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Ok i have a lil problem.Well I am 17 years old going to be 18 very shortly and i am almost 8 months pregnant which i am happy about.The problem is my mom.Shes happy and excitied about this baby but i feel like shes trying to tell me how to live my life and raise this baby and it is really starting to get to me and i told her this and she says that shes not trying to do that but i can see that she pretty much is doing that just dont realize it.And another thing is she keeps on argueing with me about my b/f(the father of my baby) which i have been with for almost 2 years now.Shes always on my back about him not having a job yet and trying to tell me what i should do when i dont want to do those things, which he is looking for one and going through this one thing to get a good job.And shes just always bitching at me and on my back for everything all the time and i dont need the stress right now and im getting sick of hearing about it and argueing with her.And we have talked about it before and she says shes just scared.But she needs to learn to stay somewhat out of my business which i always tell her because its my life and i am going to be 18 with a baby and i need to become responsible.And all of this is just making me really stressed out and dont know what to do at this point anymore.What do you think i should do??!! :*-( (link)
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hey...well i can see why your mom is on your back about it because all mothers have those motherly ways and instincts..she's only trying to help you but i see what you're saying..she's doing it the wrong way by trying to live and control your life for you...so you need to tell her that you're going to be a mom too and you have motherly instincts as well and she needs to let you do your own thing sometimes because you know what's best for your body since you feel it...and you need to learn to develop these motherly ways..and you never will if she constantly tries running your life...tell her that she can coach you and help you but she can't do it for you... another thing- about your boyfriend...tell her that if you've been with him for 2 years, then he's worthy and he will do everything he can for the baby [make sure he will and he knows he has to] and tell her that having these arguements and fights about things like that aren't necessary during your pregnancy because it causes a lot of stress and anger during the pregnancy which can lead to complications...the environment you're in should be calm- not hectic..especially now when you're at almost 8 months...it's getting down to the wire- you all need to sit down [all three of you] and calmly discuss the issues that are circulating around your family during this time...just make sure one person doesn't constantly dominate the conversation- well i hope i helped..good luck, let me know! :D
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Ok...Well My sister is 15 years old and has been doing alot of partying lately and messing around with guys much older than she is!Its been bothering me because im 17 going to be 18 shortly and i am going to be 8 months pregnant which dont get me wrong im happy about the baby and im not going to regret her but i just dont want to see my sister end up in the same situation at an early age if she keeps it up.She seems to think that what she is doing is fine but im worried about her ending up in a bad situation or getting a bad reputation.Any ideas on what i should do and do you think that what she is doing is wrong? (link)
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yeah what she is doing is wrong...i hate to come at you from this point of view- but maybe she's taking from your example..i'm not saying you did this but i'm asking...did you ever party and mess around when you were her age? because if so..you're her role model and she wants to be like you so when she saw you do things she probably thinks it's ok...another thing is maybe everyone in the family is taking really good care of you and paying a lot of attention to you so she's trying to get in the same situation so people will focus more on her...i like to think it's more of a cry for attention more than anything...she could be lacking attention at home and feel that not many people want to give it to her...so she goes to the people that she thinks will always give it to her...those guys- when really they want nothing more than some play from her... i think you should talk to your sister calmly and tell her that you think it's wrong and what you think is wrong and why...she should understand- and i hope you don't take anything i said personally or in a bad way...i didn't mean anything like that at all..good luck, and i hope i helped :D
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im 13, and my dad is turning 60 soon. i know thats not too weird if you have older parents, but my mom is only 40. and my dad is overweight but he's losing a lot. he used to be 300 lbs now he's 260. i know that thats good for him. and his dad lived to be 85, and his mom is 80 and shes still living. but im so scared of losing him before i grow up because i know all my friend's dads will be walking them down the isle when they get married but im soo scared that he wont be there for mine. how do i stop worrying? and im scared i'll break down while im talking to him about it so how can i? thanks (link)
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hey girl :D wow i have kinda the same thing going on - i'm almost 16 and my parents are 2 years shy of 60...so i know how you feel...my mom's mom died early, and my dad's dad died early...there's also health risks in the family...heart attacks, etc. so i know how you feel sometimes- if you want to talk to him...don't be scared of breaking down- it's totally ok to cry and he'll see how much you care even though he already knows it...more likely than anything he will be walking you down the aisle at your wedding...and never compare your parents to others- because no matter what, your parents will always be the best ever to you...and that's all that matters...i heard of girls whose dad's didn't live to walk them down the aisle and the girl's remembered their dads on that special day...no matter what he will always be with you walking you down the aisle and through life...whether he is physically there or there in spirits :D hope i helped ..good luck, let me know how you're doing!
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i've gotten really depressed lately. my parents relationship is (excuse my french) going to hell, and my sibs are mixed with alchohol.
my little sis is spoiled like god only knows, and i'm kinda left to life in the middle. i guess my mirror has a little play too... i'm 14, weigh 200lbs, and am 5'7. i'm starting to not eat that much anymore, and i really need some help with this. (link)
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aww...wow- seems like you've got a lot on your plate...but here's something- don't just flat out starve yourself, it will only make things worse- if you are wanting to lose weight...keep eating but just cut the portions a little, excercise and eat healthy...with your family- number one thing is don't feel like anything is your fault, even if you don't already...just remember that- your parents are having problems and all that you could really do is stick by your family...your siblings with the alcohol...try to sit them down and tell them that the only reason youre talking to them about it is beacuse you love them alot and care so much for them and would hate to see anything happen...if they are older- tell them youlook up to them...if they are younger, tell them that you're responsible as a role model and they shouldn't be doing that...your spoiled sister..there's really not much you could do- except talk to your parents about it at a calm time...tell her that she's not going to get anything that she ever wants all the time- because the world doesn't work like that...think of some family games to keep everyone interested and occupied..something that everyone can learn from- most of all..good luck and keep your head up..you'll be ok- =] hope i helped..let me know
love elle
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god ok my mom is s0o0o overprotective and doesnt trust me worth crap cuz im 13 and we already start havin bfs and my mom just thinks were all out to have sex and were all sluts n stuff and she wont let me go to the mall w/out a parent and she wont let me up past a certain time ((its the fricken summer! hullo! lol)) and then she wont let me go tanning cuz she says its taking a risk of gettin skin cancer since my brother had cancer and now shes waaaaaay to overprotective cuz of that and im sick of it! and shes always finding notes.. and she goes thru my backpack all the time and so now all im doing is hiding stuff from her and seriously its like im in jail and she says the next time she finds a bad note or finds out im doing stuff w/ guyz n stuff shes gonna like be around me 24/7 and i have to have a room next to her and im rilly scared thats wuts gonna happen.. wut should i do? (link)
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wow yeah that does seem a bit too overprotective but at the same time, i kinda see why your mom would do it- maybe she had a bad experience as a girl your age and her parents didnt do enough to protect her so she wants to make sure it doesnt happen to you..or maybe she's trying to protect you from the crazy world out there, which im sure she knows she can't protect you from everyhting since every person needs to experience everything on their own...but umm waht i would suggest, is sit your mom down, talk to her, tell her that you see what goes on...and youre responsible ...but have some compromises with her- tell her that you'll keep your curfew as long as she trusts you with things and respects your privacy by not goign through your stuff...have her meet your frieds so she knows who youre out with and what youre doing and then she'll see that you respect her wishes so she'll learn to respect yours too...chuck the notes when you can to keep yourself out of trouble and make sure you make a good impression..that's where trust comes from- good luck, let me know if i helped =]
love elle
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