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Q: Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.

Well, I believe you are in love. I guess older people dont believe it because when they were our age their parents said the same things to them.. so that made them believe it too. I dont think you should listen to what other people say, eventually they'll leave you two alone. Just keep telling them the truth and hopefully one day they'll realize you truly are in love.

-Rachel

Q: This girl and i have been realy good freinds since the day we met(she was in 7th and I in 8th). last year we started liking eachother and then we ended up dating for like a week or two and then she ended up moving to a town 45 minutes away so we stopped dating. we sorta lost contact for a little but but then reconnected and picked up our friendship where it left off. well she then again moved all the way to texas(i live in california) and we lost contact all together for a while. Once again we reconnected and started talking more and soon she moved back to the town 45 minutes away from me. now that she lives there agian weve been talking almost every day on the phone or online and we even got to see eachother the other weekend for the first time since the summer. We both want to see eachother more and since the other weekend old feelings have arrisen and we both REALLY like eachother again(i havent stopped thinking about her since). we both want to date but the distance seems sumwhat of a setback since she doesnt drive because shes not old enough and i dont either because im busy to get my license. we both really care about eachother and want to be with eachother, and im there 100% to making the relationship work if she commits knowing that the distance will be a setback to seeing eachother regularly. should we try dating a see what happens? would a long( but realatively short) distance relationship between us work? i would greatly appreciate your help and advice.

I think you should at least try. If you two still have feelings for eachother after all this time, I think its worth it. The long/short-distance may or may not be a bad thing. You'll just have to find out!

Good Luck!!!
-Rachel

Q: im so ttoaly lost i really need help. Nothin feels right between me and my boyfriend. we have been going out for a while and well everything was great and now nothing feels right... i mean he is doing things he knows will piss me off and hes not really telling me anyhinghting anymore... i dont know what to do and i really need help and some one jsut to tlak to...... PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!

I would break up with him. If he knows whatever he's doing is bothering you then he obviously doesn't care about you.

Good Luck!
-Rachel

Q: Okay well Im going out with this kid Lucas... he is a year younger then me... Im 13 hes 12... I have never made out with anyone... & I am really ashamed of that kinda... idk... so yea weve been goin out for 3 weeks today... and hes on my bus n all my friends are stupid n they are always tryin to get us to make out n stuff... n I just feel like weird especially on the bus where everyone can see us... I dont know if he has ever made out with anyone... I think he has because his last g/f he went out wit he was with for almost a year... also in the back of my mind I keep thinking that he doesnt really like me and i cant help but be paranoid... n Ive been ignoring sitting with him on the bus n stuff just to avoid kissing n stuff... idk..

So I guess im just asking for advice on what to do about kissing and how to stop being so paranoid! any help you can give would be great!!

thanx so much!

WEll, first off, I think you should find out if you want to kiss him or not. If you do, then you should just relax and try to be confident. I dont think avoiding the problem helps. If you dont want to then just tell your friends the next time they're like "Kiss him!" that you dont want to.

Good Luck!
-Rachel

Q: I really like this guy and hes home for vacation and so am i but i dont know if i should ask him if he wants to hang out or how. I mean we are really good friends but he has a girlfriend (who isnt home and hes thinking of breaking up with) but we never talk on the phone and he cant go online cuz his comps broken.....ugh what do i do!

Dear Diane,

I think you should just call him. And ask if he wants to hang out with you and a friend or something.

Good Luck!
-Rachel

Q: I like these two guys and they are best friends and I don't know who I like more. I'm not sure if one of them likes me but I'm possitive the other one does. Any advice?

I think you should go with the one who likes you, cause if your positive where on the other guy your not so positive, if you go with the guy who doesnt like you, you could be losing something else with the guy who does.

Did that makes sence? lol. Hope I helped!

Good Luck!
-Rachel

Q: Well there is the girl at my school who i like but i found out today that she dosent want to go out with me and i still have feelings for her and i just cant seem to get her outta my head even though i know she wont go out with me i am still crazy about her and i dont know what to do please help i reall cant stop thinking about her no matter what i do i just cant stop thinking about her like right now i am and i just dont know what to do.

First of all, theres nothing wrong with liking someone after they reject you. You just need time. Eventually you'll think of her as just another girl and hopefully you'll move on and start to like someone else. I talk from experience, you will get over her!

Good luck!
-Rachel

Q: Well here is the thing see im 14 m and i have never had a girlfriend is that weird or wrong or anything please help.

NO! It is not weird or wrong that you havent had a girlfriend yet. I havent had a boyfriend since 5th grade! But its ok, just keep on searching for a girl you know will like you and go for it! Someday you will get a girlfriend! Don't worry!

Good Luck!!!
-Rachel

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Heyy people! I am 13 years old and I have like rllllly long brunette hair, hazel eyes, and im pretty tall! I LOVE to sing, dance, act, hang out with my friends, shop!, go to the movies, and give advice!