Ok so i had this friend..and we've been friends since a few years ago, and we keep slipping away. We both are stupid and listen to stupid rumors and believe them no matter the truth. Other times, my one friend would just stop talking to me, and wouldnt say hi or anything. Ive been there for her forever, and we fight alot, but i dont want it to happen again because her friendship is one in a million. I also cant just go out and say it because im having a really hard time and im starting to give up on everything..Thanx
Okay.. well you have 2 choices here, you should talk to her about it and try and sort things out, and if she just doesn't care and continues to not talk to you. She obvoiusly doesn't value your friendship the same way that you do with her, and you should probably just leave things alone for awhile. I mean yeah best friends fight like my best friend is like my sister and we get annoyed of eachother sometimes when we spend too much time together but what makes us like sisters is even though we're annoyed we don't want eachother to go lol like we fight and shit but we always make up and we also don't fight A LOT. So if you try with your best friend and she doesn't accept it shes not really a true friend. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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kay there weren't any categories relevant to the situation.
but i do have a question...or few
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i'm like the outcast of my school. i dont really know like anyone. i have like 2 good friends but they aren't very tight with the incrowd either. and i've been wanting to get with the incrowd so i know about parties and just a whole bunch of other stuff too. but im too shy. idk what to do..help please.
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i have a boyfriend and i worry when he goes to parties beacuse the girls are like always all over him.i know he is mine but idk. i dont know too much about his past relationships with girls and if hes like ever cheated on em and stuff, and i dont know how he acts at parties, i've never really been to any fucking cool ass shit parties that he goes to. so i'm scared like the next day when we talk hes gonna be like "i did something lsat night" or "i dont think we should go out anymore" or something like that. what can i do to not worry?
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Okay for the first problem, you reallyy need a reality check because being in the "incrowd" isn't what lifes about, I mean seroiusly do you want people to like you just cause other people do or just by the way you look or something stupid like that? I'm deff not in the "incrowd" but I could give a shit less what people think about me. If someone doesn't like you for you then they arn't worth your time and who cares about them. At least you know who your true friends are and they're there because they actually care about you. It doesn't really matter if your shy though, I'm shy unless I'm around people I know then I'm not but still. I guess if you really wanna get new friends just talk to people, they arn't gunna like bite your head off lol. Okay problem #2 the first thing you should probably do is talk to him about his past and find out what hes done and whats happened, you have a right to know, when your dating someone you learn somethin new about them all the time so theres nothing wrong with asking questions, just don'tttt make it seem like you don't trust him like don't be all like "are you cheating on me" or something like that. Next ask him if you could go to parties with him I mean he is your boyfriend and couples mostly go to parties together theres nothing wrong with it. Lastly don't worry about him and other girls because hes with you, hes chosen you over any other girl to be with, so don't worry about him and other girls because even if other girls do hit on him it shouldn't matter to him. Just don't forget trust because without it you have nothing in a relationship. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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im 14/f there's this boy that goes to my school and we usually walk half-way to where my mom works together n he always like picks on me...like he'll come up behind me njump on me n then he'll like kinda make fun of me but he's juts playin around n idk if he likes me or he is juts mesin around??
Most likely he likes you, like I'm not saying FOR SURE he does cause I'm not him lol, but I would say he probably does. Some guys flirt in different ways some are really nice, some make jokes, and some are mean lol and I'm sure theres more. But anyways if you wanna know for sure you should probably ask him about it or like make jokes about it back and see what he does. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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How do you tell a girl that you want to be more than already your doing. Its all good to be doing these things already, but i want more. I think that we should go to the next level. I am kinda gettin bored so i need help.
Okay, just tell her exactly what you told me tell her how you feel and that you think you two should go to the next level. Basically just tell her how you feel. I don't know much about the situation so I don't really know what to say but hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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i am 14 and a female and theres this guy in my school that i think is rele kool n he n i are rele close but i rele like him a lot more than a ftiend n i kno if i ask him out or something it would be awkward because his mom and my mom work at the same place n i don't kno how to tell him how i feel cuz i don't want him to think tht i was stupid for asking
Well don't ask him out, just tell him how you feel because otherwise he just won't know and that doesn't do anythin for either of you. He won't think your stupid at all and if he doesn't you don't want him anyways. Today I got some fotune cookies and they have some really good like quote things. "Seek to assert your devotion when a worthy situation arises" which is like don't give up on something that is "worthy" so if that guy makes you happy then try like go for it, and try don't let what "could" happen bother you. "Telling someone the trust is a loving act" haha I know these are corny but that last one is "The thought that leads to no action is not thought-its dreaming. If you just think and not do anything your just dreamin. I hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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mmkay well, i moved over the summer and now im trying to get over my summer love.. but we like never went out.. i was just really and still am in love with him but as i said im trying to get over him.. ANYWAYYSSSS.. so theres this boy at my new schooooool his name is michael.. and i liek him alottt and he knew that.. and he flirts and everything but now he just asked out this scummy bitch belinda.. what should i do now? im like reallllly heartbroken =/
No matter how many guys you like your gunna get your heartbroken, it just happeneds and you can't control it. As long as you were 100% honest with michael then you have nothin to worry about. If he knew how you felt and still asked someone else out it just wasn't meant to be, and you can find better. Just look for guys who have a lot of the qualities you like, take things slow and don't rush things so much. When you rush you involve too many feelings and get your emotions too strong and too into something that you don't know for sure will even happen. About your guy over the summer.. long distance is almost impossible at our age to maintain, and I know how people have those summer flings but you gotta realize even though you think you love them you don't. You just lust them a lottt, but when you love someone you can't go after other people until your over it. If you don't give yourself time to get through it then it'll take longer and will just get harder. You don't have to do this but to get over someone faster its best to not talk to them until the feelings are gone, even though it seems impossible to talk to them as just friends it really isn't because its happened many timess. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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oh your very pretty whats your secret where do u buy ur clother whats your braw type i wish i was just like you can you give me some tips it would be very appreciated
awwe, thanks I don't really buy my clothes from any specific stores because it doesn't really matter lol if I see something I like I get it, and I just match everything together, like if I'm wearing brown I wear a brown belt too or something like that you know. With my makeup I usually just use this almay stuff thats supposed to make the color of your eyes brighter (mascara, eye shadow and eye liner), or I use white eye shadow and put brown over it and use brown eyeliner. And I usually get my bras from victorias secret or JC Penny. Thats basically it, besides don't go overboard with eye shadow and put it all the way up to right under your eye brows lol. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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Hey my names jason and interisted in becoming sexually active. but I dont even know where to start, im 15 and i have a girlfriend. weve been together for 2 years. I was wondering if you knew any sexual tips or positions. Also if you could can you tell me an easy way to teach her to masturbate me. Im terribly sorry because this is soo wierd but i believe your the best one to explain to me. I hope you answer soon thanks JJ.
Well I'm not that experianced with sex because I've never had it but I do know a few things just by instinct. First, dont just go right into it you can't just out of no where have sex it's probably better if you mess around at first, if you know what I mean. Also like she's probably senstive if she's a virgin which I'm guessing she is, so if she says go slow do it don't really question her because it doesn't hurt for guys. You can't really teach someone to give a handy they just have to learn and practice helps lol. If she doesn't know how then show her and ask her to try or something like that. And don't be sorry cause everyone goes through these things. I'm sorry that I couldn't give you real specific advice, but I hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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Ok i've known this one kid a really really long time and when i was littler i use to like him then the feelings went away! Well now i really like him more than anything. and i dont want to tell him because my parents would bother me about it. The other day i seen him and his girlfriend. I know i should b happy since he's really close to me, but everytime he talks about her i just walk away and ignore him. I want him to know how i feel but i dont know how to tell him. What should i do?
I know this might not be what you wanna hear but it's probably best. Okay I understand how you feel with liking someone who has a girlfriend because a lot of people have been through it in the past, and I know it can be hurtful and make you feel jelous when he talks about her.. but you've just gotta realize that he doesn't know how you feel so he doesn't know it's bothering you. If it really gets to you that bad I would honestly say to talk to him because it's not good to hold your feelings in because it would stop you two from getting even closer. And if it's constantly bother you, I don't know about you but I couldn't take that. What I would do is simply explain to him that you know you two have known eachother for a long time and are really close and your not trying to freak him out or anything but you have to let him know how you feel, say that you arn't meaning to interrupt or cause anything for him and his girlfriend to break up but you just couldn't hold things in anymore. Make it clear to him that you don't want him to feel weird around you or for you two to become any less close. Also, If you really like him you shouldn't let your parents teasing you bother you. Just remember one thing, be careful on if your sure this is what you want, because I've been in similar situations with hooking up with your best friend and it might often ruien the friendship and the two people feel ockword around eachother or talking to them. Just make sure he's what you want, make sure your willing to take the risk of going out with him and then breaking up and not being friends or staying friends and always wondering what could've happened if you would've told him your feelings. Lastly remember if you don't take risks your holding yourself back on the future. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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Hi im from forest hills New Hampshire, im 14 and a female. Today i noticed your advice column and suddenly it came to me I had a question. You see last saturday night i was with this boy and he wanted me to do somethings i felt uncomfterable with. He kept asking me to suck his penis i was a little shocked, i have never seen a real penis befrore and I wasnt sure what to say. I told him i would have to think about and im going to see him again on friday night What do i do? Also i was wondering have you ever donesomething you regret with a guy? and is it bad to look at porn?
dazed and confused thanks mariah
Well for one do NOT everrr do anything you are uncomfortable with, recently something simalar was happening to me but no one was asking me to do anything they were just doing things that made me feel uncomfortable, all you need to do is simply say no if it's not what you want. The first time you do things with a guy you want to be in a relationship and be comefortbale with it. Don't just do something because you feel like you have to because you neverrr have to. My best advice would depend on 2 things, one on how uncomfortable it made you feel and how much he tried to talk you into it because you don't want things to go too far. For example if you kept saying no and he was trying to pressure you.. things could go too far and you may possibly be forced to do something by him if you know what I mean. So I would reccomend not going into a secluded area away from people just alone with him. Next, yes I have done things I regret with guys but don't get me wrong I'm not a slut or anything, just everyone has there regrets. Lastly no it's perfectly normal to look at porn most people do, theres nothing wrong with it. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox
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yea so..ive liked this kid for a really long time ...we have dated 2 times the first time i dumped him the second time he broke my heart...and i like him alot again but sometime i feel like im all he sees then again sometimes i feel like we r so far apart i cant even reach him....all i want him to do is like me again and im not sure how to go about the whole situation i just really need some help...?
Alright.. the best thing you can do is just talk to him about everything, explain how you feel and that you miss him and how things used to be. You can't really make him like you, he has to want to on his own. Theres 3 important things needed in a relationship which is Trust, Honesty, and Communication without these realtionships tend to fall apart faster. You really just need to talk to him tell him how sometimes you feel so close yet other times you feel so far and ask him how he feels and what he wants. One thing you need to remember is don't ever let someone break your heart over and over, everyone deserves a second chance but if they fuck that up they really aren't worth it because you don't need the drama in your life and can find someone who wouldn't keep on hurting you, someone who would ust make you happy. I can't really tell you what to say to him because I'm not you and don't know how you feel, all i can say is don't hold your feelings in from him because that doesn't change anything. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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how do you keep girls away from your man?
oh i knoww how this one is, well theres a few things you can do:
-beat the bitches ass (I wouldn't recommend doing)
-talk to her and tell her to stay away because he doesn't want her
besides those theres nothing you can really do accept the one i recommend the most which is to simply do nothing, only because you have to trust your man, because without trust you have nothing. Trust that he is doing you right and no matter what bitches want him he's not doing anything wrong because all he wants is you. The last thing you have to realize is he's chooseing you over any other girl to be with and if hes a good man he wouldn't fuck up what he has with you to hook up with some trick. So don't let those girls get to you because they're just trying to ruien everything because they see you happy, so don't even give them the time of day because girls are bitches and there will always be someone trying to get with your man or trying to piss you off you just have to brush it off and not worry about it. Hope I helped, Samantha Ox.
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Theres this boy i like in my class and were really good friends but i want to become more but i dont want to embarrasse myself about the situation and when i tell him. How do I go about it and Whens the right time and Wheres the right time?
Well it depends on what type of person you are like what place you could or would be willing to do it, but all you really have to do is tell him how you feel about him, say something like we've been friends for awhile now and its been killing me not telling you but i've kinda liked you for awhile.. how do you feel? or something like that just make sure your comfortable with what you say and don't say anything you don't mean. It doesn't really matter where you tell him it could be in person, over the phone, or even aol, because if he likes you then it won't really matter to him just that you had the guts to tell him how you feel and that he feels the same way. But look for signs on if he likes you, he might make jokes about you or just plain flirt with you if he likes you just lil things you know. But if he doesn't feel that same way make it clear to him that you just had to let your feelings out but you don't want anything to change between the two of you, do nottt make him feel bad for not liking you back because then you might loose the friendship, lastly remember that if you don't take risks in life you'll never know what could've happened and if he doesn't like you don't waste your time on him because if the person doesn't like you for who you are then they aren't worth your time. Hope I helped, Samantha xO.
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