my mom is a freaking loser!!!!!! when i go shopping she makes me buy theres freakishly large sizes!!!! im only 110 pounds and 14 and a girl and im 5`3 so i thought i would fit into an extra small shirt since thats what the lady working at abercrombie and fitch said i should try! i tried it and it fit great and there was even a little extra room so if i gained a few more pounds I could still wear it and my mom started screaming at me in front of everyone in the store and made be buy a large and i looked like a goon wearing it because im nowhere near a large!!! and then i was looking at the skirts i tried on a 1 and i was like mom can i get this she said what size is it and i said 1 and i said and it fits me see and look its even a little big and she started screaming at me again and made me buy a 4 and do you know how big a 4 was on me!!!?? i wore it to school the next day and i got atleast 20 comments about how big the skirt was on me and i spent the whole day pulling it up and then the skirt fell off me when i stood up in social studies class and there i was standing there in my underwear and i cried!! and yesterday i bought a pair of sweatpants at hollister and they ran in xs,s,m,l, & xl and my mom was making me buy a large and she and the lady working at hollister got in a fight because the lady working at hollister said i wont be able to fit into that and my mom was screaming at her so i went in the dressing room and tried it on and it was so huge for me and i rolled it over 4 times and it was still loose but my mom said i will get tons of use out of it and i will never grow out of it!! but ill never grow into it either! i cant stand it all my friends come over they look through my closet and see all these larges and size 7 jeans when im super skinny. they think im trying to be fat and make fun of fat people... my moms a maniac and it gets me so mad that once i called her a whore because it just slipped out because shes so stubborn. and if i buy my own clothes without her there she says theres no way im keeping them because she says they are "too small" .. i cant stand her i just feel like punching her she gets me soooo angry. my moms a mad woman what the hell do i do??? and do you think shes being unfair and retarted? because i do!
Oh my god. I agree with you, she's insane!
Maybe she's jealous that your skinny or something because she wasn't when she was your age.
She probably just doesn't want your clothes too tight and all that crap.
So, she's like my mom. Except my mom isn't so bad. My mom just makes me get ONE size bigger.
The spaz is wasting her money. You really need to talk to her. Whenever you see her, say, "Look. Mom, I'm not going to wear this stuff. All you're doing is wasting your money. Why won't you let me wear normal sized clothes instead of making them so big that my pants fall down as soon as I stand up?!"
Or you can go shopping at the mall with some of your friends. Just ask your DAD for some money and go! If you don't want your mom to freak out about the clothes you get, buy a nice jacket while your there to wear over it until you get to school.
You can always talk to your dad about it if that other stuff doesn't work.
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My dad has always had a pretty big temper. He has definentaly put me into tears from his yelling quite a few times, and when ever i stand up for my self he just gets worse. well for the most part its never gotten to bad, but lately he has been terrible. Ususally my mom is in a good mood and she gets him to let up a bit but she got mad at me a week ago and lately she hasnt been helping me out. For the past week when ever im just minding my own buisiness he comes into my room and screams at me, and when ever i make a tiny mistake he wont let me foget it and rubs it in my face. Well last night i had a friend sleep over and we wanted o play quiji board. so we got it from my room which it right next to my parents room. well when we finished up we brought the board back up and we were litterally only in my room for 2 seconds when my dad walks in and brings me down stairs and begins to scream at me. saying how i had been up stairs making noise in front of his door for 20 minutes, he brings his face super close to mine and says really scarily next time you wake me up im going to be going to jail cause im gonna hit you so hard. then he screams how stupid i am until im finally in tears, and i try to defend myself and he says do you think im a liar, do you think im stupid, and he starts walking towards me, if it weren't for my brother being home for collage i swear he would have hurt me. i went back upstairs tears all down my face, my friend had heard everything. he always yells at me and calls me stupid and blames everything on me and i dont think im strong enough to take it. and when i tell my mom what he did she just reacts how she always does "dont worry ill talk to him'. but things never get better. advice please. thanks for taking the time to read this.
First of all, you sound brave if you stand up for yourself like that! :]
My dad does the same exact thing. No, I'm not just trying to make you feel like you aren't the only one and all that crap. He does the exact same thing. Except with the threats...he saves those for my mom, who doesn't do a thing. So, I know what you are going through and I'm not going to be an idiot and say, "Just walk away and everything will be fine." because I know EXACTLY what you are going through.
Try talking to a very close friend and tell her everything he does and start from the beginning. That way you have someone to go to when your dad does things like that.
Do you have a good friend who lives in your neighborhood? If so, she should be the one who you talk to. Ask her when your dad starts having the immature fits if its okay to spend the night at her house. Just quietly sneak to where your mom is and ask her if you can spend the night at the person's house and leave. That what I do and trust me, you feel a whole lot better! :]
In your situation, I would talk to your SCHOOL counselor as soon as you can.
Next time he has one of his tantrums get your cell phone and call 911 or a child abuse hotline.
Good luck!!!!
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14/f
Ok, before I give you the actual question, I'm going ot give you the background.
Here it goes,
It started yesterday, it was my dad and I, watching Jeapordy, and he was making fun of all the contestants, so I hit him in the arm, but then he hit me back, I don't think he realized how hard he hits, but it's very hard. So I hit him back again, and so on, and so on. But at one point he slapped/hit my leg so hard that it left a huge hand print, and I got so mad. My mom wasn't home at the time, I tried contacting her, but she didn't answer. So I took a picture of the mark. It was ok, after that, seeing how I got out of the house for a couple of hours with my friends.Then he and my brother, came to pick me up, we decided to go rent a movie. After that was over, this is going to sound childish, but we were arguing over who got the front seat. And my dad always takes his side, so I was frustrated, so frustrated, that when I got in the back, I said "I hate you both". My dad went "Hate is an awfuly strong word." Then I went "Fine I loathe you, I despise both of you." And it was a quiet car ride after that. When we got home, I had a serious attitude, and my mom wanted to know why. That's when I showed her the picture of my leg[from earlier]. She got really mad, and started hitting my dad. Since I was just as mad, I went upstairs to cool off, and watch the movie I had chosen. When it was over, I wasn't quite as mad, and we[my brother, dad and I] watched the other movie. That was fine.
But, when I woke up this morning, I woke up an hour late, so I jumped in the shower, and while I was in there, my dad comes in and goes "Your too late, Your too late." I have no idea why, but it irritated me. So I snapped back at him; "I can still take a shower!". After I got out, my mom came in and started telling me, that she was going to leave my dad, that we don't get along, and she's leaving us both behind. She asked if I deserved the hit on the leg. Then she goes that stunt you pulled, really screwwed things up.[Refering to showing her the picture, to get my dad in trouble.] And I wasn't allowed to go, where I had planned on going. So I slept. When I woke up, my dad was leaving for work, and he said "Bye." I said "Bye." And he goes, "I hope your happy." And as I sit here now, I can't help, but believe that I was responsible for my family falling apart. My parents have been otgether since they were 14, and I feel as though I ruined it all. That I was some sort of mistake. And I don't know what to do. Does anyone know how I can fix things? I'm feeling very depressed right now,and I have no idea what I'm going to do.
Thanks for anyone who tries.
I'm really sorry.
No, It is not your fault. Your parents (from what it sounds like) were ALREADY having problems.
If I were you, I would go talk to a school counselor, grandparents, aunt, uncle, or a close friend about everything.
If you really want them to get back together, apologize to them about everything.
Say, "Mom..Dad? I'm sorry for everything. I don't want you to split up. When I showed mom the picture, I was mad and I wasn't thinking. I'm really sorry. Mom, please don't leave. I'll do anything to make it up to you and to show you both how sorry I am."
Good luck!
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ok so my mom is an alcoholic and shes gotton 2 DUI's and she's gotton in a drinking and driving accident and shes gone to rehab and goes to alot of AA meetings but she still drinks aout oncce or twice a week and the only peoeple in my house is my mom and my little sister and me, since my dad died of cancer a few years ago. and since im the oldest i have responsibilty for the family since my mom cant really take care of me and my sister. i really want to talk to her and try to live a normal life but i dont know how. i just need advice on what your opinion would be on waht i should do.
Wow, I'm so sorry. I really am.
It's good to share your feelings with a friend, but it's also important to talk to an adult you trust. A school counselor, teacher, or a coach may be able to help. You could also try talking to your D.A.R.E. (Drug and Alcohol Resistance Education) officer if you have one. You can even try and find a sympathetic uncle or aunt to talk to about it. Because alcoholism is such a widespread problem, there are many organizations that offer confidential support groups and meetings for people living with alcoholics. Al-Anon, which is an organization designed to help the families and friends of alcoholics, has a group called Alateen that is for young people living with adults who have drinking problems. Alateen is not only for children of alcoholics, it can also help teens whose parents may already be in recovery. Another group called Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) also offers a variety of programs and resources for people living with alcoholics. You're not betraying your parent by seeking help. Keeping "the secret" is part of the disease of alcoholism - and it allows the problems to get worse. As with any disease, it's still possible to love a parent while recognizing that he or she has alcoholism. And it's not disloyal to seek help in dealing with the problems your parent's drinking create for you.
If no one that you talk to can help you then you can try this:
Make sure that she is not drinking.
Relax and without sounding angry, say, "Mom? Can I talk to you for a minute?"
Then wait for her to give you her attention.
Continue and say, "I can't keep living like this my whole life. When you drink, I have to be the one in charge. I have to take care of myself and (your sisters name). I just can't do it anymore. I just want to be like everyone else and live a normal life for once. I love you but, please, mom, just please, stop drinking."
If you feel that your situation at home is becoming dangerous, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE. And never hesitate to dial 911 if you think you or another family member is in immediate danger.
I hope I helped!
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