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18/F
Long question, sorry.
I'm a freshman in college and struggled at first with meeting people when I first moved in, despite the fact that my roommate and I were very outgoing people in high school. A couple of months in, we began hanging out with our RA, Ally, because she knew everyone from my high school. Ally introduced us to her friends (also RAs) Joey and Jake. She also told me that she had a huge crush on Jake. Unable to help my feelings, I developed a strong crush on Jake over the past couple of months as well. At first, I layed low and tried not to get in the way for the sake of my friendship with Ally. However, Jake made it clear that he had no feelings for her whatsoever, and Ally started backing off as well. Although I didn't move in right away, I felt that since he had made it clear to Ally they were just friends, it was okay for me to open up a little more with him (concerning flirtyness).
Jake and I would always hang out...I would end up falling asleep on his futon due to the long hours we would spend just hanging out. We did nothing physical and didn't do any hardcore flirting. My roommate and some other friends also began to think he had a crush for me too. One day, when i was watching a TV show with Joey and Jake in Jake's room, he asked me to cuddle with him. First off, this is strange because he NEVER asks girls to cuddle with him. We cuddled all night, had tickle fights, and he randomly kissed my hand because he "hurt my feelings" (again, weird, because he never physically does things like that to girls). The next morning he was super adorable, we went to lunch together and he put his arm around me and was just really cute.
However, later that night he started acting strange towards me, and during the following week as well. It was hard talking to him and he hardly gave me any physical contact. It was just awkward being around him. I ended up spilling my heart to Joey about my feelings for Jake. Even though they are best friends, Joey still watches out for me. His best advice was for me to tell Jake how I feel. I just don't know how and when to do it...
I hung out with Jake again last night, with our friend Anthony. Jake ended up cuddling/falling asleep with me on the futon, despite the fact that he could have slept in his bed...he never EVER sleeps on his futon. I have not once ever seen him give up his bed for a futon. Then he kept mentioning a girl he "could" date, and I got jealous. He told me that he wouldn't date her because she's still in high school, and that he needed to find a good college girl. I said I needed to find a good college guy. Anthony said, "you two are laying right next to each other...", to which Jake responded (While cuddling) "oh but we're brother and sister..."
Everyone thinks he likes me but he's trying to convince himself otherwise. I don't know if he does, and I don't know if I should tell him how I feel or wait it out. And if I do talk to him, what would be said and how would I bring it up? Help with this situation please! (link)
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i think you should talk to him about it. Ask him what is up?he cuddles with you and then talks about some other girls he wants to date. Hes acting like a tease.Just get him talking about how he feels about everything then tell him about you and talk about how much hes confusing you. hope i helped.
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Hey,
I was just wondering;
what does it mean if myboyfriend calls other girls (like sisters and friends, ect) my name accidentally?
He loves me a lot, and i find it cute but why does he do that accidentally?
:) Thanks (link)
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Well people always do that accidentally. there is no real purpose for this. he most likely says your name to others because your name is one that he says more often than others.
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how do you move stars for a person you love that much ??...and how do you show a person how much you love them...whilst haveing nothing to give.....how do you make that person smile when i cant do it properly my self.......how do you let go of bein in a cuddle when tbh...you dont wna ever have to leave there arms......how ??....nd how do you not cry infront of this person when u wna be there to protect that person from the bad people and things in life ?? ....how ??.......how do i know if im holding this persons hand to tight or if its not tight enough and how do i turn anger into more love for this person...does it matter if i dont mind being cold aslong as this person is warm....and does it matter if when where sleeping even tho its a double bed sheet on a single bed this person takes all the covers and i lay there freezeing ??.......how do i show im truely sorry to this person when i get angry at this person when all i want for this person is for her to have nufing but smiles on her face and to feel like her face is gna brake coz the smiles and laughter keep cmin out even tho she wants it to stop coz it hurts...........how can i wipe away her tears when they come and make her feel secure again when the werst of things happen and ......how do i tell this person just once.....not everyday......every ten seconds and after every nice thing that happens...but just that one time that it hits her so hard she falls over and realises.......i love her so much ti forces tears out of me at the smallest sign of a sad slow song ???..............how ?? (link)
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How? You try your hardest.
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Hey im 17/f. There is this guy at my work who is 20/m. he is really cute and very nice. Can always make me smile. He has been flirting with me alot lately people have been realizing. I know this may sound stupid but i dont know like how to flirt back and let him know im interested. I dont even know if he has a girlfriend or not or if he likes me. How do i find all these things out myself? Please and thank you for your time! (link)
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one day durring a regular conversation just randomly ask him if he has a girlfriend. or ask him if he has ever dated. get into the subject by talking about your experiences or one of your family members experiences of dating. Look closely how he reacts when you ask him or when its brought up. go from there.
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heyy
ive been kinda seeing this lad for a while , and we have had sex and everythin, but hes never kissed me , i try too kiss him but he pushed me away, everytym i see him i wanna ask him y but its embarissing, is a kiss a bit more than sex if ya get me ? does it mean hes not interested or sumthing
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This sounds bizzar. If I were you i would have kissed him before doing anything else. I would say hes not interested and a bit creepy.Sorry but it just sounds to me like sex is ALL he's inteested in , especially if he wont even kiss you.
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I just got out of a relationship of about 11 months, and it was my longest relationship and also a very abusive, crazy one. I finally broke up with him in December and while I was slowly ending it with him I actually met someone new that I realized I had feelings for. This new guy (Mike) is 4 years older than me, age doesn't matter to us now though, but my problem, is that he doesn't show constant love towards me. If he does its like on and off, its never all the time since we've been seeing each other. When I try to talk to Mike about it he says it's because sometimes he doesn't "trust" me because we've had a lot of problems in the past. I'll name some so you can understand the relationship better.
One night I had a bunch of people at my house and we were all drinking, I started to get really drunk and I pretty soon couldn't even stand up by myself, so i started leaning on Mikes cousin (Mike wasn't near me, and his cousin was sitting in a chair unlike the rest of us so that was easier to lean on), so my hand was on his leg, Mike took it the wrong way and flipped out. Being drunk I obviously got really emotional, and started crying and it was really embarrassing so I just went out with a few friends and tried to blow it off. When I got back I could barely walk and everyone was yelling at me, he called me a bunch of names so I hit him. I would never do that if I was sober but thats the way I handled it because of my past relationship. He stormed off and left me, so I just slept out at a friends that night. He ended up going back to my house and slept there because he was waiting up for me, but how was I suppose to know that? The next day he came over to talk, and told me that his original plan was to never to talk to me again, and he made it seem like it was all my fault, I tried to tell him that I was drunk and I honestly didn't know what I was doing, but he just kept telling me that I was so wrong, and it was all my fault and he should hate me, so I just let him be right and told him I was sorry. I also made the decision not to drink anymore.
That was last weekend, this weekend, we've been arguing again, but not while I've been drunk, Friday night we went to a party, and he was drinking, (I wasn't) and he was acting SO amazing towards me, really lovey, always wanting to be around me, he even went to the store and bought me a rose! Later that night I questioned his "lovey dovey"-ness because he's never usually like that, and he flipped out, probably because he was drunk, and he just wanted to go downstairs and pass out, but i really wanted to work things out, so I kept going downstairs to talk to him, and everytime I would walk away, he would just fall asleep. Every time he would ever walk away from me during a fight, I would chase after him. He ended up just coming upstairs with me in my room and sleeping with me, we blew it off.
My point is, I've given up so much for him, drinking, going out all the time. and I don't think it's always my fault when we fight but I'm too scared to REALLY stick up for myself because I know he'll freak out and leave me because it's only the beginning, I've tried to tell him that he's messing with my head, but he says "fine then we're done I'm not going to mess with your head anymore" and thats not what I want! So I just deal with what he says, and hopefully we just forget about it and move on like we always do. Another thing, we're not officially Boyfriend and Girlfriend. We were before but we kept fighting like we are now so we decided just so act like we're going out? but not with the label. If he loves me he should just want to be with me shouldn't he? But I just want him in any way I can have him. Is it really all me? Am I just crazy, how can I make him want to change and show me love but not lose him completely? If you say I can't make him want to change, than what can I do? (link)
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The way you describe Mike...it almost seems as if he has an emotional bacround also. Im not sure because i dont know him ,but it sounds like he does, by the way he reacts back to you.You say something little to him, and he blows up and says its over.
If he loves you, he should want to be with you.Always. My thoughts are that he may not be sure if he loves you. As you said, you have given up soo much...has he? Has he given up anything? If He dosn't, you shouldn't. He needs to be making a comitment also. He needs to be working for the relationship just as hard as you are.
Talk to him about it. if he sarts to blow up, tell him you are leaving for good, whether you want it to happen or not. Tell him you are serious this time.if he says nothing to that, then go. If you do leave, he may or may not come back for you.If he does, look him straight in the eye and tell him exactly what "you" want. tell him it is his very last chance.
If he is not willing to change for you... then this relationship will never grow.
Hope I helped. If not, good luck anyway. I realize it is harder than it looks.
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Sorry this is a book. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He is my first big relationship (I'm 28 and he's 25) and I am completely in love with him. This past Wednesday night (the night before Valentine's Day... can you say PRESSURE?), I really screwed up. He was out with his best friend, and was going to call me when he was on his way back home to meet me, but for some reason I panicked and started over-dialing. I called him three times between 8pm and 9pm and then 5 more times between 9 and 11. I left a total of 5 messages which got increasingly bitchy, and also called his roommate 3 times to see if he'd gotten home and forgotten to call. I know this could have all been avoided if I had just called him once and let it be, or if he had picked up his phone after the first call, but I started having a panic attack and freaked. Needless to say, he's furious with me and hasn't spoken to me since we met for a brief period on Thursday so I could try to explain myself. He told me at that time that he was considering breaking up with me, but that we'd have dinner on Sunday night (tonight), and we'd try to work things out. I'm beating myself up, because I know I screwed up and don't know how to fix it. And now I desperately afraid he's just going to leave me hanging. I'm afraid his best friend has convinced him to dump me (she's mad at me too), and I'm pissed at myself for having a big mouth about it and talking to people that we mutually know (they asked because I look like hell) about the situation. I'm also upset on top of all of this because I just started seeing a therapist to try and work on my anxiety issues. But I still basically took all of the personal space we had between one another and threw it out the window. I don't want to lose him. He's my best friend, my anchor, the person I trust and love most outside my immediate family. What do I do? How can I mend this? I feel like my heart is broken. Thanks... (link)
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simple or hard.
tell him everything. Just tell him.
Do what you think is right.
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k so I'm with this guy Cody but I'm so confused on if i like him or if i don't when I'm with him its kinda boring and i have kissed him like 4 times so should i be with him or should i break it off?? (link)
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Do what YOU think is right.Look deep,deep down in your heart and think of all the qualities you like about him,and the qualities you don't.
Chances are , if you're not even sure you like him, you actually might not.But if you still want to be with him, go for it!! who know?? maybe you will grow to like him even more later on in life. I f your only with him just so you can have a boyfriend, i strongly suggest not to. It hurts peoples feeling. But if that is not the case ask him what he thinks about the situation, and ...TALK to him about it. Maybe he feels the same way.
Take it or leave it.
sAmeMistAke
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ok so, im 15 and my boyfriend is 17. and we have been dating for 3 months now, and well we decided like we were going to go to our rec center, which is where the like community pool is and stuff and welll like we arent gonna have sex or anything but theres a family changing room and like the showers have curtains and stuff and we were planning on going in one of those like without bathing suits....and well i was wondering like what should i do because like we are just ognna be making out but what if he accidenlt like goes inn. any suggestions? (link)
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First, if you even have a bad feeling about this, then chances are you shouldn't do it. It's all about your comfort and security. if you reallly want to do this, i do suggest not doing that in a public place. it will feel kinda weird and is sooo not romantic.
Make sure his little friend doesn't slip into anything by either not touching that close, or not doing that at all. sorry, not many options.
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