well first of all im really sorry your dad treats you this way, you dont deserve it, nobody does! From what you have said, your dad has one mighty temper and verbal abuse can often hurt more than physical. Do you live on your own with your dad or is there someone else who you can turn to? if yes then tell them how your dad makes you feel. Speak to an adult. If you have no other family tell a teacher that you trust and ask for thier help. You need people who can support you and help. Also, maybe you could sit your dad down when he is calm, and rationally and calmly explain how he makes you feel. That you are forced to self harm because he upsets you. If he dosnt understand you need to get proffessional help. Your dad may need help. If he has ever physically abused you then you MUST tell someone for your own safety or things will just esculate. Let your close friends know aswell, people who you feel you can trust. That way, when you feel upset because of your dad's behaviour dont hurt yourself, phone one of your friends and have a cry or a chat with them and let it all out. Talking to other people about your problems is very thereputic and can really help. Also, keeping a diary or a journal is a great way, it worked for me. Write down everything you are feeling and let it all out.

And remember, nobody has a right to treat you that way, family or not. Try and be strong.

Hope i have helped, take care,
kerry x

well your boyfriend obviously cares very much for you as he has stuck by you through thick and thin and has already expressed that he does not want to be without you. Maybe you should sit him down and explain that you feel you have lost interest and confront him, calmly and honestly telling him how you feel. Or you could try and spice up your lovelife and make things more exciting. You obviously care about him because you dont want to hurt him and there must be something there or else you would never have got involved with him. I think that yor OCD maybe causing you to feel confused over your feelings towards him and that you are obsessing over your feelings towards him. i think that you need to write down on a piece f paper all the things that drew you to him at the begining of the relationship and focus on that. You need to let him know how you are feeling and explain that your obsessionals/worries may be to blame for your feelings and ask for his help. He will realise that you care about him and want to help make the relationship how it used to be.

If, after he knows how you feel and you are both trying to improve your relationship it is still getting worse, i think you should have another chat and clear the air, letting each other know exactly how you feel and whether you should continue with the relationship. The best way to make a relationship work is comunication and honesty, so its worth a try.

Gud look, i hope i have helped,
kerry x

I have friends who have been through the same kinf of things you have wrote about so i understand what you ae going through.

First of all, and i dont want you to take this the wrong way, but deep down you are despertly in need of attention. That is not a bad thing. Everyone wants to be noticed and to have some attention so its not selfish. However, you need to tell your mum. I know its hard and i know you would do anything to stop her from getting hurt but she will feel even more hurt when she finds out, and trust me, i mean when not if. Your mum will want to know how you are feeling and want to help you, you are her daughter and probably the most precious thing in the world in her eyes so you must tell her. She may be upset but she will be glad that you can trust her and you are seeking her help. Let her know that you realise you need to get medical help and know that your behaviour is extremely harmful. Without your mum, your just going to get worse.

Secondly, from hearing f your eating habits, you seem to have an eating disorder and i hope to god you dont feel you are fat or are not in control because you are not fat and you are in control. I have friends who are annorexic and i know the struggle they have been through. You need to go to your doctor, with your mum to support you, and explain your problems. He/she will understand and can help you recover.

Thridly, you are seriously putting yourself in harmsway by your drug abuse, and thats what it is. DRUG ABUSE. you could easily have an overdose and die and nobody wants that, especially not your boyfriend or your mother so please, get help! you can talk to psychiatrists online if there is no way at all you can get help near you but you must try.

To stop vomiting automatically, try not to binge eat, just eat healthy amounts. You need to tell your friends and your boyfriend and let them know that you vomit after meals. That way, they can try and help you resist vomiting. If you continue, you will loose alot of weight and become painfully thin, trust me, i know how it feels. You could die.

Nobody would want you to put yourself through the agony you have over the years and you need to tell those who you love and who love you so they can give you support. Visit your GP and dont give up trying to get help!

Also, i think that the theory that you have an addictive personality may be true. And it is most probable that you suffer from depression.

Here are some websites that may help you:

1. http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro04/web1/mcurtiss.html

2.
http://be-healthy.net/articles/depression/beyond-the-blues.htm


I desperatly urge you to get help and please tell your mum and others close to you! Take care.

hope i helped
kerry x

hi.ur question is really interesting and i must say that the answer i give may not be the correct one as i am not a proffessional who knows what they are talking about. However, i will try and help.
OCD is an anxiety disorder characterized by obssesions and OR compulsions (repetetive behaviour) so just because you do not act on your obssesions does not necesarily mean you do not have OCD. You say you become upset over small things people tell you about their pasts so maybe on some deeper subconcious level, they remind you of bad things that may have happend in your past. You may be a 'Thinking Ritualizer' who usually have repetitive thoughts or images, know as thinking compulsions, or maybe a worrier/Pure Obsessional. here is a website that may help:

"http://www.enotalone.com/article/4882.html"

Obsessions that you have may well be the begining of OCD or perhaps OCPD (obsesive compulsive personality disorder)and i strongly advice that you go to your GP and explain your sitiuation and he/she can then decide whether they think you need to go to a psychiatrist or psychologist. It may be that you are just stressed and have alot of built up tension that is being released as these obsessive thoughts but it is best to get medical advice to be on the safe side.
It is a good idea to try and minimise the amount of stress in your life by relaxing and doing deep breahting excersises to 'clear your mind' and relieve tension by expanding the lungs. Also, you should try visualisation and medetation to get rid of your stress.

Hope you are successful in finding your answer and try not to worry, im sure everything will be ok.

hope i have helped,
kerry x

Hi, my name is kerry and i am a student in college. I would love to pursue a career as an advice columnist as i love to listen to people's problems and advise them on what to do. I am not judgemental and i enjoy helping people, in fact my other possible career choice would be in psychiatry or pediatrics. The main reason i registered on this website is to gain experience of giving good advice and see if this career is for me, as well as helping those who i can :D

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