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Okay.. My aunt who is in her 50's lost her son last summer.. he hase a little girl about five years old.. and live next door to my aunt. anyway she still have thoes days where she hase doubts and want her son back. he die age 36 and luckima i can't spell it. and thing is that she so sad sometimes i wish that there something i tell her help her and she can have good days and enjoy it to.. plus abou little girl she very smart. she only 3 year old she lost her daddy. she remebers him and everything.. she stay with my aunt 3 days week becouse her mom goes night classses. she seem doing okay. she already know him for 5 years since they had little girl. anyway I love and enjoy talking to my aunt. we very close. thing is my qustion is there a site or a saying that help little.. plus i was wondering maybe little girl maybe harder for her to bcouse she look just like her daddy sometimes my aunt get her up in the moring and sining to her and calling her my little the son name and stuff. but i don't know what or to say. i mean sometimes she says thing to me and stuff i feel bad and drag down. i mean she like me being happy and stuff but i don't understand why she keep doing that to me. around me she knows that drag me down i know that i care so much tha i will listen but thing is i want my aunt back, and want her treat me like she always treat me and sometimes i feel like she treat little girl better she dose to me and her other grandchild who her other son little girl. i know it going to be hard.. (link)
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You Aunt is in a lot of pain and will never get over losing her son. You are obviously close to her. Try to find a support group for parents who lost their loved ones to cancer (there are tons and they know exactly how they feel). Tell her you love her enough to be concerned about her. Offer to go with her the first time. You might be surprised how your offer can reach her. Then, consider doing Relay for Life next time and raising money in honor of your late uncle. Your aunt would be honored and touched and it would be something positive you could share that would bring you together. FYI - I lost an uncle, a grandfather, and, recently, a grandma to cancer. I've been there.
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I'm 13 and my sister is 9. She's the queen. My parents love her and never yell at her. If we get in a fight and my sister scratches me, I get in trouble for it. Every single day is dedicated to my sister. Today my mom and sister left me to go to the zoo. They left without saying bye and said they would be home at 6. Tomorrow my sister, my mom, and my friend are going to some baby arcade place and they'll be gone all day. My dad works so obviously that leaves no one to take me where I want to go. My friends think I'm ditching them because I always have to cancel plans since my mom drives my sister around everywhere since I don't have a ride, so my friends are mad and I'm losing them. So far every day since summer started my sister has had a friend over or she's gone somewhere, and I haven't done anything or seen a friend. My mom hates me and I thought that the older one gets to do more since they are older, but in this case my little sister is having a freakin blast this summer while I sit home crying with no ride. I live a little far away from my friends so they can't always pick me up. Me and my friends planned to go to the beach Wednesday but the rule is we all have to get a ride there so people don't feel left out. And of course the calendar says that my sister, her friend, and my mom are spending the day at the park. That means I have no ride and my friends can't give me one. I told my mom that what's she's doing is hurting me emotionally and I feel like I'm not special and I'm losing friends because of her ways, and she says my little 9 year old sister is more mature than me so that's why she gets all the fun. Summers wasting away and my friends aren't bothering with me anymore since every single plan I've made with them has been canceled or postponed because my mom can't give me a ride because she's too busy making my sister feel like a queen. I can't go through the whole summer like this. I've never thought of killing myself, but today after I wanted to go to the mall with my friend and found out my mom and sister had already left for the zoo and my friend's parents were at work so I was supposed to give her a ride, pretty much gave me a thought about killing myself. I let down my friend and myself AGAIN because I get their hopes up when we make plans and then I find out we can't even go. Help? I hate my sister!!! (link)
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If this is the way you approached your mom, then no wonder she is calling your sister more mature. You need to take a step back and re-approach using a calmer (not-so-self-centered) tactic. When you use words like "you hate me" "she gets everything and I don't", parents will tune you out. Instead, apologize to your mom for being unreasonable. Tell her that you understand she has to take care of both of you and you know its hard to schedule times to carry each person to what they want to do. Ask if maybe you can sit down with a calendar and see if you can schedule some activities with your friends so they do not conflict with other plans she may have already made. Work out a compromise showing how mature you are. Remember, a compromise does NOT mean you get everything!!
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Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things( ive never been grounded and ive never had a curfew and my mom knows and stilll doesnt care that my sisters and i are big partiers) and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do? (link)
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First of all, its never easy to adjust to new situation and I don't think anyone expects you to be an insta-family. But in saying that, let me give you another insight. This super-strict guy is dealing with three (self-confessed)very wild teenage girls. He is old enough and probably experienced enough to know that you could be exhibiting some behavior that is dangerous -especially since he is a guy with three sons and they know how guys think!! Your mom has allowed you to run wild for whatever reason after your dad passed and probably is relieved to have someone help you guys out right now. It sounds as though he is being strict to protect you, not to torture you, although you may not see that way.My best advice is for you to realize that you are close to being an adult and it is time to start acting like it. Show him that you are responsible instead of a "big partier" and you will see him lighten up and treat you like the young adult you are. If you continue to show immature wild behavior, he will only become stricter and, unfortunately, your mom will be pulled in the middle.
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