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I'm 19/m
I've never masterbated before, and honestly I've never had an urge to.. Am I abnormal? (link)
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Good question and one that should be moved to the front page. There are lots of people who feel abnormal for doing it and or that 99% do. The truth of the matter is you all need to relax. Whether you do it or not really is not that big of a deal.
You are "normal" whatever that means. What is normal for one is not for another. It's okay not to masturbate and if you get nothing out of it or do not feel the urge that is perfectly fine.
There as many people who do, are on the fence, or who do not masturbate so you are fine and in good company either way. Relax! There is nothing wrong with not having urges to do it anymore than there is to have the urges.
Do what is feeling right for you and forget the fear of being abnormal. In fact your question is odd in a sense as so many write in feeling strange for doing it and having urges. Both parties need to calm down.
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I'm a senior in highschool. I take a lot of courses which require writing. It may not be apparent here butI am unable to write down my thoughts coherently. Writing scares me now. I freak out when there's a writing section on tests, when I have to write in-class essays, and so forth. My marks suffer because of this. It's so frustrating!! Someone suggested that it may a a learning disability...but I'm not sure. This just started this year. What does everyone else think? (link)
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Excellent question. Typically, learning disabilities do not just start. They are always there as it is based in the brain. The thing is you may just have discovered it now.
I have a learning disability myself and have worked for a while in the learning disabilities association offices here. A lot of what you describe is typical about writing and inability to organize thought. My hunch is you are an auditory learner who can take things in, have them dictated on tape or written up from what is on the board or as you hear it but never on your own.
You do have a problem. You need to go with your parents and approach the principal and your teacher about getting a learning disabilities assessment done to accurately pinpoint the problem , cause, effect, and how to deal with it.
I know how frustrating all of this is for you. Just be lucky you discovered the issue now rather than in the future. I'll find you more links/research on learning disabilites if you would like. I hope this helps you.
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I feel numb. I can get out of bed, go to work, joke with people, do things I love, and still feel this way. I just can't seem to shake it off. I feel hollow inside, and I don't really know WHY.
Sometimes I only sleep 2-3 hours a night. Other nights I sleep 12-13 hours. I also do not eat properly anymore, even on my good days. Some days I'll just eat an apple for breakfast/lunch and about 1/3 of my dinner. I just don't feel hungry. But even when I am starving, I fix up a big meal and try to put the food in my mouth, but I have to stop because it makes me feel like vomiting. Believe me, I fix meals every day and try to eat snacks but most of it ends up in the trash or back in the fridge. I don't think I am fat, in fact, I think I am too skinny and wouldn't mind some curves on my body. I think maybe my mind is in such anguish that it wants the body to suffer too.
Please don't be like... just eat something!!! Just be happy!!! Believe me, I TRY. It's not as easy as some people think. I have been down the road of counselling (no help) and meds(made me act ADD) for depression before, but this feeling seems different to me. Just numbness, not really saddness/pain/hopelessness like the depression I felt in the past (about 3 years ago). (link)
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Hi,
I will not offer a possible diagnosis. However, with this happening suddenly there are two possible things you ought to ask your psychiatrist about. Number one say to him/her everything you stated above and ask why did this happen all of sudden when I was fine? This is what they need to figure out for you.
Secondly, the single most important thing to bring up is I had depression or felt this way X number of years ago but now it is more intense and all consuming. Your doctor must know if there is a history of such problems.
What you have not told me/anyone and it's of high importance do you feel depressed one moment and high the next? If any of that is happening to you along with irritability and mood swings you need to tell someone as it's a precursor for bipolar. Sudden changes in apetitite, inability to eat will all fold into the diagnosis. You need to call your doctor again and tell him/her how you are feeling.
Numbness, weight loss, apetite supressed, focus problems that look like ADD all of it are tied into mental illness and you do need help here and prehaps the opinion of another doctor. Make sure you take the doctor what you wrote down above so they can make a note and get things right.
You may find this link helpful on depression and mood disorders www,teentalknetwork.com/reel.htm hit guest and Karen Liberman. It's an interview about mood disorders and what each one is. It could be helpful in pinpointing what is happening with you.
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ok this is my problem.whenever am about to haave a confrotation or fighting with anyone,my heart starts beating really first and its not like am afraid of the person its just i hate drama happening to me and i hate fights.i just want it to stop but i dont know what to do.anyone out there please help me i cant stand it no more.
girl in despair (link)
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Hi,
It's adrenaline that causes your heart to race faster in anticipation of something. It will not hurt you though someone's fists might. Do not worry about stopping it naturally it does so on its own. You ought to worry about stopping confronations and avoiding fights. They hurt, adrenaline will not. It ceases when fear does in this case.
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whenever im home alone, or even at school with other people, i constantly act as if im being watched. if that makes sense. and at night while im laying in bed i pretend as if im somewhere else and that im not mearly a student, but that im a secret agent hiding out for the night, or that ive been evacuated from the state because i know too much and im in the white house. im 18 years old..wtf is wrong with me? what do i do?(female) (link)
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Send me a bigger note about this. This sounds like you are in hypomanic state but if not put on the right medication and diagnosed properly you might find it escalating into BiPolar.
How should I know? I was there with the same secret agent/white house delusions, feeling more important than anyone else, being super gifted and then drifting back to reality. I was hype manic first which is not dangerous until delusion consumes all of you.
This is common and you are not insane but look to be suffering from a mental illness. It's alright, 1000s of people have it if this is what you have (which it sounds a lot like) including famous people and it is the precursor for brilliance. Unfortunately, a few assholes in society cause us grief but you will be okay.
Because this is a serious problem you need to see the emergency team at your local hospital and tell them what you are THINKING number one, SEEING, FEELING etc. If your speech sudennly gets very rapid and thoughts do and you feel high march your ass over there pronto--you have to be checked out anyways.
I hate to scare you and do NOT because this is fucking dangerous to you NOT TO GO to the emergency room but you may wind up spending a few weeks in the hospital. Do not fret, all it means is they want to make sure you are no longer delusional and cannot get hurt or hurt yourself by not being in full control.
What likely will happen here is what happened to me. They will put you on a lithium program, give you an anti-psychotic like Serequel and a mood stabilizer like lamitcal. You have to notice if moods are shifting up and down too and if you feel weepy they need that info up front.
I CANNOT MAKE A DIAGNOSIS. I am NOT a doctor but judging from my own experiences I KNOW YOU ARE NOT WELL AND NEED HELP and 2 SOUND CLASSIC HYPOMANIC HEADED FOR BIPOLAR EPISODE. GET HELP FAST.
I am here if you need info on this disease. I have been there and felt the same things you did. As long as you can see them now as a BIG problem and delusions waivering back and forth you can ward off a major issue but getting treatment. Do not waste any time in going to the ER. If you do it will get worse and mean being hospitalized if it's BiPolar which it looks to be.
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