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Q: hii so my mom is allways yelling at me. And I think she is to over protective I can't go to my best friend for a weekend because she have brothers. I told her before that I won't play around like that because im not that sort of person. I try to talk to her but then she is just yelling again.... please help!!

You didn't really say how old you were but it's alright I'll assume your young and maybe it came to your mom's mind that your friend's brothers could harm you but you need to let her know that your gonna be staying in one room with a door locked or something if you actually want to do that. If you don't you could just try to explain it to her in a more calmer state that your not hat kind of person. Sometimes you just have to wait for her to calm down not only because she's yelling but because it could get you stressed out and then get you to say no sense or thing you don't mean when your arguing.. Good luck!

Q: I m 21.my parents were divorsed when i m 12.after that my mom looked after me n my brother.but from last 3years i m working and taking care if my mom and brother and also doing my graduation.i m loving a boy so much he too loves me but now a days he was changed.no one cares for me not my family or lover.i m nt happy.i love them so much but they dnt.so i want to die

First off I hope you don't mean that you want to die but if you do please don't days like these could be really hard for you but it will get better and you should maybe move out sense you said you have to support your mom and your brother their big enough to probably support themselves. Try your best to stay positive which I know how hard it is but its the only way out and even though it may seem people don't care,Im sure you have someone who does care just look hard enough..

Hope I helped (:

Q: My sister is 11 years old. Believe me, she isn't a child anymore. She knows more than I do tbh.
And she's been so closed up lately and quiet. I know her as a happy kid always smiling. But today I found out she wants to be like those way to skinny models. My mother once had to take laxative. And she used that too today...my mum hid it though. I found it in her room. I don't know what to do I'm actually really worried and panicked. She always says she isn't hungry and skips meals
She needs help :(

You should tell your mom about how much you worry about your sister she might need professional help by a doctor. It will only show how much you care for your sister.

Hope I helped (:

Q: Hi, I'm a teenage girl. My parents have let my boyfriend come over before but this time they won't and I'd really like to spend some quality time with my boyfriend. How can I convince my parents to let him come over?

it all depends on how your parents are, i mean you can tell your parents good things about him. maybe asking them why they wont let you have him over sense teen couples invite their boyfriends or girlfriends over all the time and i don't see why they don't let you unless their worried about you being with him alone without your parents being there.if that's the case just earn their trust show them you can be with him without doing anything bad. i know because my parents were annoying to me too! if that doesn't help then just hangout with him somewhere else..

hope i helped (:

Q: 14/f
So I posted a question awhile back asking if what my uncle was doing was weird or not normal. Here's a link to the question so I don't have to repeat stuff:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=606498

Anyways, since then, I've visited them 2 more times for thanksgiving and for new years. My uncle has been bugging me if I have a boyfriend too. He takes me phone and looks at all my contacts and the people I text. Personally, I think he's just trying to bug me, but I don't want to leave anything out.

2 more things happened during those trips besides what I talked about in my previous question. First, I was at a different cousin's birthday party and he stuck some trash in my back pocket. And so I was in this mind set that he was just being a normal uncle messing around, so I put it back in his pocket. He chased me around to try to give it back to me and shoved it down the front of my shirt. Of course, both times he touched my butt and my boobs, but I tried to ignore it. The last night I was there, I went down to the basement of the house I was staying in so I could spend some time with my cousins. They were down there with all my uncles watching a movie and the only open spot was by that uncle. I sat down and tried to relax. Later, most of my cousins left and eventually it ended up being that uncle's sons and my brother playing and my uncle on the couch by me. He slipped his arm around my waist while we were sitting there. and as I tried to move away a little, his hand ended up in the back of my sweatshirt. He just left it there, as my aunt came down and sat on his other side and kissed him. And he even told her that he hadn't been drinking. And the next thing I know, his hand was in my underwear. He didn't touch any where near down there, but he kind of just left his hand on my butt cheek. I felt really weird, and he tried asking me something about being curious (I don't really remember). I felt so violated that I got up and left. He followed me upstairs but I ran and hid in a bedroom for the rest of the night and avoided him.

I've been trying to rationalize how this isn't weird, but I know it was enough to make me feel uncomfortable. I was shaking for the rest of the night and I get these moments where I remember it and I feel like crap. It just made me feel so low and disgusting. I just don't know what's going on. I hope I'm not making something out of nothing, but this really bothered me and it still does. I'm not a very emotionally stable person. I used to have problems with depression and an eating disorder and I got over it by myself. But now I'm starting to slip back into a depressive state when I remember that night. I want to talk to somebody about it, but I can't bring myself to tell my parents what happened. It's just not fair to anybody. I'm just torn.

Ok Im gonna make this as short as I can but I just wanna let you know that your not alone I went through sorta the same thing with friend of my dads and moms and honestly you have to stand up for yourself remember that whatever you feel is uncomfortable alway trust in what you think is right all I say is tell your parents hope I help (:

Q: I've been feeling so down and so lonely for a while. I'm not the kind of girl that likes to express my feelings with people only cause I really don't want to worry them. I'd rather keep everything to myself. I don't think it's working cause it only makes me
feel more and more down each day. at first I started off with feel down, then i started to stay up late thinking, now I just wanna cry at random times of the day but I hold everything in cause I don't want to worry anyone and I cry myself to sleep a lot of the times. it's only gotten worse. I honestly think I should talk to someone but I just can't /.\ whenever I'm around people I always act like I'm alright but when I'm by myself I just cry a little , any advice would be great ? thanks /.\

I agree with you about not expressing your feelings with people I use to do it too, actually im pretty quiet myself in school an stuff but, trust me it only makes you feel worse. You remind me of me when I use to cry myself to bed it was horrible. The best way I fixed it was by getting use to whatever is bothering you cause Im pretty sure your going through something that upsets you and keeps you up at night. maybe stop staying up late it may cause you to be in a weird. I know you said you dont wanna worry anyone but your going to someday(:

Hope I helped(:
Email me if you still can't talk to anyone(:

Q: I know what you think oh how stupid she want to kill het self... But if you where in my place you would have done it long befor now...
I can't say the country but let's say I am from country (A) but I grow up in country (B)... I had a lot of dreams and I worked hard so hard studied up all night to go to the best universty... But the country(a) and (b) got in a war so country (b) took my father and we don't know where they put him and my mom left me my bro and my sis to go out and try to help... but she did not for 4 years but after 4 years we meet my mom onther country that is (c) we stayed there for 1 year and then came to other country that is Sweden and we asked for help here but they said no you can't stay here go back to country (b) now my mom is about to go crazy and I am not Going to school also my sister and we don't know what to do if we go back to any of the countrys we will get killed like my dad... I don't know what to do all I am thinking about is killing my self... Pls help... You don't have to tell me a way out but keep me alive till I get a way out...:'(

well i don't know what to say but i can imagine that you feel very hopeless but sometimes life gives challenges that we don't even understand at all or even make you feel like all this is unfair but you sound like you are a very strong person and with wonderful dreams don't let all this bring you down because there is far more even more worst things than this. please don't kill yourself you wont do well it might make it worse. there's Probability so many people out there that wish they weren't dying either because of some kind of disease of some kind or something like that.i just hope you realize life is a gift. i wish you the best of the best please don't kill yourself (:

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