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Hi. My name is Kaylin. But I'd prefer if you called me Captain Hitsugaya. Please and thank you!
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[14/f] my parents are divorced my dad is a great man, works 5 days a week and has been doing the same job for 13 yrs. My mother on the other hand has never been able to keep the same job for at least 2 weeks, and im not lying on that one. she has been going to College for 6 yrs. and hasnt even gotten her bachelors degree yet! Because she keeps changing her mind on "what she wants to be when she gets older" Well when she told me that she would be transferring AGAIN but this time to get her masters degree. I flipped! she was like whats wrong and i told her, YOU NEED TO GET A JOB! and you need to DECIDE WHAT YOU WANNA MAYJOR IN!!! im sick of it. Soo a day later she tells me i thought about what you said and im gonna start my own buisness selling pottery,(pottery is her hobby) and in my head i was thinking all i wanted her to do was get a little part time job maybe at like borders or something. Soo im like whatever i give up. Then i go away on vacation for 10 days come back and she throws on me, by the way i filled out a job application for Urbana Library (a library in my dad's neighborhood!!!!!) AHHHH i dont know what to do, someone please HELP ME! I want my mom to have a job BUT not one in my dad's neighborhood!, i mean one of the reason's why i like to come to my dad's house is to get AWAY from her, if you can't tell we dont get a long at all...i dont know what to do, please ANYTHING would help at this point, even just support. Thank you =]

well you can't do anthing about her behavior.And it's not your fault she does that.And I'm sure your Mom will be busy with her job and she won't bother you.I live with my Dad. I love him alot. My Mom works in the same neighbor hood as us. But it works out pretty good. So,I'm sure it won't be too bad.
And if that fails you can hang out with your friends alot more.That way,you won't have to be with her.
I'm really sorry it has to be like that.

~Hitsugaya~

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When I was little, my parents never spent time with me, never talked to me unless it was about something i did wrong, and really brought me down.

Now I'm 16, and I'm used to living without my parents basically. They're there, but not there for me.

I think my childhood led up to the reason why I don't have any esteem at all.

I'm trying to make up for those years by hanging out with my friends- and they're calling me "clingy".

I need to try and make up for those little positive moments i never had as a kid, I need to get my esteem past the level of zero.


Any advice on how I can do this?

Well your problem is mental. I'm not saying your crazy but growing up like that must have made you depressed all the time. You never had a real escape from it so it became your overall attitude. But now you are so miserable you just want out.
I suggest you just hold back on the clingyness. Your friends are already your friends cuz they like your personality.You don't have to hold on to them,they aren't going anywhere.So it's ok.
You also need to find a close friend or girlfriend/boyfriend who really understands you and helps build your confidence up.
tell yourself you are ok.it wasn't your fault your parents did that. just be you and people will love you for it.

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