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Hey! My names Sam, I started my advice column awhile ago, but when my computer messed up I forgot all about it. Well now I'm back and still going to give everyone the best advice I can give. The advice that I give is the advice I would use on myself. Giving advice is one of my favorite things to do. If anyone wants to ask me something just drop a message in my mail and Iâ??ll gladly answer it the best way that I can. =)

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i don't know exactly what i'm asking. & i don't know if anyone will be able to help. but i do need help. and it'd be appreciated if you do try.

i have depression, in addition, i'm most likely the shyest person on planet earth. i don't have too many friends because of both of these. in feel really insecure about my social life as well as myself. each time i attend school i feel like everyone's judging me & in a terrible way. In a way, i'm scared to show up to school. the idea of it really scares me. i psyche myself out for it. each day i think i'll go to school, but i get ready in the morning, can't find the right thing to wear & break down. See, i haven't exactly been to school for two weeks now. usually my dad would make me go to school; but in a sense he's given up. & i have to. each day i don't show up for school i realize that it will be harder to go back. but i can't bring myself to go. i haven't been in contact with friends in days & feel like i'll use the few i have, and i'm in the proccess of doing so. i don't know why i feel so bad, and i don't know why school is so scary for me. i want to feel better & be better but i'm doing nothing to helo myself.

so i guess i'm asking a few things.
1. why is it that school is scary to me?
2. how can i make it less scary?
3. ... just any advice is what im looking for. thought - or anything. just ideas as to what i can do.

... just ideas as to what i NEED to do. 5's for anyone who bothered reading with a sensible response. xx

I know what it feels like to be scared to go to school. With everything going on and people going to their own classes and not really seeing the people around them, yes it can be scary.

To make school less scary the best thing to do is to work on communicating with people in the same classes as you. Try getting over the shyness, it'll be hard the first few times but once you make at least one friend you'll get to meet their friends and won't be as hard.

*remember worrying about what you look like isn't the most improtant thing, meeting people that don't care about that will help.

-hope everything works out--if you need any further advice just ask-
~Sam

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I hate myself. I look at myself in the mirror and just want to fricken cut myself, but I won't cut, thats just how I feel. I hate how I look. People are like your perfect weight, but I feel like I won't ever be pretty unless I have a completely flat stomach and muscular theighs. I just can't seam to accept myself. I've been told I'm pretty and stuff. It's just I see all these other girls with perfect hair and skin and I feel ugly! Then, I see these girls w/ all these hot guys, and it makes me feel like I'll never have that. I'm really sad. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. I don't wanna talk to my parents. I only have one friend who I would talk to but he just tells me to go see a therapist or get antidepressants. I just can't seam to feel happy. So my question is, has any girls or guys gone through this and tell me tips on how to feel better. thanks..

Yes I have gone through this before. It took me a long time actually accept me for me. Some days it's still hard, what I’ve learned is to not worry so much about looks but how you act. The people you hang out with and the people who make you feel good inside shouldn't care about how you look on the outside. Everyone has something wrong with themselves, some just don't show it. Not everyone is going to have the 'perfect' hair or the 'perfect' skin. The best thing to do is to hang out with people who make you feel great and to learn to accept yourself, even if that may be hard sometimes.

-Hope everything works out for the best-
~Sam

p.s. learn to accept compliments too, those should help boost your confidence, and if you don't accept them people may stop giving it.

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I hate myself. Does anyone have any ideas to stop a persons perceptions of things, or path of thinking change? I dont beleive in any kind of religion and i beleive that there is no reason to anything and that life and existance in general is just so pointless. If people live to be happy and content, yet are mainly overcome by other stronger emotions such as pain and anger what is the point of living? there is no afterlife its just nothing. why be afraid of something you wont be aware of. why bother searching for peace of mind which you already know you will never get. each and everyone of us are unique so no one is. no one will remember me when i die because i have had no impact upon anyone. i have achieved nothing and have had nothing able to be achieved because of how many billions of people in the world that are better then me. nothing has meaning me running around in an endless circle compared to going to school and learning are of about the same value. .. should i get help?

Life is pointless...unless YOU try to change that. Everyone goes through this time in their life where they say this...and yes i have already gone through this. I don't think you need help and i don't think i can change your mind on anything that you are saying. Everyone is different and that does make us unique. When people go through pain and suffering it helps them become who they want to be. You do have an impact on everyone. What you are saying right now, someone might read and start to feel the same way. If you are depressed all the time family and friends might think they're doing something wrong and might become depressed too. You shouldn't be afraid of death. You do know that you are gonna die one day so if it happens tomorrow...well atleast maybe you changed someones life. This may not help..but ... this is my advise and it's the best i can do to help you...so
~I hope it works out for the best~
ps. for right now our lives do go in circles because we are in school and our brains still want to learn. Once we get older things will change we will have kids and work and just life. Right now i think you should be happy, don't be depressed about life. You should enjoy your life.

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