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I have a friend who's been annoying me lately. I really hate to say it but I think she's fake, and a poser. (though I really hate that I think that) She's my best friend though. I just can't take it!! She copies me A LOT. She copies what I do, my style, my likes, what I say... It's really annoying and makes me want to say "think of your own freakin ideas!!!!" and give her a piece of my mind! She KNOWS I hate copycatters but I think she thinks that I don't mind, or that she's "not copying" me. I'm just myself, and when she tries to do something I do, it comes off as fake. To me at least. I really like being unique, different, and my own person, but it's hard to do that if she's JUST LIKE ME. She's changed though... Like on aim, I put my status message as "ca-call me, so I can make it juicy for ya!" A quote from one of Lil Wayne's songs. Then later, my friend put "Ayyy-bayy bayy! :]" or something like that. .__. I would do something like that (cause I'd wanna get back at her), but she might think I'M copying HER. Then she'd try to be better than me. I actually do have an away message like that, but didn't get the idea from anyone else. She's not even like "that" at all. I really don't mean to be rude. :[ but how can I get over this? I don't wanna be annoyed everytime she does something... It drives me crazy! Whenever I think of something kewl, it discourages me to share it with people because in the back of my head I'm thinking "uh oh what if so and so copies me and gets all the credit for it?" Sorry. I have a problem with copycatters. I just feel like she's stealing MY identity. It feels like a "competition" and I hate it. She makes it like that though. How can I not get annoyed and stop thinking about all the negative things? I want to think positive things and be happy. (I'm annoying myself cause I feel like I'm caring about something so stupid.) Sorry if this is long. D;

She's copying you, because she finds what you do interesting. You should be flattered, but instead you want something that's only yours.

This is actually how trends start: someone doing something spontaneous, and everyone copying them. Like, ten years ago, wearing all black and covering half of your face with your equally black hair would be considered weird and unacceptable by society. But, some people thought it was awesome, and, eventually, "emo" became a trend.

Instead of seeing it as an annoying competition, try thinking of yourself as a trend-setter. When a person does something like you, don't get mad and annoyed, I find it easier to give myself moral support and tell myself that I'm somewhat above them. But, then again, nobody likes a stuck-up person. Ignoring also helps.

Another method is to put yourself in their perspective or "shoes". For example, the AIM status message thing: you could try imagining yourself in your friend's position. **She saw your status message and thought that it was cool, but she didn't want to full-out copy you, so she mixed up the words and such. She at least tried.



**This is an assumption, I don't know what she was actually thinking!!!!!



You can also talk (without getting angry!!!!!) to your friend, but that will probably lead to an argument and make things worse.

In reality, this is a silly thing to be annoyed by, but I know how it feels. More importantly, this is a silly thing to ruin a friendship over. Don't push this little thing, O.K.? Aren't friendships more important than your pride?


I hope I helped!!

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I need some recommendations for a digital camera. It has to be more or less compact (when you turn it off, the lens goes back inside of the camera). It has to take extremely good pictures, and have a video recorder. I could care less what it looks like, so don't try finding me the first cute camera that pops up on google. I want quality and something small. My budget is $500, but if I'm going to spend 500 bucks on something, it better be good.

17/F

I have had my camera for a month, a rock concert, and a trip to New York, and it has never failed to give me superb pictures and video.

http://www.kodak.com/eknec/PageQuerier.jhtml?pq-path=12416&pq-locale=en_US&_requestid=329

^ that is a link from the Kodak store, and it costs $200, but I got my camera at a Target store for $160.

It takes pictures quickly, and has a giant, glossy screen. It's about a half-inch thick, ~2.4 inches long, and ~1.5 inches tall. I use a bulky, cheap, camera pouch-thing to keep it safely cushioned whenever I'm not using it, but it fits easily in my jean pockets (now that I think about it).

I have found the Kodak software for both the camera and the computer to be easily-used and user-friendly.

This is a picture that I took earlier today (of the hand-strap that comes with the camera..):

http://i224.photobucket.com/albums/dd51/panic_4_evr/100_0038.jpg


Hope I helped!

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I wanna buy a new camera to produce good photos

i was watching lost series one on boxset and at the end disk there is a bonus feature of MAtthew Fox's photography

it is amazing !
so goood !
he is fantastic haha

i want a camera that can produce pictures like that
one that can do both good colour and good black and white photos
i wanna capture the moment!

any help will do thanks xxx

I recommend that you read Photography magazines. I actually read a Reader's Digest once that was completely over photography!
They have really helpful info, like what camera is the best for what kind of shot and whatnot!

Happy camera hunting!

-S

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I want to write a book, I would like to know what kind of book you would like to read. I prefer teen girls to answer this question. Any tips and advice would be helpful too!
Thanks :]]

I'm just assuming, but most teenage girls like romance. Preferably the kind of gushy, problematic, forbidden love that only happens in books.
Personally, I love fantasy romance. Such as Twilight by Stephanie Meyer.
In Twilight, the main character is clumsy and easy to relate to; she's not a superhero. In fact, Bella is even more normal than I am! But then! Edward, a mysterious, seductively handsome vampire, HATES her. But, of course, they fall madly in love. But not with ease...
I think readers enjoy the journey of waiting for the main characters to fall in love and when the characters are oblivious to their love, rather than when they have confessed and such.
So, if you really want the normal teenage girl to enjoy a book, I would write a romance.

Hope I helped!

-S

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I have Zelda the phantom hourglass for my nintendo DS but i am stuck on a part...when you can't get past the fog on the northern part of your sea chart and you have to go to the Spirit Island how do u make the fog go away any help is appreciated

I remember that!
What island were you at before you have to go through the fog?
There's a specific pattern to sail through it that you can find on that island...
Sorry! I can't remember very well, but here's a list of walkthroughs:

http://www.supercheats.com/nintendods/thelegendofzeldaphantomhourglasswalkthroughs.htm

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theres this song that i keep hearing but i have no idea what it called i think it goes like this:

she hit the floor
(she hit the floor)
she bang it low
(she bang it low)
low low low low low

thats the chorus
if you could help me and tell me what the song is i would be ecstatic thankss:)

Low -- Flo-Rida

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female

the back of my neck has a lot of hair on it and its pretty long. its also dark and thick so its really noticable when i put my hair up. its really embarassing. what should i do?

If it's long enough, you can use barrettes to pin it to the back part of your hair when you have your hair in a ponytail.

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I know that tour dates are being posted soon, but does anyone know when they're going on tour again and if it will be along the east coast?

also, who will they be touring with?

=]

http://www.myspace.com/jonasbrothers

That website has a list of their upcoming shows.

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Thông tin thành viên

first of all...what language is that? and what does it mean? i already tried freetranslations.com but they couldnt do it.

It's in Vietnamese and (according to the below website) means "Information Member"

http://www.wisdom.com.my/wisve2/ve2.asp

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someone is saying that i am stalking a guy that i dont even care for but i used to like a lot how can i handle this and will karma come around and do the same thing to them

Just ignore them. As long as you know the truth, it doesn't matter.
Oh! You can always confront the guy and talk it over with him. (It's always better to go to the source instead of the mob, and also there's less of a chance that you will have to physically fight them if you talk to the guy).
If you believe in karma it will, I guess. But don't rely on karma too much, you might jinx it. Try to solve the matter instead of waiting for them to "get a taste of their own medicine" -- which would be stooping down to their level.
Hope I helped!
=3

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Has anyone seen InuYasha Episode 17 Subbed that actually works? Veoh doesn't work--any other site that shows it? I repreat
InuYasha---Episode 17--Subbed
I would really appreciate it!

http://anime6.org/?p=94

Here's a link for all of the InuYasha episodes, though they're dubbed (english audio).
Hope I helped ^-^

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What do i do if my friend uploaded a video on youtube and many people called her a chink with many other racist comments? Is making racists comments about their nationality a good idea?

Just ignore what people say!
It's best to rule out race completely when you talk to other people (online or in real life).
You never know what might offend someone!

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I just want some opinions on what everyones favorite cell phone provider is. Such as, cingular, verizon, tmobile, etc. Can everyone please just tell me which they prefer, and why. It's alot easier having people tell you what's best when they actually HAVE the plan, rather than researching on their websites... because most give biased opinions and really aren't as kind as they seem. Thanks so much :)

I have cingular, most of my friends have cingular.
I have one friend who has verizon, it sucks big time, whenever I call him, my call always gets dropped.
My mom has used cingular for the past 5 years, and never once has she gotten a dropped call!
Cingular is even better now, since at&t and them joined.
I have free weekends and after 7 weekdays. I love cingular, though it might not be the best if you text a lot. I never text, so it all depends on how you use your phone and where you live!

Do what suits you best,
Sara

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hey. well, i'm really into romantic-comedy movies. so can anyone tell me some really good ones? some examples are Sleepover, 13 Going on 30, Because I Said So, and just movies like that. i don't want super old movies, but they don't have to be brand new. they can be movies in theaters that are out right now too. thakns!

Pride and Prejudice.
I'm talking about the five hour long one. I saw it at target the other day, so it shouldn't be hard to find.
You might actually learn something, also!

Sara

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ok i'm 13, female from new york
i was watching united 93 i tihnk it was the most horrifying/depressing/scary movie i have ever saw, and i almost couldnt watch it, but i did anyway. i understood what happened that day i think. but can someone explain to me exactly what happened the day of 9/11 in detail?
dont tell me to reseach it, and i dont remember what happened cause i was in 3rd grade. thanks

Sorry, I don't want to have to summarize it!
Here's the Wiki link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/September_11%2C_2001_attacks

Anyways, remember that the government is juicing out
everything that happened that day!!
"Thousands of people died!!! Oh no!!"
Ya, well buddy, thousands of people die every day anyway, and we got more than enough illegal immigrants to take their place! Man!
I'm not against illegal immigrants, I believe they should make it so they shouldn't HAVE to be illegal!

Hope I helped =/
14/F

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thank you do you think my poem is deep to you? and if not what should i do to make it deep? thanks

You're welcome!
Ya, it was awesome!
I went through the same thing, so I can really relate to it!
^-^

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anybody know the zip code for cincinatti ohio???

depends on where in Cincinnatti
anyway, here's a list of them
http://cincinnati.areaconnect.com/zip2.htm

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please someone whos good at poems correct this poem? im really bad at writing poems but what do you think about this poem please be honest sorry i messed up a lot i was just trying to make it rhyme and stuff.( i know u dont have to make it rhyme but i did =P)and can someone give me an idea for a title? thank you

EX:This poem is about my good close friend moved yesterday...=/ im really sad so i wrote this i need your honest opinion and i want you to correct it thank you so much =]



You told me your moving miles away
I couldn’t say anything, left me speechless Didn’t want to get hurt, so I tried to drift away
I was scared, it was like me trapped in the darkness
She began to notice, and asked me why I’ve been ignoring her
I knew I was avoiding her but I denied and said her “I’m not “
I tried to act so cold like I didn’t care, and avoided her like she was a stranger
But the pain is getting stronger each day and its hurting me like I was shot

Time passes by, it seems like we don’t really talk anymore
But I thought about the good and bad times we had
Like we always talk to each other and talked about deep thoughts…before
But now we don’t, what happened?It was my fault for distancing myself from you I felt bad

So I wrote her a goodbye letter, and gave it her with my teary eyes
Trying not to be sad and pretending I’m okay
Tomorrow is her last day, and my mind was fulled with goodbyes
I couldn’t sleep, my heart was being so fast like I was being chased by a lion in railway


Last time I’m gonna see her, I told myself not to cry and say bye
When the bell rang, my heart was already pounding I couldn’t take it
My teardrops starting to come out and I began to cry
More than I thought, she tried to cheer up but she couldn’t so she quit

She left me behind, I was blaming myself for everything
I didn’t want to cry she turned back one last time
I regret everything I did and I’m still crying
It was like a rain, teardrops wont stop falling in school time
I found myself thinking….
One day, I’ll see my friend again and be happy again someday, sometime…

What Happened?


You told me you're moving miles away
I didn't want to get hurt, and I didn't know what to say
I was scared and trapped in the darkness
You began to notice, and asked me why I’ve been ignoring you
Though that was the truth, I fibbed saying “I’m not"
I acted so cold like I didn’t care
And avoided you like a stranger
But the pain grows stronger each day like being shot over and over.

Time passes by, it seems we don't talk anymore
I still think of our good and bad moments.
We would always talk to each other and talked about deep thoughts, before
But now we don’t, what happened?

So, gushing tears, I wrote you a goodbye letter
I gave it to you pretending to be O.K.
Tomorrow is your last day, and my mind was fulled with goodbyes
I couldn’t sleep, my heart was racing as if I were being chasing by a train



Last time I’m gonna see you
I told myself not to cry when I say my goodbyes
When the bell rang, my heart was already pounding I couldn’t take it
My teardrops starting to come out and I began to cry
More than I thought, you tried to cheer up but she couldn’t so she quit

You left me behind, I was blaming myself for everything
I didn’t want to cry she turned back one last time
I regret everything I did and I’m still crying
Like rain, my teardrops never seemed to end
One day, I’ll see you again and be happy
What happened?

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So, I had a chocolate, and well, they're horrible. Mine broke while still under warranty, so I got a new one free. Now I can get a completely different phone, but I figured I would just sell the free chocolate I was sent and never used. My question is, if I sell the phone I never used, would the person I sell it to have it with my number programmed in when they registered the applications? When I looked at the receipt, I noticed that the chocolate I had never used was registered to my number. If it is, in fact, programmed with my current number in it, how can I change that? Thank you very much!

I'll add on to the previous post:
No, your number won't be programmed into the phone, there should be a SIM card that you place next to the battery that basically says that it's you calling from that phone. Without the SIM card, the phone is just a phone. They did that because like for landlines, you have to have the wires connected from the phone box into the phone, or else the phone is just a phone, the wires give you service because you're paying for the service. For cell phones, they had to have something like that, or else the whole getting a new phone thing would be messy, once you didn't want your first phone, and you got a new one, the first one would still work, and so would the new one.
That might not make sense but, oh well, I wrote it.

Hope I helped
^-^

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Theres this one song in the movie 'Click' with Adam Sandler that I am trying to find the name of. It plays when he is flashing back to his father. It seems like a sad emotional song. One of the lines is something like 'you've got me wrapped around your fingertips', and I tried googling that but the song did not come up. I also went on movie websites to see the songs on Click's sound track, and the song wasn't even there. Please help me find the name of this.

This site has a list of the songs on the movie, but I don't know which one you were looking for.
http://www.soundtrackslyrics.com/abc/Click.html

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