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Q: Ok, so i have a phobia, or many I guess, that is related to anything medical... Like, doctors, deseases, even pregnat ladies make me uncomfortable.
And it's really hard because if you notice, everything nowadays has medical stuff. Like on TV, there are so many hospital/doctor shows, like House and ER... And the commercials, like the anti-smoking commercials where they show details the inside of someones lungs or something, im not sure.. i can't watch it or i'll have a panic attack.
When I was younger, I thought it was just a phase and that i'd get over this when i'm older, but now i'm 19 and it's gotten so much worse... I'm even scared of dentist now and therapist.... I don't even know why!!!
But I can't take pills, I'm too paranoid for that.
I can't have sex because i'm terrified of the thought of getting pregnant..
So what happens when I encounter all this stuff is that I have panic attacks and pass out!
And I want help, BUUUT I have too much anxiety to get any help also.
I'm getting older and this anxiety is holding me back on a lot of things...

So my question is, does anyone know what this/these phoia's are called??

Also, how can this be cured? I know therapy, or something, but what are the steps that you go through??

Thanks, so much.

Iatrophobia, Fear of Doctors, and Fear of Going to the Doctor

Anxiety — Anxiety and a state of apprehension, uncertainty, and fear resulting from the anticipation of a realistic or fantasized threatening event or situation, often impairing physical and psychological functioning

Ergasiophobia — work, functioning, or Surgeon's operating

Hemaphobia — blood

Hydrargyophobia — mercurial medicines

Lockiophobia — childbirth

Nosocomephobia — hospitals

Nosophobia — becoming ill

Opiophobia — Fear of medical doctors experience of prescribing needed pain medications for patients

Panthophobia — suffering or disease

Pathophobia — disease

Pharmacophobia — taking medicine or drugs

Tocophobia — pregnancy or childbirth

Tomophobia — surgery or surgical operations

so, there are some random phobia's that may describe what you said.

i got them from
http://www.changethatsrightnow.com/phobia_list_of_all_phobias.asp?SDID=6548:1944

and if you went to therapy im not so sure what they would do but right now im in a psychology class and we are learning about de-conditionalizing fears or phobia's. we are learning about a study where this boy had a fear of rabbits and every day they would move the rabbit a little bit closer to him, but they would give him an ice cream cone, so he would associate the good from eating the ice cream cone with the rabbit. and in the end he was able to pet the rabbit and all.

So, they may try somehting along those lines, im not sure how they would do it for your phobia's but something like that

if you want to read more about the study here is a link telling about the women who did the study, and it talks about it a little more. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Cover_Jones

hope this helps!
no other answers so i thought i would give ya something.
good luck!

Q: Latley, school has just been getting me down. I've been in the wortst mood for almost a week, no its not due to my period. Its just plain worry, stress, and too much work. I've been taking it out on my friends and family, and saying some truly mean things.

How do I go back to my happy attitude and get everything under control?

I know what you mean because i have been that way before.You feel like you dont want to be in school anymore and you just sick of everything. What i did was talk to my really good friend and he made me feel a whole lot better. So you can try that.

If you dont want to try that then just think that someday all your work that you have done in school will pay off and it will be totally worth it. And try to think about your friends and family and how much they care about you. And how sometimes they can annoy you but think about the times they have made you smile and laugh and just feel better.

Hope This Helps.
-kay

Q: I feel so stressed out, but I don't know why. School isn't any harded than usual, and my family/friends/ love life is fine. I don't physically feel different than any other day, yet for some reason i constantly feel like crying about....everything. i dont know know why, but im so over emotional. nothing has happened to make things different, but im so stressed i feel like i cant take anything anymore. And advice? I rate 5's.

you should try to go to a doctor about it.. you could be bipolar which means that you have very bad moodswings for no reason at all.. i would see a doctor about it and then see what they say.. hope i helped..

*kLa*

Q: I tryd telling my parents i needed to go to a hospital and get help and they made me go to my theripist and my theripist said w.e the hospital can do they can do but they dont understand! im trying to get help and they wont listen! I just cut myself with scisors and if i dont get help its gona get worse! WHY WONT THEY LISTEN TO ME!

well try telling someone at school.. maybe that might help.. and they might send you to a hospital.. it happend to my friend and she told people at school thats how she got in the hospital... hope i helped

*k La*

Q: Okay, I've been suffering by myself with the effects of what I belive to be depression, or some pretty dang extreme teenage hormones. Tonite, I decided that I wanted to get help, because I'm scared of what might happen if I didn't. I told my best friend about it, and I was just met with blank stares and awkward silences. So I walked back home, with barely a word exchanged between us, and a few minutes later she called me. All she said was please calm down, and then another empty blank silence before I finally said that I'd talk to her tomorrow. I'm unsure of where to go next, and I'm beginning to think its a mistake I ever said anything. Should I be angry at my friend for not really saying anything, and looking at me like I was some sort of freak?

well u should talk to her about what you think and that you dont know what to think about all this.

Q: (Sorry if this turns out really long!) I've only been cutting myself for a little over two weeks but I'm already addicted. I told my boyfriend first because I vent to him a lot. I trust him and he can comfort me. Then later I told my teacher and she suggested for me to talk to my school counselor. My teacher told my parents, too. My mom talked to me but it wasn't about ME, it was about what my sister went through. It wasn't helpful. So I talked to the couselor. She freaked out and kept telling me, "You can't do that! STOP! You have to stop! If you do it again I'll tell the principal!" That is not what I expected from her. It wasn't helpful or encouraging. It was threatening! It almost made me want to cut! Later that day I was sitting alone in the gym slicing the skin on my arms and my Gym/Health teacher saw me and made me go alone in a room with him to talk. He kept telling me that even though life may suck now, it'll get better because I "have a good mind". I didn't think it was helpful either, but I started crying. Everytime I had to talk to someone, I wanted my boyfriend there holding my hand helping me endure it. I feel uncomfotable around everyone but him. One day my teacher actually tried to send me home because I was cutting and crying and miserable. I told her I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to talk to James. (James is my boyfriend.) She said she couldn't let him out of class. I glared at her and wouldn't talk to her. She called my parents and they took me home. The whole time I wanted to scream, "I JUST WANT JAMES!" When I got home I just reread old notes from my bf. He's the only one who can comfort me and it feels like he's the only reason I go on living. Do I depend on him too much? How can I stop cutting if I have nobody to talk to? Please comment or give advice! Sorry so long!

well.. you should deffenitly stop cutting that dosnt help anything and i know i sound like everybody else but i know what it feels like and how hard it is to stop but you have to. You have to stop doing it for the people who care about you because they probally get freaked out when they see that... So you should try to get a counceler out of school or someone that can help you besides your boyfriend... You just have to try really hard to stop doing it, if you want to talk im me on aim or email me... or inbox me... my aim is durangedbluebery and my email is babieblue11289@yahoo.com......

*kaii*