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Jessica.
I might have created the universe, but i just can't remember if that was me or someone else.
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17... a small age for some.. but most of you think it is ancient. =P

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My ex & I have become sort of friends now. In a recent conversation he got very hurtful. He told me about his new girlfriend & how much he 'loves' her. I didn't want to seem jealous/hurt so I went along with everything like it was fine. He told me he hasn't thought about me at all since we broke up. Then when I said something about another guy, he said he didn't care. Does this mean something? If he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, would he actually say all this to me? I still have strong feelings for him.

he could be trying to find out if you still have feelings for him by making you jealous.. or he could seriously be just messing with you and making you mad.. i don't think that he has any feelings for you..it doesn't seem to fit.. just because you are closer as friends doesn't mean that he automatically has started to like you again... guys are generally straight forward.. they don't usually play head games.. so i don't think he would play with your mind before revealing any feelings...

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Okay! My problem is that my boyfriend and I have been dating about two months, well evertime we are together he talks about starting his own buisness in the oil field! Well I am really starting to get fustrated with him cause that is the only thing he ever wants to talk about! I know that he has to make his living, but we are dating and he should make time for me to right? What should I do about it? Please help me!

gently sway the conversation in a new direction.. don't even say it.. just ask him a radom question and talk about something else.. like.. "what kind of dog do you think we should get."
random.. but it would spark some interest.. unless you guys are cat people like me.. but a lot of people prefer dogs..

don't tell him to do anything.. guys don't like being told what to do... most guys don't anyway... just sway the conversation to topic you would rather discuss.

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Please, I'm in love with someone who lives across the country from me. I'm so in love with him and I can't be with him until I'm older. What do I do? ..He loves me back but what if a girl moves in? I mean if another girl does move in I'll have to move aside..I just really do love him. He knows I do but theres now way to explain how much. I've never been in love before and it scares me because I know this wont work out..I just want to be with him.

i may be a cynic, but i have one question.. how many years do you have to wait...

as long as you stay in contact with him, it should be fine and if he truly loves you than maybe it will work out.

but i also have to say this:
there are more fish in the sea. just because you have these feelings for him does not make him the best out of the bunch... besides getting to know him more, don't close yourself up to only him because what if in the end he is not the right one and you passed Mr Right up because you were too closed to realize how perfect you might have been.

HAVE FUN!

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Okay there is this guy and he lives down the street, but we have never talked really. One of my best friends got him to start talking to me, because she thinks that we are perfect for eachother (both country kids). He is also talking to one of my friends from another school. I start to like him, and he tells my friends and his friends he is starting to like me too! Meanwhile that friend from another school found out I like him and blatenly told me to ask him if he liked her for her. So I did to be a good friend and it turns out that he does like her. He told me that "we can be friends" "for NOW ;)" (wink face included) what does this mean and what should I do? Should I still try for him or what? Im 16, and a girl obviously! Guys I would love your point of view too!

hmmm..

:thinks:

well...

it sounds like he is a playa'.

how long have you known he likes you back? and how do you know that people aren't lying through their teeth.. people do that you know..

I don't know what you should do.. just trying to take a step back and objectively analyse your ness.

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hes adorable...and romantic...but taken. hes kindof crazy, like hes convinced hes gonna marry his gf in 11 years (we're all 14!) and anyway....so this girl, lets call her lizzy, is goin out with this guy, will call him shaq...so theyve been having some problems lately, like he kinda cheats on her...and has done it with me a fe times...but she doesnt mind too much. in fact, when she tried to break up with him, he cried! hes so sweet like that...so lizzy and shaq are currently dating, and i am always counselling lizzy cuz shes my girl, but secretly i really want her to dump him. and i can just barely stand it sometimes...no offense to her, but shes really not attractive, kinda bitchy sometimes, not so many friends, kinda racist (even tho shes black)...so i cant help feeling sometimes that i deserve him more! well anyway i could go on and on but still, what am i supposed to do? how can i stand her having him when i want him so bad? and i know he likes me...help please?

i think you should be more careful because what if this 'lizzie character' foudn out how you really feel about her.

i think that you should forget this loser because he obviously can't keep his hot stuff to himself...

cheating is a horrid thing! why would you do that to your friend...?

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i like this boy for a while but he never knew. today i walked into my class and he strait out tells me he found something out..so i asked what and hes like "you like me.." and i kinda got all nervous and wwent to the bathroom and when i come back hes like teasing me..like saying "oh. why wont you turn around..?" and cutsy stuff like that.. by him being so forword does that mean he might like me? or am i just crazy and having wishful thinking?

i think that he is being a pretentious jerk who is not worth your time... it is doubtful that he really likes you back... guys are stupid... you shouldn't have let him think it was true.. you should have made him come after you... he sounds like an asshole.

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I like this guy and he likes me.. Well we have ALOT in common and I admit im pretty popular.. so anyway, He's not the hottest/most popular person ever. I like him and I swear im not conceited!! But its like I feel like if I go out with him then I will ruin my rep.. I dont really care but my friends are like "OMG HES SO HOT!! I LIKE HIM NOW." Im not like that.. I go for personality.. but what do I do?? Do I go out with him of save my reputation?

no.. don't waste you time.. he deserves better.

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hey,
ok, i recently just told the guy I like (that likes me back) that I loved him and i didn't want to refer to him as "the guy i like that likes me back" anymore! than he wrote me back and sed that he didn't know how i could love him but he still wanted to be friends or friends with benefits and stuff. then, when i didn't cry from the letter, i thought it was just a lust thing. but that is TOTALLY not true. I'm not in LOVE with him but i do like him a whole bunch He doesn't go to my school and at first i thought that's why he wouldn't ask me to be with him. But now i'm not so sure anymore! Is there some reason he doesn't wanna be with me? and do you think everything with him will go back to how it was before all of the email stuff?? PLEASE help ME!!! :-[

i think that if he is a good guy (and he better be if you

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alrigty then im hearing all these stories at school {not that i belive them} about how every one is having sex i personally dont belive it. god says not to have premarital relations plus you should want to wait until u are married to have sex. anyway every one talks about how all the popular kids are doing it im almost 15 i personallyam appaled and am wonering where all the desensy went in the world some one tell me.

the decency went out with the roaring twenties. since then, teenagers have become the ones who are out there and taking on the world and being unique and disobeying the rules and living on the edge.. not a new idea at all... very ironic actually.

but that is where the decency went as far as teens being radical.

the entertainment industry doesn't help either, but it also shouldn't be entirely blamed.

as teenagers, we are stuck with these people for hours and hormones rage and and and... hormones...

but.. as far as people who agree with you.. there are a multitude... they say 30% agree with you.. i suppose some of them are not honest.. but it is a start and religon does exist in school... sort of

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