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"People seem to enjoy asking if the glass is half empty of half full. They stop smiling when I tell them it'll be all empty when I dump it all over their heads."
--Jimmy Fallon.

I guess I'm kinda the cynical optimist. People take this world entirely too seriously sometimes, and I really just like helping people when they need me.

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dear everybody,
I'm sort of stuck. I go to this church that the rest of my family likes a lot, but i don't. I really like my old church and I really want to go back, but the rest of my family doesn't like it. i don't know what to do! I told my mom about it and asked if i could go to church with one of my friends, but she got REALLY mad and made me feel really guilty. Does anybody know what to do? Thanks!

I've been through this except it wasn't a new church. I just liked my friend's church a lot better. You need to explain to her why you like your old church more, stress to her that it's not the people you go to church with, it's about what you get out of it, sit her down, talk to her. Make sure it's not yelling and try not to get angry. You need to prove to her you're adult enough to decide what church you attend. Well, good luck!

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sorry it's long...
okay. i'm depressed. yesterday was the worst day ever. it was two of my sisters birthdays. my youngest sister passed away before she saw her first birthday. my older sister... well she was like drinking all the time and sneaking out of the house al the time and sleeping around. well she moved down to my dads and upset the whole family. yesterday just reminded me of all the bad things that happened and i was really cranky. i yelled at my b/f and best friend and now i feel really guilty. how can i make it up to them when i'm so upset?

We all have our days. I don't think you should worry about it too much. These people care about you, and if they know what's going, they'll understand. You just need to talk to them, let them know you're not angry with them. It'll all be alright.

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Me and my family have been spliting apart this past couple months, my mom left my dad and found someone else. Im not sure how to accept this because it seems like she left my dad to be with him.but here lately my dads been tryin to but all the pressure of his on me and trying to make me feel bad about it and it works i dont know what to do about it though.

At a time when everything seems to be falling apart, you have to be strong. You need to tell your father this isn't your fault, and he needs to step up and deal with his own problems. Make sure he knows you're willing to talk to him, still love him, all those good family things, but you are not the cause of these problems. My dad has tendencies to do the same thing, but you just have to be assertive about the situation.

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my sister broke up with her bf last night becasue all he did was talk abotu ho upset he was abotu things. tom orrow is christmas and i dont want her to be upset @ christmas usualy she tells me things but right now she won t talk to me what can i do to cheer her up.

Give her a little space for a while. This can't be easy on her, especially during the holiday season. Just let her know that you love, and you'll stand by her no matter what. She simply might not want to talk about things yet. Who knows, by tomorrow with her family, Christmas and some gifts-she might feel a lot better about things. Good luck!

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I am 35 and my older sister is 37.
I am a creative, intellectual type and she is a practical, common sense type. She does not understand me or why I love to read so much. She considers my creative writing a waste of time. What I love, she has no value for. What can I do or say to help her understand me? We are so different. She is a great sister otherwise.

Do you have things she does that you don't understand? Compare those things for her. Let her know that it's all relative, maybe she doesn't understand that. Also, if that doesn't work, let her know that your time is your time. However you chose to spend it should be respected by her. It's not her choice to make on what's good and what's bad. If she's as great as you say, then she'll understand eventually. Maybe she's even just a tinge jealous of your creativity. She insults it because she doesn't have it? Just an idea. Well, good luck!

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Just yesterday i was playing on my computer trying to zone out from my problems and my sisters. Well anyways i'm juast asking for tips to help me out because i cant use my computer anymore and i need to zone out instead of remaining depressed like i have been for a while. I would tell people about my depression but i am very shy and i dont really like to talk. I need any tips to zone out and i will rate high for them............................. please help me out im going crazy!!!

You need to do something to rid yourself of build-up negative energy. Doing some exercise take cares of two things at once. You'll feel better physically, you'll look better and more toned if you stick with it. This will in turn help your confidence so not only will you be healthier, but you'll also feel better mentally. Dancing is great for this. It's just fun, and it's good for you as well. If you don't want to do it in public, turn on some music you can really move to! It might be just what you need.

You need to talk to a friend or actually, someone you don't know very well might help. I like talking to people I'm not that close to sometimes becuause they don't judge. They don't go into with these pre-formed opinions of you. Writing is great for ridding yourself of bad thoughts or feeling bad. You never need to worry about a pen and paper telling someone or being able to relate. It works out pretty nicely I think.

Do things for yourself. Sit in your room, light a candle and read for a while or listen to some music. You need to relax from time to time. Life's pretty hectic for all us these days, don't forget to enjoy life despite the crazyness.
Well, good luck :-)

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