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14/f
i've had boyfriends before, but this boy, is my world. he loved me when i didn't even love myself.
we have been going out for a year && a few months, but suddenly his grandma has cancer and there are other reasons, but hes moving to Ecuador. He told me he'll come back for me in two years. [He's moving in two weeks] I spent last night crying till i threw up and only got an hour a sleep. 2 years though!? what am i suppose to do? im only 14. his parents asked for me to come with him, but i said no. i can't, im too young and even i know that. advice or opinons are appreciated =/

Ohh my god I am so sorry !! okay if you really loved him and he feels the same way you should keep your relationship if he has a computer you can talk threw emails or webcams and maybe once in a while you can visit eachother but sorry to bum you out long distance relationship don't work sometimes because one might cheat on the other so you could leave your relationship on a hold until he comes back but still talk to eachother but follow your heart (i know that sounds cheasy but it's true)god bless to his grandma!

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okay well i talked to my b/f today. and he did the normal hey i gotta go. and i told him to wait. i asked him what was wrong. and i wanted the truth. at the same time i heard his dad ask if is was well lest call her lily. my b/f said no it was megs. and i asked who "lily" was. and he said listen we need to talk. and all of a sudden my heart sunk. he goes megs ive been cheating on you with "lily" and i started crying and i asked him for how long. and he said a month ago. i asked him how. and i asked him if he still was. he said he broke up with her. and that it would never happen again! so my question is....should i break up with him?!
cause i kno im only 14 but i feel like i love him. and he told me he loved me.
so should i?

To tell you the honest truth i think you should break up with him because if he really loved you he would not hurt you like that and plus how do you know he will not hurt you agian although he said "i love you" he could be b.s.ing it. But if you really do care for him and you trust him enough then i say stick with him but really it's up to you if you trust him or you don't want to get hurt agian.

hope i helped

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Okay so last year i messed around with this guy and we only talked here and there since. but for the last couple of months hes been messaging me on myspace but when we see eachother other places its awkward sometimes he makes a comment to me but rarely. any ideas on how to talk to him when i see him?

Maybe you should tell him if you want him to talk to you it can't be on myspace it has to be face to face because you want to get to know him better. I suggest you talk normally around him and try to act confortable around him and have casual conversations to make it less akward maybe you should talk to him in a group of friends rather than alone so it is less akward.

hope I helped

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i recently came out and the girl i like is on my basketball team. weve flirted and become rele close. she doesnt know im gay but i think she gets it. i dont know if i shud tell her or shud i just keep going.

OK, I suggest you find out if she is one ..maybe you should hangout more and like go to the movies or something before asking her out.


hope i helped

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i know this is really common, but i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for his birthday. hes gonna be 17. he loves hockey, and i know he shops at hollister. i wanna get him like, a shirt or something with a few other things, but are guys weirded out when their girlfriends buy them clothes? haha. i know he just bought new cologne today, so thats out of the question too. any help would be really appreciated thank youu

You know what would be heaps cool if you got him a gift basket sorta thing like get a laundry basket and put in his favorite foods,colonage,some tee's from holister [considering you said he likes that store],maybe hockey tickets[b/c he likes hockey]... and then when your finish buying him stuff put it in a basket and wrap it cute and everything... :0)

hope we helped

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how do you get rid of hickies

well you cannot exactly get rid of it but to make it not noticble use coverup !

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im a 13yr old female.
& my boyfriend is 18.
i have no idea what i should get my boyfriend for our one month aniversary. its on the 9th but i just have no idea what he would want. but its also his birthday and i know what he wants, but i doubt i will give it to him because he wants to have sex with me.

does anyone have any suggestions on what i should get him?



thanks.

wow that is sorta a big age difference don't ya think but w/e it's jus a number..
1)get like rings 4 eachotha with your names on it
2)idk like shirt with a pic of you guys
3)take him to a fancy resturant

idk it rly depends on the guy and if he is a romantic or what ure relationship is like..

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this guy i'm rly interested in wants to make out with me, but i've never done it before. i dont want to tell him, but i'm very confident and i've seen so many of my friends make out with their boyfriends so i'm pretty much set. but is there any tips you guys have? like any little things to know such as when to use my tongue, and when we make out we're gunna be on a couch so should i get on top of him? should i touch his face and rub my fingers through his hair? PLEASE HELP!

ok jus don't ....
1)open youre eyes it makes it so awkward
2)don't keep your hands to yourself you could put around his neck or head considering your going to be on a couch.(you could rub your fingers threw his hair but idk it might be kinda weird do what ever you feel confortable doing)
3)RELAX be yourself!



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The one girl mentioned in the subject actually isnt me. They are all my close friends. This is sort of long, but please bear with me and help!! I dont know what to do.

Well in my group of friends, theres me and this other girl (Karen) and six guys (there are other people but we're like the permanent people). The four guys aforementioned are James, Matthew, Scott, and Noah (names all changed). Karen isnt especially interested in any of them and just likes flirting with them/leading them on. I dont know if she knows what kind of effect she has on them but i dont think shes going to stop...

Noah has liked Karen since forever, like elementary school, but she has already made it clear numerous times shes not interested in him like that. But he just cant let go and is overprotective and gets really annoyed if the other guys flirt with her and vice versa.

James knows Noah's feelings and that Karen is just leading him on but he likes flirting with her anyways and apparently likes flaunting his material wealth (according to another guy friend who isnt involved in this). He's stepped back a little in the flirting but still hasnt let it up yet.

Matthew just wants a girlfriend and after his last breakup, he's had his eye on Karen. He flirts with her any chance he has and though he has said that he doesnt mean that much by it but just likes doing it, he doesnt care about noah's feelings on this and does it anyway.

I dont really know about Scott but according to Noah and another guy, he's also interested in karen. I have seen him flirt with meredith but then almost every single guy does.

Noah complains to me all the time and so does James. i dont know what to do because the situation seems to be out of my hands. Another guy friend suggested we find new girls to join our group but i dont know how much that would work. Any suggestions? They're all stressed out and irritated with one another and im pretty much stuck in the middle of this, being the only other girl in the group, the other guys are all looking to me for advice and an sympathetic ear. I dont know how much longer i can take this.. especially with a school dance coming up in a month or so.

PLEASE HELP!!!

woooow! your'e friend and you need to have a long talk with who she wants to be with and talk to those boys ,i think she needs to understand that this is noot right and it is only going to give her a bad reputation!!!

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15/f. Okay...this is quite complicated. But I'll try and explain. Okay...I joined an online forum (namely a 'Queen Fans' forum) and I met a guy there. Let's call him Freddie. Freddie is 18 and lives in Canada. I, myself, live in the states (farthest state from Canada lol). Well, I've known him (online, "Msn, AIM, etc") for about 7 months now. And him and I have gotten really close, like we've chatted, and sent pictures, talked on the phone, etc. I REALLY like him, and I think he's fond of me too. But the only thing that bothers me about this is the whole "online" thing. The truth is - I'm planning to meet him this summer. My question (for advice) is this -...I might not even HAVE a chance to meet him after all...and If I don't, is there really ANY point in continuing being friends with him? It's REALLLLLLYYYYYYYY weird and confusing...but he tells me that he loves me, and cares for me, and keeps on giving me hints like "When you're 18, come down to Canada again" or "Call me when you're 18" or even "When I see you, I'm going to pamper you with gifts (etc)". I know him now as if I knew him in REAL life, that's how close we are. And we talk to each other very personally, sharing secrets, talking about problems. On a VERY personal level (one that I would be with a best friend). But...the online thing's kind of a turn off. I'm asking you, nice and brilliant advice-givers, if I should keep this little shananigan going on...and if I should make him wait for me...Or if this is just TOO rediculous, and I should just move on in my relationships? weird...haha i know. Thanks so much in advance. I hope I didn't confuse anyone XD

you're rite this relationship is in a tuff ruff but i think if you really fancy him you should follow your heart, but then agian he could of been someone totaly fake, but if u trust him enuff then go for it! pribally i don't really like online relationships for this exact reason. And if he thinks you are saying lies then i suggest you don't take relationship out of the cyber world b/c he might not trust you in real life. it is up to you just don't yourself

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so i was watching The Wedding Date earlier, very good movie and the guy said

"I think I'd miss you even if we'd never met. "

what exactly does that mean?


THANKS!!

i think it means that person was always dreaming for someone like that in there life and they have been always missing them.,

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