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so im 15 talking to a "school" counslor for my first time. she comes out for me on fridays and we talk. well i dont know what to say. i mean i requested her for my cutting and family crap and my doing things that i dont know im doing. so what should i do? thank all help is needed! (link)
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If you have a good consellor she should be helping you by guiding the conversation by asking you questions. I think you need to tell her you are uncomfortable with her and don't know what to say to her. Tell her it would be easier for you for now if she started with asking you basic questions about your family life. Your answers to her questions should help guide her to more relevant questions and then she can start building a profile on your life and your problems. She should deal with the most important and serious worries you have first. I know it's very hard to open up to a stranger honey but give it a shot. If after a few visits with her you feel you are going nowhere, then it is your right to ask for another counsellor. They are only human beings too you know and not every first counsellor is right for the person seeking help. If you like, you can talk to me personally and I will try and guide and help you as best I can. Let me know what your counsellor says and how you reply. Together maybe we can come up with a game plan and find you someone who can really help.
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hi i'm 16 years old and i am done with my life i see no hope i have gone through lots of pain in my short life my dad puts me down and is constently critisizing me and i fell in love very young when i was 12 in seventh grade i found my first love he ended up failing and having to move and because we wear young and it was a secret we lost eachother that emotionally hurt me a lot i became very alone and in high school i started to loose my friends and now have very few and i am very alone also i ended up falling for another guy he turned out to be a jerk took my virginity and called me and said horrible things about me and moked me about when we had sex it has made me very self causious i don't have any pride in myself i hate myself everything i do isnt good enouh i think i'm ugly i just need something nuthing i try every makes me happy please someone help me what can i do to get my confidence and self worth back so i will stop doing horrible things lieing and having sex with random guys because of my sadnees (link)
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I won't give you this big chapter about life. I'll tell you short and sweet how to get your confidence back. You have to look at yourself in the mirror and truly see yourself. I want you to find at least 3 things about yourself that you like. I know you can find at least 3. Now, I want you to stare at yourself and tell yourself you are a wonderful person because you know what, you are and you know you are.
I want you to get mad at those who harrass you. You don't have to speak to them but in your head, tell them off. It will make you feel so much better. Now, get mad at yourself. You heard me, get mad at yourself for letting other people get to you this way. I want you to do this; the more people put you down, turn this negative vib into positive energy. So, the more they bug you the more I want you to set out to prove those idiots wrong. You can do this girl! You are better than that, I know you are. So come on, stop whinning and start fighting for your self esteem. Try this, punch a pillow and visualize someone who is putting you down. Tell them exactly how you feel as you are punching them(the pillow). When you are done you will feel so much better. Then, make sure you keep getting mad at yourself for falling into their trap. Don't you dare let them get the best of you. You are a beautiful,strong young woman who will not be brought down by idiots. You're not an idiot are you? Of course you're not. So, don't go down to their level girl. If you let them upset you, they won, and your're at their level. Rise above them and prove to them you're so much better than they are. You go girl!!!Write to me anytime and I'll pump you up every time until you can do it on your own.
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Hello! 13/f here
well, i sometimes bottle up my emotions (i know, i know, its bad) because i dont really have anyone to talk to,because my mom is usually really busy with school work (shes getting a teaching degree) and my dad is usually tired from work. So, I am thinking of getting a Diary, but... where? I want one that has a lock, so nobody can read it obviously :P. I live in Elbow Valley just outside of Calgary, so any help? Chinook mall? Westhills? I need a place to get a diary with a lock,
Thanks for your help!!!!!! I need it to vent without hurting someone (which usually happens because of hormones and all, being a teen and all)
THANKSS!!!
~ scruffsc ~ (link)
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Getting a diary is a very mature way of dealing with your frustrations and I congratulate you on your wise decision. If you have a Walmart, Zellers, Business Depot, Staples, or Chapters in your area, any of these stores carry diaries with locks. Good Luck.
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I have a 17-year old daughter who is currently a senior in high school. All her life, she has never had a boyfriend or even a friend that is a boy. This specifically is not why I am writing, because she is free to be friends with whom she wants. However, she has confided in me that she is afraid of men and boys and has been her whole life. I am not sure if it is getting worse as she gets older or is just manifesting itself in different ways. I was never like this so I am not sure what would be considered 'normal' feelings for her to have. I have talked to a few close friends about this and they say that I should look into her past to see if anyone could have hurt her in any way. I can think of nothing, except for things that I don't think would still have much of an effect on her now, although maybe you think different (if so, please tell me). What I am thinking of happened during preschool. There was a group of boys that used to chase her and scare her all the time at recess. She was very afraid and for this reason she spent time hiding from boys and staying physically very close to her female friends. When she got older she always feared them. Although she is a shy person, it isn't a fear of rejection. She is afraid that they will do something to her to harm her. She can't even watch the news because of all the rapes and things of that nature.
I just don't know what to do or how to make it better. I would just like to find out what happened to make her this way and how to help her get past her fears. I appreciate any input you can provide. (link)
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I seriously believe you should seek counselling for your daughter. Maybe something happened in her past you don't know about and she can't speak to you about it. If it is those incidents when she was in pre-school, then she was never given the necessary tools to deal with it and needs a bit of help overcoming it. There is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about seeking advice from a professional source. She is 17 and should be out having fun with both boys and girls. This fright she has about boys and men has become an obssession to her. Please for her sake, get professional help for your daughter.
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