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Q: Im going into 7th grade and never had a bf!
Everyone tells me im pretty and I've been popular and everything at my school. Im even a model!
But I dont brag or anything
But anyways theres this boy I like and I really want to get closer to him. Once he tried to kiss me but my mom walked into the house and he stopped. And now were kinda like friends. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me again?

really you are only going into the 7th grade you have a lot of time on your hands, but be flirty, show him you like him. im sure everywill work out in the end. just be yourself. if he liked you before chances are your mom walking in on him about to kiss you didnt make him like you any less. maybe he is just a little shy. flirt and tell him how you feel. it worked for me. lol. hope i helped. love **Tink**

Q: im not asking a question, but im just telling you that my weekend was great and thank you so much for helping..i made a few new friends that im talking to online now! Thnks so much!

your welcome. im really glad i could help. **tink** if you ever need help again just let me know. ill do my best. **tink**

Q: i have been with a girl for the last 18 months and she cheated on me and got with another guy, and on out year and a half anniversary she told him she loved him after knowing him for a week. can she love him? and he dumped her and said he doesnt like her anymore, and i know we cant get back together but sometimes she says i love you and is it wrong for me to say it back, i mean i resent her for cheating on me and breaking our trust and relationship but i love her, help please

okay sweets i had this same problem. my best friend now is my boyfriend. well we were ingaged to be married and he cheated on me. i cant get that trust back in him enough to go back out with him but when he tells me he still loves me i tell him i still love him too but i just cant be with him becasue i always see him with her.i dont think its wrong that you tell her you love her to just make sure you make it plain that you cant be back with her no matter how much you love her. hope i helped. **TINK**

Q: hi im 13 and this may sound really dumb, but there is this girl i really like. she calls me alot. i like that. she is attractive, not by that much but still i like the whole thing, only one problem.......my friends hate her, she is a year older than i but she is new (so she doesnt really know anyone else) i get embarrased wen she calls around my friends and make up lies to them about how i feel. help.

okay sweets i think if you really like this girl then your friends should support you. they cant tell you who you like. i mean im sure if they got to know her they might see her as the person she is. and they might even become friends with her too. i think its great that you are talking to her because being new is hard and most new people dont have many friends. hope i helped. **tink**

Q: Ok, theres this guy. Hes my brothers friend and also mine. I think hes hinting around to us dating, but i can never be sure. Sure, i mean, i like him and all. And he keeps telling me personal shit about him like where he got 'deflowered' and hes always like "we have a lot in common. So far its 'SI Music interests, and..(a bunch of shit) and he has to ask me out, but hes always been kind of..insecure so i think he might want me to ask him buut i dont know! is he hinting around to us goin out or something?!?! HELP ME

if i were you i would hint around at liking him. like if you like him you can hint around at liking him or like write him a letter telling him. that is what i do when i like a guy and i think he likes me to. i usually write him a letter and we usually end up dating. hope i helped **tink**

Q: Ok me and my boyfriend just broke up on Friday. then on Monday some guy i like asked me out, but i still like my ex-boyfriend what should i say to the guy that asked me out?

i think if you really like this new guy and you know there is no chance you and your ex will get back together then i think you should go for it but if there is a chance u and your ex will get back together then i would tell him that i want to wait a while.tell me how it goes. **tink**

Q: theres this boy n hes mi bestfrnd (13) n hes been mi bestfrnd since like 2 years ago ever since middle school...n ive talked to him about hookin up n he don care..he would hook up wit me..but if id hook up wit him tht would mean riskin our relationship as bestfrnds n i don wanna loose tht...but i wanna hook up wit him cuz i llike him a lil bit..but im holdin bak cuz he went out wit mi frnd n ever since they broke up all she talks about now is how much she misses him n how much she still likes him n i don wanna bring up tht we mite hook up..wut should i do..im 13

Okay this is what i think, i think that you sould be friends because i went out with my best friend and when we broke up now we dont even talk anymore. now is that something you want to happen to yall's relationship. plus your risking loosing 2 friends instead of one. if i were you then i wouldnt go out with him. hope i helped. i know thats probably not the answer you were looking for. but thats what i think. hope i helped. tell me how it goes. *tink*

Q: I have been talking to this kid Rob online for a while now and we like eachother.. and were both from the same state and... my cousins friend Jack who is also my sorta friend i have been around him alot is Robs best friend.. and thats how we started talking.. wehave never met but we want to sometime... should i meet him.. i mean i know were the same age.. and i know hes safe since hes Jacks best friend....

what do I do..

and do u think its bad that i sent him a pic of me?

I think if you have someone you can get information about him from like jack or something and you know alot about him and its not just what he told you then i think its great that yall like each other. i think you should go for it.

Q: for some reason guys always take me as a whore..is there anyway i can make them stop thinking that?! i realli need help! i'm so depressed n crying! i'll rate!

you tell guys your not a whore and you dont sleep around and your not a slut contrary to what everyone believes. and tell them you are not easy and if a guy wants to sleep with you tell him that if he is after you for one thing to get to stepin. you dont need someone like that.

Q: I know this is going to be long, so sorry. But I will rate you high even if you answer!!

Well, I have a feeling that I could be a lesbian. And it's really difficult and I know that I'm going to have to wait and see if I actually am. The thing is I feel so much more comfortable around girls, and I actually have my eye on this one girl from my school. But the thought of getting married to a girl and not a guy makes me feel sick. And I just get this feeling when I'm around guys like Wow i'm so embarassed/nervous, But then I get this feeling like ohh YAY i'm so glad im here when I'm with girls. It's just everytime I like a guy, I only like him for like a week. Is there a chance I could be lesbian, or do you think it's just a phase? Please help!!

you could be but the again it might be a thing your going through to determine your sexuality. you might not be a lesbian you might be bisexual.but think you should explore a little and soon enough you will figure it out. i hope i helped. **Tink**

Q: Me n my bfz 1 year iz in october but so iz his birthday so im tryna start to save up sum money to get him sumtin but i dont only wanna get him sumtin i wanna like make him sumtin really nice and cute n e ideas?!?!?!?!??!

hmmm....

maybe a romantic candle lit dinner with rose pedals sprinkled all around the table and then rent a few movies yall will both enjoy and cuddle and whatch him. or if you really want to make it romantic then make a picnic under the stars. or something like that. hope i helped. tell me how it goes **tink**

Q: what do you do when you REALLI like someone but they don't see the true side of you cause all they are worried about is getting "some"..my ex b/f is like that and i don't know..it just feels like they are the only kinda guys i attract! what can i do to help let guys see my inner side?! i realli need help! thanks! i'll rate! =)

you know i used to have the same problem,but i started telling a guy up frount that there was more to me than sex, and they needed to see the real side of me. And the first guy i told that too me and him were together for 6 months and had an awsome relationship. he seemed to be a better person towards me after i told him that.

Q: my boyfriend after 4 years of dating...that the whole thing was a bet to see how long he could play me!!! wtf is up with that?!?!?!

It soundz to me like this guy is a total asshole. He took four years of your life and all. I say he doesnt deserve anyone!!!

Q: okay so i really like this guy and hes going out with this one girl...it seems like this guys likes me i mean he calls me almost everynight and we talk for hours and when where together he always wants me to do stuff with him (like kiss and stuff) but hes going out with his girlfiend so why would he be going out with his girlfriend if hes making it seem like he likes me...

okay this may not seem logical, but i had this happen to me. maybe he is insecure and he needs to explore his options. he may like you, but he is not sure if thats what he wants yet.

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Hi my name is Sasha Amber LeAnn Lawrence. I am 18 years old. I will try to give the best advice possible. I dont know everything in the world, but i will give the best advice i possibly can. I am going to be upfront with you and tell you what i really think im not going to candy coat it and tell you what you want to hear just because that is what you want to hear.