hello i am a 25 year old mom, i am married to a wonderful man for 7 years. i have been there and done that, so i can answer alot of questions from experence.
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I move around alot, bouncing from Dad to Mom to Dad and back to my Mom ... once again I want to move back to my dad's but it is so much different this time here are some of the major reasons why:
1.My dad's Cancer, I feel so horrible not being there taknig care of him
2.My depression; Up here I thought I would be happier but I'm missing so much of my life that is going on down there my depression meds aren't working anymore becuase my depressions getting worse
3.All my friends are down there ... I can't make friends up here, I've been here for 6 months and I haven't made one friend ... I jsut don't want to becuase I only want my friends from CT I know everyone who is reading this is prolly like "If you try then you'll make friends don't give up" but I have tried and ... I just want you all and not some fucking Redsocks loving, black people hating, homophoboes that are up here
I know thats only three things but here are the reasons why I'd stay up here:
1.my mom's feelings
I just can't do things to make others happy anymore if it makes me depressed ... I'm growing up, I'll be gone off to college soon and I just rather be a happy person going off bymyself knowing I have friends right back at home then going and being depressed and not remembering social skills to make friends becuase honestly ... ever since that bastard Adam "hypnotysed" me under his spell I have lost all sense of myself and I have been trying to get it back since I broke free ... I just want to be happy
Please Help,
Gizmo (link)
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i say follow your heart, have you talked to your mom about why you want to move. since your dad has cancer i think it would be a good idea to spend as much time with him as possible. i understand about the whole friend thing, when i was young my parents moved me away from the only place i knew and i was resentful for a long time, i am still in that place and now that i am an adult i have learned to adapt, but it is hard as a young adult to sart all over with trying to make new friends, i think you should go where you feel comfertable.
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Is 8 weeks excessive for my fiance's disruptive parents to come and stay with their 47 year old batchelor son? The father in law is critical and mean to my fiance and I can't stand to be around someon with all that negative energy. I am 35 and female. This is a major interuption to our normal lives. My finance allows them to stay with him to avoid hurricane season in their home area of Florida. I need help! (link)
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i really feel for you, and yes i think that is extreamly excesive 8 weeks, omg i think i would go nuts if my mother in law stayed with me for 8 weeks. i would have a serious talk with my man and not try to tell him what to do but definatly let him know that you feel with you guys getting ready to start your life together, you need your privacy.by the age of 47 i would hope he was able to talk to his parents and explain what is wrong, unless it dosent bother him and if it dosent you have a whole nothr set of issues to deal with. i had to stay with my mother in law with my husband and son for about 3 weeks a few years ago, and let me tell you i did everything not to kill the woman, and we ushally get along well. i ll tell you what i got more motivation than i have ever had in my life to get the hell out of there,lol.maybe you could suggest that as an option, you could go stay somewhere and let him have all that quality time with his parents, and then see how long that lasts. good luck
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(warning, long)Okay - I've fairly recently had to go through two deaths of one close family friend and a friend of mine. I am now very, very scared to have to undergo another funeral, and also, when the family friend died, my mother took it very hard even though she wasn't even all that close to him. A couple of my relatives are in failing health, and not to sound like a downer, but they will be passing on soon. Does anybody have any ideas as to how I could prepare myself for this, cope, and try to help my mom along as well? (the not-so-healthy family members are on my mom's side..) (link)
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wow that will be very hard for your mom, and i am sorry for your losses as well. i would suggest just letting your mom know that you are there for her, and actually do it. when she cries hold her and talk about it with her,all she really needs now is to know that you will be there no matter what. i wish you and your family well.
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I'm 27 married 3 months ago. I'm not prepared to get pregnant. How to do sex without get pregnant but i dont want to use condoms. (link)
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well there are several forms of birth controll, you can take the pill, get a shot every three months, use a diaphram, use spermacide although i have heard you need to use another forn of birth controll with it. i applaud you for being so smart and taking the precautions to have a child when you are ready. kids are wonderful, but belive me it they are nothing to jump right into especially when you first get married, you and your husband are still learning about each other, good luck and if i can help you in any other way let me know.
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See my Grannie died and thats my mom's mom. My mom has been taking it pretty hard latley and she sometimes crys and gets mad and I just feel so bad for her cause its her mom and she loved her alot. Everytime I see her cry I want to confort her but I don't really know what to do or say. She has lost 7lbs in the last 2 weeks and she hasn't been eating right and she is all depressed and empty. She is really scering me and I don't know what to do.
Please Help Me. Thanks in Advance and No stupid answers. (link)
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my grandmother just passed away as well and it was also my moms mom. she has been very torn up about it, they were very close. i at first didnt know what to either, i wanted to hug her and tell her everything is going to be ok, but that kind of stuff just dosent work for her, so a good friend gave me some really great advice, it worked wonders for me and i hope it helpes you to. i was told to talk to my mom like take her out for coffie or what ever it is your mom likes to do, and make sure it is just the two of you. and tell her you know she is going through a rough time, and you couldnt even begin to imagine what you would feel like if you were in the same situation. let her know you are completely there for her no matter what time, or what you are doing. then tell her that you thing the two of you should do something in your grandmothers honor, maybe something she loved to do as a child, or make a memorial for her what ever is fitting to her and your budget, and make it a regular thing to do with your mother to pay tribute to your grandmother in your own special little way. i hope this helps.
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Ahh okay so I have a twin brother and well he uses me for my friends and he always goes with me everywhere and my mom doesnt get that I dont want him around I always to to talk to her about it but sheh doesnt listen..pleaseeeeeee help (link)
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have you tried talking to your brother about it. maybe you could try and help him find some friends of his own.
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Im 13 and i feel like im not wanted. my mom has a new bf and my dad has a new gf and my brothers 18 and is in a serios relationship so i feel like im not wanted cuz there always with someone else what should i do? (link)
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i would suggest talking to each of them privetly and let them know how you fee, they may have no idea you feel the way you do.
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Ok me and my friend recently went to the movies and we missed our show so we were jsut hanging out and talkting to this really hot guy.So we told him we would come back next friday ( because he works there) and so I asked my mom and she said she wanted to go but she would just see another movie.I really dont want her to go so how should I say that without hurting her feelings??Should I say just goo shopping or something?!?! (link)
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well if your mom wants to see another movie, it just might work out.or you could just tell her the real reason you want to go , who knows she just might understand, and she would feel like she could trust you.
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