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Q: I'm a freshman in high school and turned 14 about 5 months ago. Over the summer I started dating this guy, whose name will be X for the sake of saving space and keeping my identity somewhat hidden. X is my first boyfriend and he's a great guy. Our problem is that we go to two different schools. I barely get to see him. The last time we hung out was about 2 months ago. We've been keeping our relationship a secret because my parents are extremely idiotic and think that their daughter (me) shouldn't have a boyfriend until she's 16 at least. So because of this I can't leave my house to see him because I know they won't take me anywhere. A few weeks ago my dad found out about me and X because my brother was a snitch and told him. My dad yelled at me for a while but never told me to break up with X so I haven't. I love X but its pretty much impossible to see him unless he sneaks over like last time. What the heck should I do?

I agree with babegyal.
I think you should sit your mom down, by herself.
Tell her about this relationship with this guy, tell her he's a really great guy, and you'd atleast like to spend SOME time with him.
Your dad's just being a dad.
My dad still has problems with me going out, and I'm almost sixteen.
Your mom may be thinking of how she acted as a kid your age, maybe she thinks she done something that she dont want you to make the mistake of doing, early sex maybe? I don't know.
You definately don't need to let your brother know anything about the relationship, brothers tend to twist things a little.
I dont think you should bring up sex however, unless your mom does.
Good luck with your boyfriend!
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: i need a quote about someone who was very close toyou dying. most likely about my sister who died very young and i love her so much and i need a quote. thank you.

I'm sorry for your loss
I really like this one...

My sister couldn't be here,
Because she lives so far away.
But I know she wishes she could be,
Since this is such a special day.
And though you cannot meet her,
I wanted you to know.
All about my sister,
And how much she loves me so.
She loved to tell me stories
She taught me to ride my bike.
She surprised me with pink roses,
And taught me to fly a kite.
We used to share fudge sundaes,
and ice cream in a cone.
And though you cannot see her,
I'm not standing here alone.
Cause my sister's always with me
Even though we are apart.
I know because she told me,
She'll forever be in my heart...

Again, I'm sorry about your loss.
AA

Q: Ok I am pissed at my mom's new boyfriend. Cause it seems to me that he can not really committ to my mom. I know its not of my business but sometimes I feel that he is curious about me with things I dont want him to know about. And I feel like he thinks I am hot and I dont want him looking at me that way and when with hot I mean that is isnt in a way to compliment. I dont even want other man to do that.

Have you talked to your mom about this? If you feel that he is interested in you, I think you should talk to her. Explain why you feel this way. Maybe things will turn in your favor.
Hope I helped.
Goodluck.

Q: i love my mum but we tend to get mad at each other a lot..like for simple thing like...she not liking what im wearing.but mabey i might be rude sometimes? and sometimes she would shout at me even if i didnt do much wrong.so i need your help.help me to be able to talk to her so we dont break out into argument.HELP?

Just, talk to her about it.
If she gets angry, just listen to her.
I know you may think that she has no reason to get mad, but if you stop and listen to her, then maybe she has a reason, or maybe she is having problems at work, or maybe she's having relationship problems.
My boyfriend has this problem, him and his mom fight constantly.
I just tell him to roll it off of his shoulder and not argue with her, it helps him. And if you don't say anything back, maybe they'll think that your finally realizing, and theyll just leave you alone.
Or, listen to yourself when you talk to your mom, make sure your not being hateful.
I hope I helped.

Q: My cousin's grandpa just died. :(

I'm really close to my cousin, but I don't really know what to do or say to her cause I've never really had someone close to me die.

I was wondering what I should do?

I don't want to seem like a heartless person and I don't want to say the wrong thing and make her feel bad...

All advice is appreciated.

Thanks

The only thing you can do is to reassure her that your there for her if she needs you.

Like the person below me said, talk about old memories, some will make her laugh, others will make her cry.

Just be there for her.

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I'm a fifteen year old girl, that lives in the middle of no where, seriously! My parents are the best ever! They are the ones I go to for advise. I have an older sister, by three years, and a younger adopted brother, by 6 years.
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