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Hey what's up, My names Samantha, I love giving advice, It's better to talk about problems than holding them in because that only makes you feel worse. I'm mostly Swedish and British but mixed with some other stuff lol. I love Listening to music (rap, r&b, I LOVE USHER), I love watching basketball, I love sports, Swimming, Soccer, Dancing ect, I love hanging out with friends, and Talking on the internet and i write poetry. I'll answer any question as long as it's no rude/bitching questions towards me, otherwise I'll help with anything. My birthdays October 23. I'm 14 but I've gone through a lot of things early so, I'm someone you can probably relate to on a lot of subjects, or I've already been through what your going through. One thing I can say to everybody is don't be immature and don't talk shit, if you don't like someone just leave them alone. So any questions just ask by clicking ask a question above or click ask me for advice underneath this, please leave a comment and a rating on my advice. Thanks
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kay there weren't any categories relevant to the situation.
but i do have a question...or few
#1:
i'm like the outcast of my school. i dont really know like anyone. i have like 2 good friends but they aren't very tight with the incrowd either. and i've been wanting to get with the incrowd so i know about parties and just a whole bunch of other stuff too. but im too shy. idk what to do..help please.
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i have a boyfriend and i worry when he goes to parties beacuse the girls are like always all over him.i know he is mine but idk. i dont know too much about his past relationships with girls and if hes like ever cheated on em and stuff, and i dont know how he acts at parties, i've never really been to any fucking cool ass shit parties that he goes to. so i'm scared like the next day when we talk hes gonna be like "i did something lsat night" or "i dont think we should go out anymore" or something like that. what can i do to not worry?
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Okay for the first problem, you reallyy need a reality check because being in the "incrowd" isn't what lifes about, I mean seroiusly do you want people to like you just cause other people do or just by the way you look or something stupid like that? I'm deff not in the "incrowd" but I could give a shit less what people think about me. If someone doesn't like you for you then they arn't worth your time and who cares about them. At least you know who your true friends are and they're there because they actually care about you. It doesn't really matter if your shy though, I'm shy unless I'm around people I know then I'm not but still. I guess if you really wanna get new friends just talk to people, they arn't gunna like bite your head off lol. Okay problem #2 the first thing you should probably do is talk to him about his past and find out what hes done and whats happened, you have a right to know, when your dating someone you learn somethin new about them all the time so theres nothing wrong with asking questions, just don'tttt make it seem like you don't trust him like don't be all like "are you cheating on me" or something like that. Next ask him if you could go to parties with him I mean he is your boyfriend and couples mostly go to parties together theres nothing wrong with it. Lastly don't worry about him and other girls because hes with you, hes chosen you over any other girl to be with, so don't worry about him and other girls because even if other girls do hit on him it shouldn't matter to him. Just don't forget trust because without it you have nothing in a relationship. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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How do you tell a girl that you want to be more than already your doing. Its all good to be doing these things already, but i want more. I think that we should go to the next level. I am kinda gettin bored so i need help.
Okay, just tell her exactly what you told me tell her how you feel and that you think you two should go to the next level. Basically just tell her how you feel. I don't know much about the situation so I don't really know what to say but hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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mmkay well, i moved over the summer and now im trying to get over my summer love.. but we like never went out.. i was just really and still am in love with him but as i said im trying to get over him.. ANYWAYYSSSS.. so theres this boy at my new schooooool his name is michael.. and i liek him alottt and he knew that.. and he flirts and everything but now he just asked out this scummy bitch belinda.. what should i do now? im like reallllly heartbroken =/
No matter how many guys you like your gunna get your heartbroken, it just happeneds and you can't control it. As long as you were 100% honest with michael then you have nothin to worry about. If he knew how you felt and still asked someone else out it just wasn't meant to be, and you can find better. Just look for guys who have a lot of the qualities you like, take things slow and don't rush things so much. When you rush you involve too many feelings and get your emotions too strong and too into something that you don't know for sure will even happen. About your guy over the summer.. long distance is almost impossible at our age to maintain, and I know how people have those summer flings but you gotta realize even though you think you love them you don't. You just lust them a lottt, but when you love someone you can't go after other people until your over it. If you don't give yourself time to get through it then it'll take longer and will just get harder. You don't have to do this but to get over someone faster its best to not talk to them until the feelings are gone, even though it seems impossible to talk to them as just friends it really isn't because its happened many timess. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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Ok i've known this one kid a really really long time and when i was littler i use to like him then the feelings went away! Well now i really like him more than anything. and i dont want to tell him because my parents would bother me about it. The other day i seen him and his girlfriend. I know i should b happy since he's really close to me, but everytime he talks about her i just walk away and ignore him. I want him to know how i feel but i dont know how to tell him. What should i do?
I know this might not be what you wanna hear but it's probably best. Okay I understand how you feel with liking someone who has a girlfriend because a lot of people have been through it in the past, and I know it can be hurtful and make you feel jelous when he talks about her.. but you've just gotta realize that he doesn't know how you feel so he doesn't know it's bothering you. If it really gets to you that bad I would honestly say to talk to him because it's not good to hold your feelings in because it would stop you two from getting even closer. And if it's constantly bother you, I don't know about you but I couldn't take that. What I would do is simply explain to him that you know you two have known eachother for a long time and are really close and your not trying to freak him out or anything but you have to let him know how you feel, say that you arn't meaning to interrupt or cause anything for him and his girlfriend to break up but you just couldn't hold things in anymore. Make it clear to him that you don't want him to feel weird around you or for you two to become any less close. Also, If you really like him you shouldn't let your parents teasing you bother you. Just remember one thing, be careful on if your sure this is what you want, because I've been in similar situations with hooking up with your best friend and it might often ruien the friendship and the two people feel ockword around eachother or talking to them. Just make sure he's what you want, make sure your willing to take the risk of going out with him and then breaking up and not being friends or staying friends and always wondering what could've happened if you would've told him your feelings. Lastly remember if you don't take risks your holding yourself back on the future. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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Hi im from forest hills New Hampshire, im 14 and a female. Today i noticed your advice column and suddenly it came to me I had a question. You see last saturday night i was with this boy and he wanted me to do somethings i felt uncomfterable with. He kept asking me to suck his penis i was a little shocked, i have never seen a real penis befrore and I wasnt sure what to say. I told him i would have to think about and im going to see him again on friday night What do i do? Also i was wondering have you ever donesomething you regret with a guy? and is it bad to look at porn?
dazed and confused thanks mariah
Well for one do NOT everrr do anything you are uncomfortable with, recently something simalar was happening to me but no one was asking me to do anything they were just doing things that made me feel uncomfortable, all you need to do is simply say no if it's not what you want. The first time you do things with a guy you want to be in a relationship and be comefortbale with it. Don't just do something because you feel like you have to because you neverrr have to. My best advice would depend on 2 things, one on how uncomfortable it made you feel and how much he tried to talk you into it because you don't want things to go too far. For example if you kept saying no and he was trying to pressure you.. things could go too far and you may possibly be forced to do something by him if you know what I mean. So I would reccomend not going into a secluded area away from people just alone with him. Next, yes I have done things I regret with guys but don't get me wrong I'm not a slut or anything, just everyone has there regrets. Lastly no it's perfectly normal to look at porn most people do, theres nothing wrong with it. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox
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yea so..ive liked this kid for a really long time ...we have dated 2 times the first time i dumped him the second time he broke my heart...and i like him alot again but sometime i feel like im all he sees then again sometimes i feel like we r so far apart i cant even reach him....all i want him to do is like me again and im not sure how to go about the whole situation i just really need some help...?
Alright.. the best thing you can do is just talk to him about everything, explain how you feel and that you miss him and how things used to be. You can't really make him like you, he has to want to on his own. Theres 3 important things needed in a relationship which is Trust, Honesty, and Communication without these realtionships tend to fall apart faster. You really just need to talk to him tell him how sometimes you feel so close yet other times you feel so far and ask him how he feels and what he wants. One thing you need to remember is don't ever let someone break your heart over and over, everyone deserves a second chance but if they fuck that up they really aren't worth it because you don't need the drama in your life and can find someone who wouldn't keep on hurting you, someone who would ust make you happy. I can't really tell you what to say to him because I'm not you and don't know how you feel, all i can say is don't hold your feelings in from him because that doesn't change anything. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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