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I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think? (link)
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No honey! It may not seem like it now but it is SO much better to be the good girl. Being a bad girl just to look back on experimenting with it doesn't seem like a very good reason to me. I can tell because I know that "real bad girls" don't even think about it this way, they just do it.
I'm about to be a senior in college and high school is almost completely forgotten. I know that may be hard to believe, but it's true and it's true for almost all of my friends too.
You'll see, not too long after high school it doesnt matter at ALL what you were like: except grades. Grades prevail, nothing else does. If youre reading books, expanding your knowledge and your brain (and not killing its cells with drunk and high-ness) you are one above those people, even if it doesnt feel like it now.
I'm one of the ones who partied and probably all I have out of it now I have to quit cigarettes and not party so much! I'm still very intelligent and I have goals for my future but those that were the "good girls" in high school are probably doing better than me!
So to make a long story short, experiment if you must but just know that it REALLY doesnt matter what you did in high school or who you were friends with (except those few friends that you will still talk to years after high school. and yes, it is always just a few. i talk to more people from high school than most people i know and i only talk to less than 10 people frequently).
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I think I may have depression.I just always feel sad and I don't have any motivation do do anything.What are some things I can do besides seeing a doctor or something? (link)
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Signs of depression: helplessness, worthlessness, thoughts of suicide, getting sad or angry for "no reason", lack of motivation, too much or too little sleep, high risk behaviors like sex romps and illegal drug use, anxiety, being really sad and not knowing why.
If you have a lot of these and it IS clinical depression, it may be too much for you to handle alone. Only you can make that decision. If you realize that you could use some help, then please go for it. It can really make your life better. Just remember that depression is not your FAULT and there is no way to go but up. You don't have to tell your parents, by the way, if that is what you are worried about. If you talk to a school counselor they are not allowed to tell your parents (unless you indicate you will harm others or yourself). There are also hotlines you can call that are also completely anonymous and confidential.
This website has some links you can look through that you may find helpful: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/depressionhelp/Depression_Help_Lines.htm
Good luck and remember it is important to stay true to yourself!
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Lately I've been getting angry over nothing. It's getting really weird. Like tonight I said hi to someone I knew and they didn't say hi back so I kept walking and got really angry and I felt like stabbing or punching something. Even if I think abut something it will trigger anger all of a sudden and I'll feel like stabbing something.
What's going on with me?
How can I do anythiing about it?
Thanks (link)
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There is something big (that may not have even seemed big to you) in your life that has made you angry. Most likely rooted in your family life. To completely get rid of the angry feelings you will at one point have to address whatever this was that has made you so angry. But to treat the SYMPTOMS (like your example of getting angry over "nothing")
Here are some tips from this website http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/anger-management/MH00102
* Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.
* Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
* Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.
* Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.
* Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues.
* Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.
* Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.
* Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
* Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression.
* Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.
* Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up.
These may not all apply to you, but you get the idea. Just remember that a lot of times it is not worth it to blow up, because it just ends up damaging YOU quite literally (increased blood pressure, stress levels, headaches, etc.).
Hope this helped, and good luck.
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During the course of my college dwelling, I took a few courses in psychology, there are two subjects that intrest me psychology and english.
Personally I can see my self fitting the same portrait of a schizoid, just by the characteristics and appearance they put down.
"A person with schizoid personality disorder:
Does not desire nor enjoy close relationships, even with family members
Avoids social activities that involve significant interpersonal contact
Appears aloof and detached People with schizoid personality disorder are loners and show little interest in developing close relationships.
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I'm serious though its a hell of a thought go look at this site and read a little you will feel like one of this disorders describes you.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/mentalhealthandbehavior.html (link)
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The most important thing to remember is NO ONE or NOTHING can diagnose you except a licensed professional. That includes lists of symptoms and those free quizzes you find online. Lists of symptoms are nothing more than that: there are other requirements in diagnosing disorders. In any disorder this collection of symptoms are reflecting a huge problem that interferes with normal activities. Also know that the mind is a very powerful thing: you can convince yourself of anything and ignore things you don't want to see. Without trying to sound mean, i think this may be what you are doing. But of course if you really think you have a problem (and thought so BEFORE you took this psych class), then you should go for an in-person psychological consultation. I'd like to think I know what i'm talking about because I am a senior psychology major. Good luck and try not to freak out over something that might be nothing!
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Im 17 and my sister is 13. Since last year she has had alot of problems dealing with her weight and losing friends. She gets picked on at school but she never does anything about it like tell the guidance counselour the boy(s) names. But she does tell the guidance counselour that boy(s) are picking on her. Last year she told the guidance Counselour she was going to kill herself so the counselour called my parents and they brought her to the hospital. Ver since that day my family can't say anything to her. She doesnt really go any where she just sits her ass in front of the computer all day. If you ask her to clean she gets mad at you. if you ask her if she wants to go to the store with you she says no. You tell her you need to use the computer she tells you to go to the library and use theirs. You ask her to go outside with her brother so he can play she tells you to do it yourself. Now all of this sounds stupid but these simple things cause her to flip out and hate us. She recently has started cutting. I have never known anyone that has cut. My sister is proud of cutting. She post away messages about cutting. Who can be proud of this? And she does it because she gets made at us for asking and telling her to do these simple things.
Now my stepdad told me if she didnt feel ike cleaning that i have to do the chores for her because she will hurt herself. Now i know this sounds rude but shes gotten to the point where i think shes doing it for ATTENTION and its driving me nuts. Her daily schedule consist of 1. wake up 2. get on the computer 3. get dressed 4. go to school 5. coming home from school 6. do homework 7. get on the computer till 11pm 8. go to bed(this happens every single day) And if you dont realize this but nothing she does is cleaning or spending time with the family.
She is starting to see a therapist or someone starting this thursday and hope fully this person can help her out.
Sorry if i sound like a mean sister but shes driving me crazy by not helping out. I work and i really cant come home and do all the cleaning at home.
thank you. (link)
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i'd say go easy on her.
try to understand that she's sick. it's like having any other kind of sickness, except this is harder to deal with and harder to understand. just take a deep breath and remind yourself she is depressed, she is seeking attention, and she doesn't feel normal.
at the age of 13, feeling normal is a very important thing. it might seem like she feels the opposite because cutting isnt a normal activity, but it is common with someone with low self-esteem to broadcast their shortcomings.
be patient and kind and loving. tell her you love her at least once a week. even if it doesnt seem like it gets through to her, it will. try to think less about how she annoys you and more about what she's going through. try to be calm and patient and it will not only make you stronger as a person, i guarantee you she'll love and appreciate what you'd be doing for her years later or even right away.
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hi, im a 15 year old girl, never had a bf, but have made out with TOONNNS of guys, and have had plenty of admirers.
the problem?
im not happy with life, but i dont think my love life has anything to do with it..
but everyone else seems to, everywhere i go people are always like "life is nothing without love" so i get it, love is important. i belive so too, if i live life for my career or firends, i will not be happy,,i need true love.
but is it realy THAT important? really?
like does my whole happyness depend on love?
and does having a bf realyy matter?
ive heard people who have steady relationships often do better in life, better in school, with friends and s on.. but i dont get it? why does having a bf make life easier??
do you have any experciences of this in your own personal life?? care to share?? thx. (link)
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you're right, your love life doesn't necessarily have to do with your happiness in life.
a lot of people are scared to be alone so the only time they feel comfortable is if theyre in a relationship- even if it's an unfulfilling one.
the important thing is finding what you love about life. if a good relationship happens to come along, great. but life certainly doesnt have to depend on a relationship. don't let people convince you that you can't be happy without a man.
women are beautiful, powerful, intelligent, courageous, intuitive all on their own.
the important thing is to celebrate your strenghs as a person. eventually one of your "admirers" might be a decent guy. but dont worry too much about it.
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I have all the mental illnesses listed in the subject line.
For the five-hundredth time since I was diagnosed, I will explain what cyclothymia is. Cyclothymia is a milder version of bipolar disorder but it sure doesn't feel like it. It affects less than one percent of people in the US.
I have post-traumatic stress disorder which has manifested itself through voices and A LOT OF noise in my head, and also obsessive compulsive disoder.
I see a psychologist and a psychiatrist. I'm told that I'm at risk for a psychotic breakdown.
I'm scared and I don't like being mentally ill. How do I keep calm when everything in my head is so loud and stressful? Medications don't help anymore. (link)
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I found this from a website and you may find it helpful:
Here are tips that an individual can do in order to help reduce depression. Think about things that makes you happy. Do fun things that make you happy. Going to a club to get exercise is another thing that helps people reduce depression. Try to remember the good times when you were really happy.
Depression isn't something that lasts forever. You can be happy again. Depression is something that can be fixed. Depression is something that isn't forever. You can be happy again if you have the desire to be happy. You have to want to be happy though. Happiness has to come from within ourself. Yes, being around someone else can cause us to be more happy because of the positive energy around us.
Eating healthy is important to be able to function better. Eating enough vegetables among with other foods and getting enough vitamins does make a huge difference in the way an individual feels from day to day. Vitamins is one of the most important things that we need.
Drinking caffeine can also help you feel better about yourself since it gives you a boost of energy. Sometimes all people need is a little bit of caffeine to help them be happy again. It works better than anti-depressants sometimes. Coffee or soda pop may be the solution for you if you feel a little in the blues or not very happy.
Sleep is also an important factor. Enough sleep does make a huge difference in a way an individual feels throughout the day. Getting enough sleep and eating healthy along with enough vitamins and exercise is most important things one needs to do. Sleeping too much can be a bad thing though, so make sure that you get enough sleep , but don't sleep too much. Make sure not to sleep too much cause it will make you feel worse and won't help much. People who are depressed tend to sleep allot or not enough sleep.
Try to reduce the stress in your life. Perhaps taking some time off from work will help you feel better. Everyone needs a vacation from work every once in a while. Are you happy with the house or apartment you live in? If not then perhaps moving to a different place will make you feel better. Are you happy with the city you live in? Perhaps moving to a different city will also help you. Allot of times people need to change something in their life when they find themselves unhappy.
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I think that I am bipolar. I'll be happy and obnoxious one moment and then the next I'll feel so depressed that i want to die. How do you know if you're bipolar? What do I do if i am? How do I tell my parents? (link)
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The first thing you should do is look up websites on the disorder. Sometimes they have a little quiz to see if you exhibit the symptoms. Just remember that this quiz is NOT diagnostic, that means it can't diagnose you and you can't know for sure unless you see a professional.
Do that to get an idea though.
Next step, definitely tell your parents if you think they'll be supportive. If you think they won't be, talk to your school counselor. Parents and school counselors can both get you to see a professional.
If you do have it, it might be important for you to get medication because it can get worse as years go by. So however you do it, make sure you talk to a trusted adult that can get you to see a professional.
Good luck, and if you're scared, try not to be. There's a lot of people who live normal lives with it and there are plenty of people who would love to help you if you just seek that help.
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