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I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think?

I used to be JUST like you in high school (& still follow rules to this day, just not every single one of them now, ha). It's not weird, it's called being mature & having good judgement. Most 16 years olds try way too hard to act older, when really they are just complete MORONS. You're still young, there are many joys in life you have yet to experience. Never doubt your morals & think you're missing out on anything. You have plenty of time to have a drink or party with your friends, but do it when you're of age. I admire people like you who know how to have fun with their friends without the help of alcohol & drugs. Keep doing what you're doing & you'll turn out just fine. :)

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13/f
Latley I have been feeling like i have no use in the world. I feel like i have no talents like the actors and models and singers do. I think it might be depression, which my mother has, so it does run in the family, but i don't think it is so bad that i need medication. I'm just sad, all the time. I want to do something like model or act so i wont feel so useless, but i dont think i would ever get the oppertunity to. I dont cut and i never thought of killing myself so dont worry about that. My main questions are
1.Is this depression, or something else?
2.Should i see a doctor or something?

plz answer soon

thanks

It's very common for everyone to go through a stage where they are discouraged or don't feel like any use in this world - especially at your age. With today's media, it's even more of a problem for young teens. Society is completely surrounded with celebrities lives, that kids are so easily influenced to believe that celebrity lives are "normal." As a result, kids are so eager to want to grow up like them. Ten years ago when you asked kids what they wanted to be when they grew up & you'd get answers like: a teacher, a doctor, a fireman, a lawyer. Now, you ask kids the same qeustion & the most popular answers are: models, actresses or any type of big time celebrity. And of course, many of them are discouraged because their goals are set too high. I am not stating that it's impossible to become any of those professions, it's just not as realistic without true talent & hardwork. To get to your questions:

1.) If you are sad all the time & it affects with your daily life, then yes you are showing signs of depression. But that doesn't necessarily mean you are depressed.

2.) If this is affecting your daily life and/or you are worried about ANYTHING, then the wise decision would be to see your doctor. From what you have told me, I believe it's something normal we all go through. But on the other hand, it could be (or someday become something) serious. & I'd NEVER want to advise you that it's not something you should get checked out. In conclusion, I suggest seeing a doctor to be evaluated to be on the safe side.

In the meantime, realize that there are other professions out there that aren't "useless." No matter what you choose to do, you are providing a service to others or helping someone in someway. Professions such as teachers & doctors enlighten kids & help save lives. That's more worthy than someone who only provides entertainment to the the public. Set lower goals for yourself so you aren't easily discouraged when you can't meet big ones like - becoming famous. If you take baby steps towards your goal, you're more likely to reach them. & thus, you won't be disappointed.

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Is only eating 300 caloroies a day considered anorexic?!

The real definition of anorexia is purposely starving yourself for whatever reason. Whether the 300 calories a day is intentional or not, it's still extremely unhealthy. 1,800 calories a day is what is considered healthy.

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19/F

To give you some background, I've been working at my new job for just under 2 weeks now, and I'll be here until the beginning of September. I'm working (and living) at a resort in the mountains in British Columbia, but my home is in Ontario. So I'm really far away from home. I had to leave my friends, family and boyfriend behind to take this job because I really needed the money for tuition and rent in the fall.

I really like the people out here. They're nice. But I still feel really lonely. I miss everyone from at home, and I miss my boyfriend most of all.

Also, I'm getting really discouraged. I feel like I'm doing everything wrong while I'm working, but nobody notices if I'm doing things right. I keep being told off by people for little things that I miss. Every time someone else is busy, I'm asked to take on extra work, but nobody helps me out when I need it. My job is boring and tedious. It requires me to be on my feet for up to 10 hours a day, and my back hurts so badly sometimes that I have trouble breathing. I can't do anything but rest when I'm off, because I'm still in pain days later.

Any advice on how to not be miserable for the entirety of the 80 days I have left?

I can somewhat relate to you as far as being away from family, having to take on extra work & being exhausted when you get home. I would never say to give up simply because your job is hard. It wouldn't be called work if it was easy. I know the first couple of weeks are stressful because you are still trying to get the hang of things & it's easy to get frustrated & discouraged when you can't. I'd suggest talking to your boss & telling her/him everything you told us. If that doesn't work & changes can't be made for you as far as proper training & the amount of work thrown onto, don't even bother. You should never work for a company who doesn't care & isn't willing to help you become more efficient @ your job.


Also, you should never force yourself to work a job your body cannot physically handle. I know I've been having major back problems for almost a couple years & I've come to the conclusion I have carried all my stress on my back. Try pacing yourself, taking deeper breaths & not letting things get to you too much. Overreacting & worrying too much can cause anxiety attacks which COULD be a cause of problems breathing.

Like I said, talk to your boss & see what can changed. Try walking into work with a different mindset (I know, it's really hard to do sometimes) & see if that helps of those physical problems. If not, try taking on a lighter position @ a company who really appreciates you & your hard work. :)

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13/f

everytime i try to remember an important date, I end up forgetting, like my orchestra lessons, I miss them and now my score has gone down to a B and i'm scared Ms. H might pull me out of the class. How do you remember things?

Since my phone is ALWAYS on me, I put everything on my calendar on there. & if there's something I really need to be reminded (such as remembering to take my medicine at a certain hour every night), I set a reminder with an alarm & I never fail to miss it.

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i think i might be scitzefrenic. (sp?) i was sleeping and i had dreams of killing my sister and her friend and then myself with a gun and i heard a voice saying kill laura in my head. whats going on..

If you're fully conscious/awake & you're having these thoughts, it's best to see a doctor immediately. But if it's just an absurbd & insane one time dream, then it's possible it's just a bad dream. & even if it's just a dream, maybe it's best to be checked out anyway - just to be on the safe side.

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What exactly is a panic attack, like all the signs or how you know your having one ?

http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/default.htm

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i am way to upsessed with my appearance it is starting to ruin my life i cant go 30 minutes without looking in a mirror and when i do im always depressed because i am so ugly but no one thinks that but me i mean all my friends say i am really pretty and i have alot of guys that like me but i never seems to get that i am pretty through my mind because there is always someone prettier that gets all the attention and it makes me feel really ugly i feel ugly all the time i don't know what my problem is but i think i got a real upsetting depression problem or something what can i do to get over how i look and how my face looks and stuff please help me i have struggled with these problems for about 2 years and i can tell that everyone notices this problem what can i do to get over my appearance

Most girls will struggle with their appearance because there's always someone who's going to be prettier. But just because someone next to you may be more attractive, doesn't make you ugly (or the ugliest person). There are a lot of girls who are probably looking at you & feeling the same way. The truth is - you can't always compare yourself to others. Other girls may be more beautiful on the outside, but who knows if they have a personality as wonderful as yours. Instead of always looking down on yourself when you come across someone more attractive - look at your own features. Quit focusing on your own flaws (& that others don't have) & focus on the things you love about yourself. :)

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