My names Becks, Im otherwise known as moon.
Im 20 years old,although I am not that old, I have lived alot, and have alot of experince with diffrent situations and feelings through-out life.
I have been a constant counciller, throughtout my life and have been told Im a good listener and I also give good advice.
I will always be honnest and blunt about what I think, but Im also very good at seing a problem from every angle.
More about me.
I and am studying to be a blacksmith, hopeing to start my degree at the end of this year.
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E-mail: Freakchildx@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: London(se)/ W.Sussex
Occupation: student
Age: 20
Member Since: March 10, 2008
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So, I don't actually believe my Father hates me, but he's deffinetly not like he usto be. He says I've grown up to be a bitch, and all this stuff and he's always accusing me of things I didn't do. He's accused me of stolen beer, messing with the thermostat and missing packs of ciggerettes- when I have two other older brothers who smoke, and drink! I'm 14, I don't drink, I dont smoke, I don't steal I don't anything and my Dad always yells at me. When I ask him for political help for my homework like the war in Iraq, and Isreal and Arabs he yells at me for being soo stupid I don't know, well that's why I go to him! So he can shead some light on the situation and explain things to me. I dont know why he always yells at me. Last year he had a heart attack and hasnt quit anything that would help him- so yehh I usto be horrible with that yelling at him all the time, and just being horrible. ive stopped swearing at him, but he doesnt give me anything to work with. I want him to be there, but he doesn't wanna be. I cook dinner for him, and he always complains that its cold or something and I always say "Well it didnt stop you from eating it" or " If it was so unbareable you couldve heated it in the microwave it's why we have one!" So I know thats being rude, but come one I cook WAY better then my Mother he should be happy! I want him to be, I want him to stop yelling at me all the time, I want him to care about my school day and be there for me. But he's not. He never will be- It's not fair that my brothers do all this stuff and he doesnt do anyything but I forget to start the dish washer and he'll hold it over my head for like years... I am crying right now because it's so hard living here, and putting up with him. I dont know why he doesnt love me enough to quit smoking and I dont know why he doesn't want to walk me down the ile with I get marride. I cant explain why he's always angry with me! Never his sons because they could get arrested and he wont care. And you can say he expects more from me, or whatever. But I wont buy that. If he really truly cared he'd wanna be here and hed want to hear about my day and tell me he loves me but he hasn't. maybe in 3 months..
He hasnt told me he loved me, or that he appreciates me in anyway. And I cant talk to him about it because he wont listen..
I dont know what I did to make him be like this, but I wanna fix it. So he wont be like this. (link)
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whoa.
I dont think that you should be blameing yourself at all here.
The way your father is acting doesnt actually mean that you have done something wrong.
Parents, although we all think that parents are perfect, and will never put a foot wrong, they are human and can cause as much pain as another person can.
I personally have nothing to do with either of my parents, because of the past pain they have brought into my life.
I understand this frustration you must be feeling, and the fact that you dont understand what your doing wrong,but as Ive said, just because your father is acting in this way does not mean you have done anything wrong.
You say you cant talk to your dad about it, but what about your mum ?
Couldent you write him a letter, or txt him or even email him, telling him how you feel, and say you feel unloved, tell him.
He should be aware about how his child is feeling.
On the whole smoking side of things, as a smoker, I can tell you it is one of the most hardest things to try and give up, and this honnestly has nothing to do with you, he should be giving it up for his own health, which in the long run does concern you having your father around.
Maybe your father is dealing with something,and this is why his acting this way towards you.
And maybe its because your the youngest, and to be honnest most teenagers (not all)do start to try drink and smokeing and drugs etc etc etc, and this might be why your father insatntly thinks of you, rather than your older brothers, because 14-18 is normally the ages of experiment.
Whatever the reasons your father is acting like this, its wrong that you are feeling this way.
My honnest advice would to write your feelings down and tell him,if he wout read a letter, txt him, he cant ignore a short blunt txt or even talk to your mum or brothers about it.
I hope this helps somewhat..
Moonshine x
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HELLO,
My 16 year old neice stole my daughters $350 sunglasses she bought with her own graduation money at a family x-mas party. This week I saw my neice wearing them. What to do. Parents are unapproachable and can be hostile. What should we do?? Neice is in counseling for similar issues.
Carol (link)
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I would suggest confronting your niece
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