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i have been dating this guy for 5 months. when he's not around, i miss him to death.. but when he's around, he drives me nuts. it seems like he wants me to do stuff with him .. and i do. when we're done doing whatever, he just leaves! i don't know what to say to him! will someone please help me. (link)
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if you mean crazy things like flipping out and abuse...dump him and tell an adult. maybe even the police. try and stay away from him (if its abuse...hitting, calling you names, sqeezing your arm too tight, etc). It also seems liek he's using you. Just getting what you'll give him then leaving you. totally not cool. This guy doesnt seem worth your time...no matter if i'm seeing it the right way or not. The situation also seems like hes a "player" the pimp image has become really popular lately. I wouldnt be surprised if he's cheating on you, esp. since he gets what he wants, leaves, and kicks you out of his house. I hope i helped. xo Erica
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hey theres this girl at my school that i like and i alwayz have for like a year now iv tried asking her out but i got a no. and now shes going out w/ one of my best friends and im afraid that if im honest w/ my friend he'll get mad at me.wat should i do??? (link)
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Sorry it took me so long to answer...when i first saw it i thought it was a duplicate of your original one. I dont think she is flirting with you...and if she is it may just come natural. Maybe she thinks of you as a really great friend. Telling you to wear pink also doesnt mean she likes you. I think she thinks of you as a really good friend, and that she can be silly around you. But..being an advice columnist i must tell you to be open to all possibilities. If she is the type of person that would really REALLY like someoen else while going out with another and then flirting...i dont think she's the type of girl you want. So...if she is as great as you say so, she probably thinks of you as a great friend. hope i helped. xo
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Hi, I am a 13 year old male. There is this girl I really really really really like, but she is going out with someone, that person is one of my friends. What should i do, i really like this girl but shes going out with one of my friends and they always tell each other they love each other and sometimes they will hug one another right in front and me its becoming very annoying. PLEASE HELP ME. I rate 5's (link)
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Okay, obviously they like eachother. And...i mean...when people our age say they "love" eachother...usually it doesnt mean its forever. Honestly, even though i've said it...I think its wayy overused. I'm not saying that your friend isnt a good friend if they go out with someone you like. thats totally untrue...i mean...if you like someone. your gonna want to go out w/ them. So...be patient. This may just be a crush...and if you feel its REALLY needed..tell your friend (the one thats going out w/ the girl) how you feel. But remember, thats risky. Just, NEVER ask a girl out while she is "going with" someone else. Youve probably heard this from a lot of adults...but its true: patience is a vurtue and a vurtue is a grace. Be patient, and eventually everything will work out.
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okay theres like 5 guys that like me..and their all really cute and super nice and stuff..how am i suposed to pickk?!? (link)
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Who do you actually have feelings for? Do you have feelings for any of them? If you dont, then dont go out with any of them. Only go out w/ someone if you like them...otherwise you'll be miserable. I can't tell you who to choose, i dont know you or the guys. Just go out with whoever you like, or none of them. hope i helped xo Erica
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well i like this one 5th grader at school and im afraid that if we go out it will ruin my reputation. i really like him and i think he likes me back . what should i do? (link)
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Well, if you like him, you cant help that. Maybe you'll end up starting a new trend instead of ruining your reputation. I mean, do your friedns make fun of him? If you like him, you can either wait for your crush to go away or you can go for it! I dont think its wrong...But idk what your friends will think
xoErica
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hey theres this girl at my school that i like and i alwayz have for like a year now iv tried asking her out but i got a no. and now shes going out w/ one of my best friends and im afraid that if im honest w/ my friend he'll get mad at me.wat should i do??? (link)
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So, your friend never knew you liked her. uh oh. he may not know he's bothering you. I personally, would tell him that you like her and have since last year. (dont leave that last year part out, if you leave it out theres a higher chance he might get , if i were your friend, i would prolly want to know. If your friends a true friend, he'll understand, whether he'll break up with her or not does not prove if he's a good friend. he might feel the smae way as you about her, and you wouldnt want to give her up, would you? Also, if she said no, she isnt interesting. Or maybe she's shy, or has confused feelings. Idk, be her friend, but never be overwhelming or anything, it annoys us. (sorry!) They only thing you can do is, as yor love is still there (and i doubt it will be there forever) be persistent, but not overwhelming, and hope everything works out. Dont put her on a guilt trip (even though she might fall for it, thats low) or ask her everyday (thats over doing it a bit, dont you think?) Just, when shes single so you dont hurt your friend, flirt. hope i helped. xo Erica
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well theres this guy...and he really likes me..and i really like him, but he doesnt think that i like him..and ill tell him that i do or something and he'll just be like yeah right ..your too good for me or something gay like that..what should i do? (link)
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He likes you, you like him, he doesnt think you like him. Typical. (
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Okay my boyfriend is SO pissed off at me. He got so mad at me and he said he wasnt mad anymore but then he was lyk "FUCK U!" n hung up on me =(...what should i do? Im NOT gonna dump him because thats stupid...i love him and i wanna make this work. What should i do to make it up to him? IM me on oOPassion kissez if you need the full story. Thanks.. (link)
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honestly, if he continues to be a butthead, dump him. i know you dont want to, and you think you love him, so try and find a way to make it work. but it might not work...or not the way you planned. verbal abuse (yer stupid, idiot, ugly...anything offensive) and/or extreme jerkiness are all signs of abuse. So, be careful. A large precent of teen and women deaths are because of abuse from their bfs/gfs. My advice is to talk to him about. Dont straight up tell him he's being a jerk, that will only make him angrier. Some people over-react, so calmly and subtly ask him if anythings wrong or if hes been stressed. Be as comforting as you can. If he EVER ever lays a hand on you (violent way...or sexual way, if your not ready) say goodbye immediatly, and ugh, i sound like an adult but, tell a trusted adult. Its really good advice. (everyone uses it) If your not happy with him, he's a waste of time. I am not trying to turn you against your boyfriend or anything though, he amy just be having a hard time. So you need to talk about things first. But, please keep an open mind to all possibilities. I dont want anyone getting hurt. xo.
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hey u prolly kno hu this is i just have one question. theres sumone i like and i asked them out onn email but i havent had any reply. wat should i do??? ask her out at skool??? (link)
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yea, you should try at school, but just because you think its meant to be, doesnt mean she thinks the same way... *hint*
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there is a guy that i think im in love with but he has a girl friend and he is older than me i dont think he likes me at all what should i do? (link)
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Well, he has a girlfriend right now, so he is unavaiable (sp?) Dont try to get him to make any moves with yuo, that just shows you, if he plays he gf now, if your ever his girlfriend, he can play you too! I say flirt, not heavy flirting, but subtle flriting. This way, you cant get him or yourself in trouble with his girlfriend (because you may want him, but you dont wanna mess up what he has, because even if they break up, he sitll might not ask you out) I guaruntee you sonner or later they will break up, and then be sympathetic and kinda flirty, when you know he is DEF. over her, then you give him heavy hints For now small hints and compliments will do you just fine! About the age difference, in my opinion 1-2 years is acceptable as a teen, 3 years maybe. but more than that i think stretches it. If he is older, he has probably done more, and has had more expierence. You dont want to do things over your age level to make him happy, or do things you arent ready for. NEVER let someone pressure you into doing something your not ready for. Also, the ammount of years between your ages is different depending on your age. You dont wanna be a 13 year old going out with a 16 year old. The older you get, the more the age limit is flexible. Whatever you do, dont mess around with him, especially since he has a girlfriend. You DONT want to be labeled a slut. Flirting if fine, but there is a fine line between flirting...and well...more than flirting. I hope I helped!
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ok so i was at a basketball game and i was standing behide my crush and i was with all my friends and these other guys. i was talking fine with all the guys i even met new guys(and im fine with them) but theres just something when im about to go and talk to him im just to scared to go and talk to him i get really nervous when im close to him. and the thing is he knows who i am but i really havnt talked to him. (link)
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congratulations: you just won your first expeirence of adolescence love! Sometimes its fun, sometimes its miserable, sometimes its just plain confusing. Usually, these type of things go away eventually, or you finally score him. Then, your feelings may change. But it is very unlikely that your first REAL crush will be your soul mate and true love (i am soo sorry about that!) What you need to do is just try to be outgoing, when your nervous and you try to be overly outgoing the nervousness and outgoingness usually even out to a perfect attitude! I dont neccesarily believe in girls making first moves, so just hint him on, flirt with him, but dont flirt with his friends whatever you do! It will give him mixed signals. If you feel you really, REALLY need help, buy a copy of flirtology or some other book that helps you deal with boys. I hope i was help!
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