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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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I want to do something special for each of my parents. They do so much for me so I want to show them how much I care. So what should I do? Nothing that costs a lot...Like Breakfast in bed is a good idea, but 1. I have school and 2. They wake up before me...any ideas??? (link)
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hear are some good Ideas that I think u will like...
you can do any meal for them. you can make it fancy with menus; candle light, music and stuff, or simple with a bowl of pasta.
also if you have younger siblings, you can watch them while your parents go on a special evening
doing something they would normally do, and doing it with out them knowing.
writing a note/poem 4 them.
there are so much stuff out there u can do, I hope this help, let me know if it does.
best luck; let me how it turns out.
~Teen Guru~
PS. I think its cool you’re doing stuff for your parents. keep it up
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I cold always talk to my cuzin. About everything. but one day she just broke down about everything. Now i dont think i can talk to her anymore what should i do (link)
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Well depending on the age of you and your cousin and what you mean by “Broke down” will depend on what can be done.
The younger the both of you are the longer it will most likely take to correct.
With what you have been given me, I believe your cousin has what is called a overload, or as you called “break down” both describe that the mind can’t take much more info at that time. It is nothing to serious, it usually happens to those who are young who just learn something monumental. All you can do is to wait till they process it, and are ready for more.
Talk about it, as your cousin, see you maybe put too much on her plate to handle. I know from experience, that if it is a overload/break down then she’ll overcome it. However do not try to confined in her until she is ready.
When you do finally start confining in her, be front with her. Say “I don’t want you be overwhelmed by this, so it starts to get too much, than tell me and we’ll stop for a time”.
Let her make the pace.
It is important to confined in someone. But sometimes we choose the wrong person to confine in. If it something serious, then you may need to talk to a more mature mind (someone who is older and had more experiences, like a parent, teacher, etc.)
Best of luck to you, and maybe you may be able to have your cousin confined in you to help her get through this.
I hope this helps you/let me know if it did.
~Teen Guru~
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For a musical I am doing with a lot of dancing, I need to wear character heels. My parents are "opposed" for some reason against my character heels because they think it's a health problem for me, even though the heel is only one inch and the whole thing is built for dancing in. They want to buy me other shoes, but I need to wear my character heels! What can I do to convince them? They are CONVINCED that their way of thinking is right without listening to me, too. (link)
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It this case tell them that the director will not allow anything else. If that doesn't work get a note from your director stating that you need them. I hope this helps let me know if I did.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. as we say in the theater, “Break a Leg”
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ok so today my dad invoted me and my bro to go the the batting cages. I went for fun and plus i love baseball. SO i was doing awesome on hitting the baseball and everything but my dad never even payed attention to me. Then he was like why dont you try the softball. and i didnt want to but he made me anyways. But it serioucly screwed up my baseball hitting and i sucked at softball and he was encouraging me there. But like i said he never watched my hitting the baseballs... he was totally ignoreing it. Is he one of those dads that thinks girls cant do sertain sports? i mean i hate softball... but its like he doesnt give me a chance and theres no way im a girly girl... plz help!! sorry that its so long.. (link)
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Well for starters I don't think you should be a "Girly Girl". not there is anything wrong with it, from what you told me, it’s just not you.
Start off telling your dad EVERYTHING you just said, then never let him you who you are, That is not HIS PLACE!
I’m sorry you have such a dad, I have known many that where just as bad, if not worst. but keep this in mind, you’re only stuck with it for a while.
I hoped this helped and that it works out for you. Let me know how it goes and if I helped.
~Teen Guru~
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My best friend is 16 now but she has been getting abused by her dad since she was old enough to walk. I saw him punch her in the face one time and bang her head against a wall. I am really scared for and her sister because I have seen him hit her too. She's asked me not to tell but Im scared that if I keep quiet that one day he might really hurt her. We tryed calling the police on him one time but they wanted to press charges against us and not him. I dont know what I should do and I dont know how I can help her. (link)
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Dear Good Friend:
I will tell you what I have told others. My father was very abusive to me and my siblings. No parent has any right what so ever to hit there children, the wounds of abuse do not heal easy especially the longer it is being done Trust me I Know.
Your friend is a victim just like so many others, how ever there is hope. I have only one thing I can say in this matter (for the final chose is yours) if you do nothing your friend will must likely be beaten by her father. The founding fathers put it best in The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies, “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” though it talks about separation of a country from another, it also applies to any type or form of units. The family is no exception to it.
So my friend if you choose to do nothing, nothing will happen and nothing will change. Yes it is scary and difficult, but when in life were the things worth wile easy? I hope it works out for you and best of luck. I’m sorry I can’t say more but in this matter I can only show you the door, you must open it yourself.
Farwell my friend.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. try going to an adult you both [your friend and yourself] trust. (a teacher, a parent, or who ever else) and also no one can't press charges on you for reporting abuse.
Please let me know how it works out.
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hey,
well you know how my sis and bros are always getting me into trouble even with things i don't do,my dad always hits me for no reason and sometimes my sis does something bad and blames it on me and my dad hits me,sometimes for no reason..there's never one day were he doesnt.. he hits me about 4-6 time a day for things i didnt even do..i tell him i didnt do them but he doesnt believe me he believes my sis and bro cuz they are younger,i try talking to my mom but she doesnt listen or believes me anyways she is never home so she never sees how my dad treats me,i want to talk to someone in my school ,a counsulor(w/e its spelled) but i'm shy and scared i dont want my dad to go to jail or anything but i just cant stand it anymore when he hits me like mad for absolutly no reason..and also bosses me around i understand thats his job but...i mean he tells me to pick up my SIS OR BROS OR HIS stuff but its not fair why cant he boss my sis and bros around i mean its there mess sometimes i tell him 'why should i its not my mess why would i need to pick that stuff up'..but he just hits a bunch of time and i csnt defend myself cuz he might keep hitting me harder and that hurts....what should i do? (i sometimes think about cutting but thats not the way out of a problem so i dont i just hold in my anger? (link)
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Greetings
I to have came from similar situations. My father was very abusive to me and my siblings. How ever it seems to me that there is more than one type of abuse being done in your situations. The fact that you are being hit is defiantly abuse and no parent has any right what so ever to hit there children, however it seems that your siblings are also being abuse. Not so much physical but emotional and psychological abuse is being played here (and those will be harder wounds to heal, especially the longer it is being done Trust me I Know).
You are a victim just like so many others, how ever there is hope. I have only one thing I can say in this matter (for the final chose is yours) if you do nothing you father will most likely continue to hit you. The founding fathers put it best in The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies, “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” though it talks about separation of a country from another, it also applies to any type or form of units. The family is no exception to it.
So my friend if you choose to do nothing, nothing will happen and nothing will change. Yes it is scary and difficult, but when in life were the things worth wile easy? I hope it works out for you and best of luck. I’m sorry I can’t say more but in this matter I can only show you the door, you must open it yourself.
Farwell my friend.
~Teen Guru~
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