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Okay i have my bf of 4 years you all know this if you answerd one of my questions before and all but anyway...
I love him to death but there are times where he really frustrates me like today he wanted to see me and i had things to do and same with yesterday hes like you made plans with me and i never did hes really bad at forgetting things too...but he gets really selfish on things all the time like wanting too see me..well me i have dance and soccer practice and house stuff that i do all the time and i still try and make time for him but when i have littel things that come up he gets pissed when i think that he should really just understand that these things can come up...What advice would you give me to give him beside the things i already say to him like love goes fonder when not together i mean yeah you miss the person but for me i love him more nd more every second and everything and there are times when i like to just be by myself in my room and not have him here...what do you think i should tell him besides the things that i already tell him?
-Cassi-

Sounds like he is really selfish. Tell him that you do need sometime for everything in your life.. sports, chores etc. If he really loves you, he should respect that and hopefully he will understand. Everyone needs alone time every once in a while. Maybe some of the time between those things, take a breather. After that you will feel better and stress will be somewhat releived. If he gets angry with you more and more, or if things get worst, tell him how you feel! Dont be afraid to say exactly whats going on your mind. 4 years is a long time, I am sure both of you are willing to do anything to work it out.

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hey.im going to florida for a whole month without my boyfriend.im gonna miss him sooo much..but i really wanna bring him back something good and special..its so hard to shop for guys what should i get him..anything please i need some suggetions..thanx soo much..

If you like to make things you can...
collect shells off the beach. Then buy one of those carboard picture frames and decorate with the shells or anything you found on the beach. Then for a picture, have one of you and him or just you.
Or just buy him something that goes with his personality.

hope I helped.

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I have this crush on a guy. He's really sweet and were really good friends. Only problem he lives in a different town. It's the same state but different towns. Neither of us can drive so we can't see each other and the only way we can talk is on my cell phone. I want to go out with him but I don't know about the long-distance deal. What should I do?

Long distanst relationships usually dont work out well. It would be even harder to go out with him when both of you cant drive. I wouldnt worry about going out with him right yet. But have fun and hang out. Have your parents drive you to go see him or maybe meet halfway? It will get a lot easier once you guys can drive.

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i'm 13/f and i have a really big butt & a d cup bra. i guess i'm not ugly but i dont see myself as beautiful. older guys [14 & 15 year olds] & guys my age only like me for my body & face, and when they talk to me all they look at is my boobs. idk what to do about this..

thats when you say- hey guess what? my face is up here.
Im sure they will look up at your face after that.

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i am very self consious on how i look because i am not the prettiest girl but everyone tells me that i am cute. i dont like how i look and i want to loose some weight too. i can sometimes be very confident but at other times i am not. what can i do to stop being so self consious?

It sucks being self concious i know. My really good friend once told me to be confident. Dont ever think about it. Cause if your kinda sad and just like whatever then people will see you that way. The way you view yourself, is the way other people will view you! So think of yourself as what you want to be seen as. This works too. Once you have more confidence, then everything follows. I hope I helped...

You can IM me if you ever needs anything.

good luck!

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I love this guy he loves me and we have been dating for a while but latley hes been selling drugs for his prohbation officer and up to now i've always gave him money if he needed it, and he knows that, he told me he would stop all of this afterhe was done with prohbation,i am there for him 100% but only because i love him, but at times i just want to tell ask him if he knows what he is doing. He has looked for a job all over the city and no one will take him because he has a bad record. I cant just up and leave him because of this because me and him has been really good friends for almost three years and we've been dating for like a year or so. Please tell me what i should do

Support him with every GOOD thing he does. when he needs money tell him your out, you dont have any. Tell him how you really feel about the drugs and stuff. You dont like the drugs, you worry about him.. explain that to him and hopefully he will understand. Stay away from him when he is around drugs, you dont want to get in trouble too.
Talking about it, is a lot easier than doing it. Good luck.

Hope I could help.
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