she can meet them and approve without them having to change their tastes? PLease help!
Thanks,
-JJ Girl

well my mom is the same way but she dont dislike them she just worries about what if they really arent safe.maybe your mom feels the same way.
anyways answering your question talk to your mom and tell her how much this means to you and ask if its ok if you invite them over so she can get to know them.Maybe thats all it is and if she just dosent want you to be with them..well i know this might not be the best advice yet ima say it...if this is your dream live it 2 its fullest no matter what! sure your mom will be mad but youll still be her daugther!haha well hope it works out=]

Q: okay, my mom has been ragging on me alot lately. everything i do sets her off. i mean, i miss one paper in school and it's like the sky is falling. supposedly i have a smart mouth and i admit sometimes i do but not all the time, like she thinks i do. i'm seriously thinking about running away. what should i do?

well i can see how sometimes you can feel like giving up on everything and running away from it all but i dont think you should. there will always be hard times in life and you have to learn how to face them.it may seem pretty simple when ppl say to talk to your mom about the way you feel but i know its not.anywho you need to talk to her.when i feel my parents are being too mean or something i always l00se my temper and scream at them by saying how much i hate it when they treat me like they do,i run up to my room and stay.in a while they start noticing what they have done wrong and do their best to change it. i know my way isint the best way but it works for me.try coming up with a way of making her understand how you are feeling and im sure she will come to her sences because after all they are parents and care for us. just please dont run away!there iz a big and dangerous world out there and trust me your mom is safer than out there...promise!=]

Q: 15/f
I have a 5 month year old son with my boyfriend. I considered adoption from the start, but it was too hard to say goodbye so I pulled out at the last minute. (Which made my boyfriend happy, surprisingly.) My mom (my dad isn't a part of my life) gave in and said she'd raise him for me if I helped. Now that school's in, it's becoming harder. We have to pay the babysitter, pick him up, etc. Plus, I made the cheerleading squad. Neither of us have time for him and my boyfriend's family can't take him. Mom wants me to reconsider adoption, but I can't give up my baby now! But I also don't want to give up being a cheerleading and all the other fun stuff in high school. Mom's afraid my grades will slip. So am I. But my bf and I have grown so attached to ourson. We plan on getting married and raising him together once we're out of high school. But what can I do until then? It's too stessful! HELP!!! Please!

UM i would say to not give your baby on adoption!
I mean this might sound pretty bitchy n stuff lol but you should really pick your baby over chearleeding and all the fun stuff in highschool because its not your babys fault(it didint ask to be created u know).You and your boyfriend need to figure something out so that your baby grows with love and care from the both of you.=]
for now i think you both should give up something to have a few extra time to be with your kid.Sorry but thats how life is=/hehe.
well farealz i hope everything turns out good!

Q: f/15

I want to date this guy who I have been quite close friends with for years. We have always liked eachother as more than friends (although it was sort of on and off since we went periods without hanging out) and that is what kept our friendship alive. We have always acted like we were dating (to some extent) and I'm quite sure it would be long lasting between us. I think he is going to ask me out within the next two weeks since we recently told eachother for the first time how we really feel.

Now the thing is that I have had two boyfriends in the past but never told my parents so they think I have never dated a guy. They know I hang out with this guy a lot and he calls my house sometimes asking if I wanna come over. My parents have never met him since I always go to his house and he has never been at mine (because I don't think my parents would allow it).

I am a really good liar and I know I could hide it if I was dating him, but should I? What would be the benefits of telling my parents rather than keeping it a secret?

If I tell my parents (if he asks me out) that we are dating and they don't approve they would probably think differently about letting me go to his house even as friends. If I keep it a secret and get caught they may find out other secrets I have since I basically live a double life (I am a straight A student but I drink and lie to my parents a lot, but they think I'm 'good' and don't do drugs).

Sorry about that being so long but there are many factors and I am running out of time to make a decision

i think you should tell your parents because (hopefully not)but if something went wrong they would know wuts up and would be able to help you!
My mom is the only one that knows about some of my boyfriends because my dad thinks i have never had a boyfriend eigther!haha if he knew!but anyways yeah i suggest you tell them!

Q: 13/female. I always figured people could tell if I was happy, mad, sad, confused, or any other emotion because it just seemed obvious to me. If I'm mad my mouth forms a straight line, my eyebrowns go together, and you can just see in my eyes I'm mad. But lately I don't think my emotions are that clear. I guess my first hint was yesterday when my mom started yelling at me that I never tell her how I feel. It's just that it seems stupid saying I feel this way, I feel that way. It's always been this way with me. I just storm to my room and slam the door without a word, giving the world a cold shoulder. See my whole life has been hard. When I was practicly born my dad divorced my mom. Then my mom fell in love, but never married him, and he died of cancer the day after my birthday. Then my aunt died in her sleep on july3, in the same year my moms soon to be hubby died. I didn't even cry, I guess because I figured somebody had to be strong. Then my mom met another guy about a year ago and we found out about 4months ago he died in december. Since then my mom has fell in love 3times, one is still alive but has moved on, the second one doesn't know what to do, the third one is here at this very moment. I'm always getting into trouble over anything. I hate visiting my dad, but I don't know if he realizes it yet. I hate school, everyone knows it. I feel weird with all my moms bfs, none knows why not even me. I read almost all the time wishing I wasn't where I was at. I think to myself all the 'why' questions we all hate. So tell me how can I tell people my feelings?!?!?! How do I realize my moms love life is none of my buisness, and yet it is? How do I learn to love, trust, and express my feelings? How do I tell my dad I can't stand him? Please help me with all of these questions and more.
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umm ok think of it as wut u feel towards your moms relationships is probably wut she feels since she has lost so many of them...u can probably be feeling the same thing and can open up to each other easier than it seems! about expressing yourself...you have to learn how to express yourself to you first!
you won't be able to tell people how you feel if not even you know how you feel!
ok ive seen the other answers from the columnists below me have been super long but i just summed it all up to this.
if it makes you feel any better my family always brings me down and i dont feel comftrable with my dad because he's never there for me.i feel almost the same like trapped and you can't breathe and feel like is life even worthwhile?...maybe if you trust me we can share and help each other out=]]
well i really hope you figure something out and ill always be here if you need me!
take care
mucho luv~~~

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