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Q: This girl wants to know about my...man thing...which isn't exactly big. I am wondering if I should let her see it since she knows my cousin and girls talk

well it depends. are you in a relationship with this girl?
you should trust her and it should be fine. people should accept the way that you are. you should not feel ashamed by things like this.
if you are in a relationship with this girl and if she makes a stupid comment then she obviously isnt worth it.
im sorry to say that yes there are some people out there who will make comments but some times you have to make sacrafises to get the anwsers you need. if she likes you for you then she wont say any thing and will like the way you are.
so if you feel comfortable with taking the rist then yes go for it.
i wish you luck. but im sure you wont need it :)

love Zoe
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Q: I am 15 years old and so is my boyfriend. There is this girl that he talks to that has been his friend for years. They both say that they are brother and sister type friends. I believe them but I have really big jealousy issues. This girl is skinnier than I, and prettier. I recently got into a fight with my boyfriend because when he went to his friends house she showed up. I ignored his calls and everything. Well, this girl Instant Messaged me asking me if he could go to San Francisco with her tomorrow to hang out with her and her mother because it is her birthday and she has no one else to go with and doesn't want to go alone. I want to feel sad and just cry thinking about. But they're just friends, right? Should I just let him go and face my jealousy and see if it helps me get over it? Or should I put my foot down and object of the whole thing?

hun dont worry they are just best friends. my best mate is a guy and we call eachother brother and sister. but hes just a mate. and im sure these to are aswell. im sure theres nothing to worry about. she obviously asked if he cud go just cus of the fact hes her best mate.
if you think about it who else wud you rather take other than ur best mate.
if they have known eachother years and hes with you. theres nothing goin on between them. cus he cud of had the chance ages ago 2 go out with her if they liked eachother that way. but they are not together hes with you. you just need to trust him.

so dont worry hun they are just mates.
Love Zoe
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Q: well I have this big problem that I flirt whenever, because I was just talking with this person that I don't "like-like" he's just okay, well anyway I realized after that I was sorta flirting and I realized I do it a ton, with out trying, and I am sending those people the wrong message, can someone help me with my problem, is it normal, I am way confused, thanks

dont worry hun yes it is normal. quite alot of people do it. there is no harm in flirting and if people get the wrnog stick it is best to tell them staight that your sorry and you didnt mean anything from it. dont try change the way you are. just be careful cus there are people who can get fucked up bout things like that.
have fun.

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Q: OK here it is, I'm 19 turning 20 soon and my girlfriend is 20, we have been going gout for almost 2 years now, and here it is, i have a high sex drive, i mean i like masturbate easily 3-6 times a day, but my girlfriend does not, i mean as far as i know she does not masturbate, and i wanted to know if there is anything i can do to get her in the mood, she likes to be massage and i like to massage her too, but i don't think she gets any stimulation out of it.

if she is not being as sexually active as you want. it is best to just try come on to her slowly and not TOO frequently. and if she doesnt want it at tht paticular time dont get arsey.

what are her main turn on points. for most girls kissing on the kneck is a mager turn on. or gental bitting on the kneck aswell.
youll just have to experiment on different things to try turn her on. different people have different ways.

dont push her, just encourage. some girls are not sexualy active all the time. and they dont tend to tell their boyfriends when they masturbate.

good luck.
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Q: Okay.. Please help me!
I go to camp in a place 15 minutes from me.
I've been going there for about 4 years.
Last year i met 3 guys...
Steve. David. Jon.
They were all really sweet and my best friends.
they are still all my best friends.
I really liked steve though.
more than friends.
he actually asked me out, and we went out
2 months after camp ended, i had to break up.
i never saw him!
and he did too many drugs!
so i broke up with him, and he was pretty upset.
Now we're still really good friends,
and he's always protecting me.
He has a girlfriend sam now... so its cool.
There was David,
who when i was going out with steve..
i thought i liked david a little bit too
he was way too sweet!
This year... its so awkward!
steve isnt in it anymore,
but we all still talk
Jon started holding my hand..
kissing me...
and putting his arm around me.
and it was weird because i like him too.
but, me and jon arnt going out
cuz he lives too far away.
Now i just found out david likes me.
and i cant help it because david is amazing.
i am always having dreams about david!
like.. sneaking behind jon and kissing david
but i dont think i like him..
well i guess im just trying to tell myself i dont
even though i might.
now my friends christine and russel,
are going to the movies as friends
(russel wants it as a date...but christine doesnt)
and they want me to go and to bring a guy friend. i thought to bring jon.
christine sed no
because it would be like a double date
because me and jon would be kissing...
so i said i'll bring david.
since he is my closest guy friend.
but truthfully...me and david would
probolly end up kissing too if he went.
jon is upset about david going because
he wants to go with me.
but david said he wont go if jon is going.
Oh and also,
me and david keep saying we're going to make-out and its going to be so cool,
and at first it was a joke..
but it's really not anymore.
steve said if i cant pick who to bring..
i should just bring steve.
ugh! what do i do?

wow...thats sounds confusing. what you want to do is figure out a few things.
1. do you want this to be a date of just a trip with some mates.

2. who do you like most. if its for a date which guy would you most like to kiss. and for just a trip with mates, who is your closest guy friend.

which ever you chose is who you should take.

dont let your friends chose for you. this is your desition. and if someone is getting jelous. you cant help the way you feel. no one can :)

i hope it all goes well
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Q: tonight when i was with my boyfriend i suddenly got bored and didnt wanna be with him anymore. i started having thoughts of breaking up with him. but then like 10 minutes later he was holding me and i felt so happy! i LOVE the physical attraction we have and hes really funny but im not sure if hes right for me cause i cant always be the crazy, hyper person that i am. is it bad that i was having those negative thoughts or is it normal? any advice will be appreciated!

Of course its normal. nearly every one will have these thought at some point in a relationship.

you say you are happy when he holds you and stuff. but you dont know if u like him anymore. hum.. there is two ways this could go.

1.you could be happy because you just liked to be held and wanted. and you dont actually like him.
2.but then you could really like him still but maybe you just felt a bit down.

you say you are usuallly a hyper person. maybe you was getting these thoughts because you was down. usually when I go hyper, later on in the day I will feel really down. and some times I have also thought that I didnt want to be with my boyfriend. so that might be why was having these thoughts.

but hun, you need to figure out if it is just the love of being wanted and held. or if you do actually like him still. then if you can figure out which one is right then I can try help you abit more.

Love Zoe
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bio

Hi mine name is Zoe. I am 17 years old and i love to give people the advise they need.
I am generaly a nice person and enjoy helping people out.

I myself have been though some tough stages in my life but I have got the advise i needed and I have pulled though.

I am here to listern to your questions and give you the answers that you need to help you pull though and understand too.

Love Zoe
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