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Q: I used to smoked weed for like half a year yet i do not think it was that much. I have depersonaliosation/derealization, i also at times get anxiety attacks and depression led to it as well. My sleeping schedule is off, i think i'm going crazy. My mother and my sister were in the kitchen while i was in the bathroom and i thought i heard my sis crying loud and i went to them and tapped her and she looked at me...she was fine and i was like "whaaa" ...anyhow, i sometimes understand things in a different way. I also feel useless to this world (have no job) im 17....i also think i see one thing but is not...they aren't serious at all i think. I feel like i often push people away, like a mean side comes out of me but i mean no harm :/ or am i meant to be an asshole?
I definitely think the lack of sleep is having the biggest impact on you. Lack of sleep can lead to experiences of depersonalisation, depression, mood swings, feeling 'out of it', and hallucinations. But sleep deprivation can only cause things like depersonalisation and hallucinations if it is serious and over a long period of time, so how much sleep have you been losing? When you say your sleep schedule is off, do you mean you barely get any sleep, or you have trouble falling asleep on time, and then you wake up late in the day? How many hours are you getting, and how long has it been going on for?
If you haven't been getting enough sleep for a long time, then sleep deprivation might be the biggest cause of your issues. Otherwise, it could be the drugs or another issue (which I'll go through).

You haven't said how long ago you stopped smoking weed, and how much you smoked. If you were addicted (I don't know, you have to be honest with yourself), you could possibly be having withdrawal symptoms (which includes mood swings, sleep disturbances, headaches, cravings, and other stuff). This is probably not likely, as you said you only did it for 6 months and you didn't do a lot, and you haven't had the other withdrawal symptoms. I don't know a lot about the effects of marijuana, because I have never done drugs, so all the info I have on it is from the internet (I got the withdrawal symptoms from this website:

http://alcoholism.about.com/od/pot/a/Marijuana-Withdrawal-Symptoms.htm

Which might be not so reliable)

You said you have anxiety attacks and experience depression. Both of these things can cause sleep disturbances and mood swings. Some people with depression are snappy and withdraw from people, which could explain why you 'push people away' and have a 'mean side'. But those two things could be from a lack of sleep also. So, like you can see, all these things can add up to make you have the emotional problems you are having, including feeling useless. I just want to say, you shouldn't feel useless for not having a job at 17, you will get one eventually if you keep trying :)
You should already be proud of yourself for quitting weed, because that can cause problems like the ones you are having now. I think the next step should definitely be to see a doctor, and explain everything to him/her. Your problems could be due to sleep deprivation, depression, anxiety, or something related to drugs, or it could be a different mental issue, and you should definitely see a doctor so you can begin feeling better. We can't diagnose you or figure out your problems on this website, you need to see a medical professional who can actually help you, not just give you advice. Good luck :)

Q: i feel as i have no soul i feel like someon estole my feelings i dont even care about my family and the boyfriend i loved to death, i just cant seem to love anymore is their anyone who feels the same???
You sound like you're feeling depressed. Everyone feels really sad sometimes, maybe if something has happened (like the death of a loved one, fired from your job, or a sudden change in your life), or sometimes we just feel sad for no reason. If you are a teenager, your hormones can make you feel depressed, especially if you are a female and are going to get your period, or already have your period, or have just finished your period.

How long have you been feeling like this? If it has only been one or two weeks, or less, it isn't right to think it is depression. If you've been feeling this way for more than a month, it might be a bit more serious than just a normal feeling of sadness.

You need to talk to someone about it. Keeping it bottled up will make it worse. Whether it is clinical depression or not, it is still serious that you are feeling like this.
Talk to a family member, or your boyfriend. They care about you and would want to know that you're feeling "empty".
If you think it is having an impact on your day-to-day life, you really should talk to a doctor about it. It is also an excellent idea to talk to a counselor/therapist.

If you are thinking it is depresssion, it is important to know that depression isn't just feeling "empty" or sad like you feel. It can also include (BUT doesn't HAVE TO include all of these things): losing interest in activities, weight changes, feeling very tired all the time or having insomnia (not being able to sleep), feeling physically 'slowed down', feeling worthless or excessively guilty, finding it hard to concentrate, or having suicidal thoughts.
It is important that you don't self-diagnose your self with depression, and actually talk to a doctor about it. Also, if you're having suicidal thoughts, you need to talk to a loved one and a professional.

Hope this helps.

Q: I am SO incredibly afraid of bugs. Any type of bug can really freak me out. Usually I end up crying and feel like I am going to pass out. I end up with wanting to throw up, too.

I know most people aren't so afraid of insects. I mean, my fears goes as far as harmless bugs like butterflies. I simply do not want their legs to touch me. It freaks me out to even think about their legs crawling on my skin.

The most I could come up with was a fear since infancy, as I was taken to the hospital because I had SO many insect bites on me. The doctors just informed them that I was more allergic than most people to these bites and needed to be kept away from times I would come in contact with bugs. Of course, I don't remember ANY of this, but I do remember growing up and having HUGE welts on my body from where a bug had bit me. They usually hurt and itched so it was terribly confusing.

I grew up always wearing long pants, usually long sleeved shirts if I could manage it, and practically bathing myself in OFF bug spray.

I still have this fear though and was wondering if there was a way to overcome this or if it was something I just have to cope with for the rest of my life. I've dealt with it so long now. It's really embarrassing, especially when it comes to be dodging butterflies and stuff that I KNOW is completely harmless.

Any advice? Even if someone is like me, knowing I'm not alone in this is very helpful...
I am also afraid of bugs. Mostly crawling bugs. I don't seem to get freaked out by flies, bees and butterflies, but things that crawl frighten me horribly.
I am mostly afraid of catterpillas. They freak me out, and if I see one (even a picture of one) I have to avoid it and I immediately start panacking and feeling dizzy.
Just typing this is making me feel like something is crawling on my legs. And when I see bugs I start hyperventilating and sometimes I get very emotional. I don't like being out at night because of bugs.
I just wanted to tell you all this to assure you that there are many people who are afraid of bugs. And Entomophobia is the technical name for a 'fear of insects or bugs'.

This is a serious thing and some people just think we are acting like drama queens, but we're not.

There is something that i do when I am feeling very brave. I actually go near a bug and hold it or look at it and think positive thaughts. (maybe something small and not so "creepy-crawly" like a worm or moth [if you hate flying bugs then you'll probably hate moths, maybe try something like a butchy boy/slater bug because they crawl into a ball and can be less frightening. Also I know worms seem gross but when you hold one they are not so bad and you can wash your hands afterwards])


Hope this helped you and sorry I am not that useful >

Q: 17/f

ok, this whole entire year, like from the beginning of last school year until now, i feel like i've been in this daze. i mean, i'm not depressed or anything, it's not like i hate my life. but, like in school everyone would always be like what's wrong? or you look depressed. are you depressed? and i'm like no.. i'm fine. like i would hear that literally every day. it got really annoying. i mean when i was at the carnival a week or so ago, i walked right in the middle of a couple holding hands, i didn't even realize where i was going or anything..i've always been a little bit of a day dreamer, but i pay attention in school a lot more then i used to. i don't have adhd, or add whatever. i got tested for it when i was little, and i don't have it. i haven't really done much this summer either, like i hang out with people, but i don't call them, they call me, and i don't really text anyone or anything, inless they do it to me, & all i've done this summer is take walks by myself in the park, swim, & a few parties. but besides that stuff, i just lay around kind of. like and stare at the ceiling. i don't know. :( is there something wrong with me?
Is something on your mind? Maybe there is something bugging you and you are consantly thinking about it, and sometimes you might not even notice you're doing it.
When you snap out of a daze, think about what you were just thinking about or what was just destracting you. This might help.

This is the only thing I can think of.

I hope everything works out for you :)
Good luck

Q: ok sometimes i get really angery when I see thing undo when i asked them to get done. i also get the feeling of being over whemled when i see stuff that i need to do. like if someone makes a mess of one of the cabinets i get over whemled by it like it is too much to handle. I get mad an angery. I start to freak out and everything. and i really get upset when things dont go my way. i think i have a mental problem. sometimes i start something and do finsh it like i have alot of great ideals but never start them i want to stop this behavor so i can chill out i hate getting like this and i hurt the feeling of the ones i love. i make nasty comments and everything what is wrong with me
Hmm... I will try my best to help, but this might not be correct.

You might be going through pubery or mood swings, it could be a natural thing or maybe you have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
Or something might be bothering you mentally. Has something happened to you lately, like the death of someone, a break-up or maybe financial issues? Anything like that could trigger this stress and worry. If it gets REALLY bad, maybe you should talk to someone you trust or a doctor.

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Hi! My name is Natalie and I am from Australia. I have always enjoyed helping people, and that is why I love using this website so much, and why I am studying Psychology at University to become a Clinical Psychologist. Hopefully I can give you some helpful advice and I always love feedback! :)

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