Call MeSKY
i;m 16 and i live in New York, The reason i decided to give out advice because i have been through alot in my life,
-I grew up without a father,
-dealt with abuse up till recently,
-dealt with many mental issues,
-dealt with death in a close knit family,
-dealt with disease.
-Jerk Boyfriends
-Sex issues
-Step Sisters
I've been through a lot, but it only made me stronger. I know what it feels like to be down, to be lower than you've ever been before, Sometimes you just need someone, even if you don't know this person just to talk too. When friends aren't as supportive as they should be, and parents aren't there. Thats why I'm here. I'm not perfect with advice but i will tell you straight up and do my best to help. No matter how big or small a problem is. I will be as open as i possibly can, and maybe just maybe( No promises though) i will help. Just know that talking is a good way to solve any problem..
-Sky-
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i posted a question asking 'can one person be the cause of a dysfunctional family?' and LagunaBabe directed me to this site: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysfunctional_family i read the article and immeditally started crying. i know that now, my dysfunctional family is affecting me and the way that i am. but i dont know how to change it. i dont want to end up bad. i only have 2 more years until i can legally move out. while my parents aren't addicted to drugs or alcohol, they are very controlling... i realized that all of these following symptoms from the article are true:
-Conditional love
-Disrespect
-Stifled speech (children not allowed to dissent or question authority)
-Emotional intolerance (family members not allowed to express the "wrong" emotions)
-Ridicule
-"Dogmatic or chaotic parenting" (harsh and inflexible discipline)
-"Denial of an Inner Life" (children are not allowed to develop their own value system)
-Social dysfunction or isolation"
am i going to end up bad because of my dysfunctional family? im scared that im the cause of my dysfunctional family.
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I to have what people call a dysfunctional family and im not bad...
you are your own person and your family does not define who you are..
As long as you set goals for yourself and plan you life and stay on the right path you will be fine..
I have so much faith in you...
Coming from a dysfunctional family is a hard thing to deal with.
It put stresses on a child that are so hard and sometimes the child may not be able to deal it which could cause the child to be put on path in which is not a good one.
Only the child can change their path, and i see just in your writing that this is not the case for you.
Stay strong, don't let your dysfunctional family get the best of you because you are the only one that can make yourself bad.
Dysfunctional families are not caused by one person and im sure your not the cause.
Have a talk with your parent as awkward as it may be it may help..
If you need any more help im here
-Sky-
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Ok well i want to go easter show this thursday and im 14 turning 15 lols and i really want to go but my parents wont let me there to scared to let me go with my bestfriend tey think soem will happen tome ii told them gimie the phone nuthing will haoen just clal me and check up no any advice on ehat ii can say to them please (link)
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Show them that your responsible..
Thats the only way they are going to let you go.Showing them that you can act responsible will get them to think about the show more.
-sky-
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Ok, so my mom installed this internet filter called CyberPatrol. It's really annoying because it won't allow me on way too many sites! It pops up for the most unnecessary reasons!!! usually its for "chat", "glamour and intimate apperal" and "drugs alcohol and tobacco"!!!! I'm a 13 year old girl and this Stupid filter isn't allowing me to Chat with my friends or shop or even allow me on any websites were they even Mention the word cigarettes! Please help me! 1.tell me if you agree with me. 2. I don't want to know how to hack into cyberpatrol, but I want to know how to get my mom to be reasonable with me! Is It because she doesn't trust me? Does she think I'm gonna go on 'adult' websites? PLEASE DO NOT tell me that she just wants to 'protect' me from junk on the internet, because that's not the problem!
In short...I just want my mom to be reasonable! (link)
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My mom was that way when i was your age.
She does want to protect you and i know why she does.
Have you tried going up to her like a mature adult and asking her to remove this so you can chat with your friends.
Try talking with her im sure she will reconsider if you go to her in the right way.
Anything problem can be solved if you attck it the right way.
think about it!
-sky-
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my mom and dad like to yell at me all time, but when it come to my sister and bother they at all, it like every think i do is wrong, every thing i say is wrong. i try 2 make them happy and proud of me,but it seems to fell every time. WHAT DO I DO TO MAKE THEM HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I know how you feel im the same way..
I have come to realize that its not them you want to make happy but yourself..
Strive to make yourself happy..
and eventually everything will be right...
Just remember that everything you do int wrong and as long as your happy thats what matters.
The Sooner you learn this the easier things will be
-SKY-
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