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Q: ok.. well i have this frined [maria]and she used to like this kid [allen] and then they had a "bump in their relationship" and now they dont even talk.. she says she hates him but every time we get around him she says how much she wishes she was still around him and that they were still together --- its really annoying and i love maria like a sister and i just dont want her to think that way - i know she still likes him but i dont know what to do!!!!!! (mainly i sent you this because shes annoying me.. and i think she needs help with her relationship problems)

haha wow, she needs counseling. JUST KIDDING lol.
Seriously though, she should talk to him. or you should talk to her. sooner or later, she will just realise how silly shes being. let her realise that on her own. in other words, deal with it.

GOOD LUCK!!
Jenn

Q: I like this guy in 6th grade. My friend went out with a guy in 6th grade and got made fun of all the time and i dont wanna end up like her, but i REALLY LIKE THIS GUY.. alot!!! uugh.. what should i do!

if you like him as much as say you do, then you shouldnt care what other people think. just ignore them. its a known fact that most people who make fun like that, are jealous because theyre lonely. dont listen to them. i mean, youre married to a 7th grader! :) :)

good luck, love,

Jenn

Q: Ok, I'm new at this, so please bear with me. I'm 13, female. There's this guy I like, and I've told him this before. But he's under the impression that I've moved on. But I really haven't, and I don't know how to tell him this. How should I do this?

Completely Lost

bring it up in a casual conversation. flirt with him. then just say, "you know i still like you, right? and that i never stopped?" that outta do it.. if youre shy, write him a note!

Good luck,
Jenn

Q: ok... i liked this guy [matt] for three years - and my friends finally knocked some sense into me that hes no good and he dosent like me bakc and al that stuff... and my best friend [ashley] is mad at me because i didnt listen to her advice and i listened to my other friend [andrew] - we get into fights all the time and i dont want her to hate me over this too... and on top of that she says ive been acting really depressed since all this has happened -about a week or so now-.. uugh i hate love.. what should i do?!?!

xoxo morgan

Well,

First of all, Morgan, Ashley isnt that great of a friend, and will be that way forever. She cant change that. Her telling you how to feel? Not cool. Ashley is blunt. She is quick to say "get over him" without asking how you feel about him. With andrew, he knows everything. and hes such a good friend you dont have to worry about fighting with him. This is where I say that Guys are such better friends than girls. Theyll never, ever hurt you. And if they do, it's mostly unintentional. Like you said last night, andrew knows you better. Ashley doesnt. He's going to know how to cheer you up and everything. Ashley may just bring you down more. As much as this sucks for you, maybe you should rethink your friendship with Ashley. If you guys are always fighting, why stay friends? Dont let some pact you took ruin your life. Go up to her and tell her that she doesn't know you as well as she thinks, that youve changed, and things have changed. If she gets pissed, than somethings really wrong with her. You're a good friend, Morgan. You dont need someone to bring you down.

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: Ok so this guy Robert asked me out and i told him i had to think about it. Well just yesterday i realized that i liked his friend Forrest alot so i told my friend Brittany. Well Brittany told her ex who's the brother of Forrest and Forrest told Robert. So this morning Robert asked me about it and i told him it wasn't true and he believed me. Well in 2nd period i told my friend Justin about all of it and that i really do like Forrest. Robert is in the same class as me and Justin so Justin told Robert so now i think he's upset. I dont know if i should talk to him or just give him some space. But i really do want to talk to him about the whole thing cause before all of this happened i was going to go out with him. So do i talk to him or just give him space and wait until he comes and talks to me? what should i do?
Thankyou for any advise you give.
I'm 15 and a female

talk to him. dont leave him in the dark. think of what u would want from him if this happened to you, and make it happen.

Good luck hun!
Jenn

Q: i really like my friend and i poured my heart out to him (after we told him i liked him 3 months earlier!) and he goes oh you still like me???? and so it was awkward for a while but hes been liek more normal anyway like this week is spring break and he hasnt been on so i went on an old sn and he WAS on so i found out HE BLOCKED ME!!!! i am so upset right now and i keep trying to get over him..please help me what to dO?!?! i am 14 female--hes 14 male

NOT COOl! Slap him hard. tell him hes a jerk and he hurt you alot....thats what i would do lol!

Good luck! (hit him hard chica!)
Jenn

Q: lord i dont no what to do. my dad is prejudice and theres this black boy i love half to death and he likes me i want to go out wit him but my dad said he'll kill me and that boi and i was like is love worth gettin killed over please tell me what i can do..?

hes gonna have to get over it. youre in love, what can he do. THE 50'S ARE OVER!! prejudice is out! you cant help who you fall in love with and you shouldnt have to. forget about ur dad. plus, its kinda like romeo and juliet!

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: My ex & I have become sort of friends now. In a recent conversation he got very hurtful. He told me about his new girlfriend & how much he 'loves' her. I didn't want to seem jealous/hurt so I went along with everything like it was fine. He told me he hasn't thought about me at all since we broke up. Then when I said something about another guy, he said he didn't care. Does this mean something? If he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, would he actually say all this to me? I still have strong feelings for him.

Because hes an asshole. If he had feelings for you, hed still be with you, right? there is the possibility that he is tring to stop himself from liking you, so hes saying that. either way thats messed up.

Good luck hun, i hope it all works out.

Q: ok...my boyfriend is moving 13 miles away from me and he is going to be going to a different school and i trust him and love him with all my heart and life and all but im afraid that we are going to slowly stop talking then we are never going to see each other again. should i break up with him now and save both of us or just one of us the grief or should i stay with him and try real hard to keep intouch what should i do?

1st, how close are you? if you guys are really close, give it a shot and see if it works out. If you really trust him, why are you so worried?

Have you talked to him about this??

If not, Altough you may want to be with him, it gets really hard after a while...trying to stay in touch and seeing eachother...youll start thinking over the relationship and wonder what you should do. in my opinion, i say break up with him. you or he will be doing it in a month anyway.

bio

Hey, I'm jenn. I'm 14 years old and I live in Florida. I get a lot of people who ask me stuff, so I decided to make one of these, so that I can help everyone out the best that I can. I will answer Your questions as soon as possible, just dont worry if I dont get back to you, because i will eventually. :)

I wish you the best!!

Love,
Jenn