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im a guy 15yrs old yes im gay i need your advice. i like this guy well actually i think i love him and im not shore if hes gay or not. now my question is should i ask him and take a risk of him hating me. its not like hes like straight every one thinks hes gay so theres a strong possibility he is. my only fear is that i will ask him and he would say get the fuck away from me and hate me 4 ever and that would crush me. n e imput would b realy helpful.

thnx much

15 years old and gay. Ok, I can deal.

My question for you is how well do you know him? is he a friend? acquaintence? stranger? you have to decide on which of these he really is before you fancy yourself in love with him. lust, sure, love...well... maybe not so much.

And it is always better know then to spend your life wondering whether or not it could have worked out.

And don't judge; just because EVERYONE says he is gay does not mean that he is. Don't make assumptions; get facts.

If he tells to to get away and then hates you, he isn't really worth it, is he?

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Ok, so I like this guy. But, the thing is, I dont see the point of liking anyone is, if they dont like you back, or they do and you totally think they dont. I've liked guys, but, I dont see what the point of liking them is, if they dont end up liking you back! It doesnt make sense, because I just get hurt, from liking them so much and them not liking me back. I know, your probably going to say, i have a while until I get a boyfriend etc. but, I just hate having to like guys...it just...brings me down. I told myself to stop liking someone that I liked for 4 a long ass time, and I mean a long time, I started crushing on him when I was like 12. But, I've been telling myself to just stop liking him, so i dont talk about him with friends or anything. Now, theres a new guy, he goes to a different school, I met him somewheres, and i got his email. But, im scared to talk to email him and stuff because I know he probably doesnt like me....ugh....any feedback on this?

thanks.

-Confused

Right now, I am having this same issue, so i know what you are going through.

Really, there are ust two things you can do. The first thing is the easy way, with the hardest consequences.

*You can do nothing... not tell him you have a thing for him, and always say well, i know he doesn't like me...but you will always be wondering What if?

Let me tell you, you can never KNOW for certain what someone else feels.

The second thing you can do is

*Tell him. Either by writing, talking, emailing, a friend... this way might be hard to do, but then at least you know. then you can move on, or let things develop. But at least you won't always be wondering.

I hope it works out.

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AHHHH!!! HELP Okay well, theres this guy... we'll call him jimmy and first we were friends and then we wnet out, the first day he was GREAT.We held hands and hugged it was the best day ever, then for the next two weeks he compltely dissed me, now we are really good friends, and my best friend thinks i still like him, i keep telling her now but then she said "why don't you like him?" and the truth is. . i cant think of any reasons why i don't expect that he's a little bit dramatic at times and thats all. My heads telling me no no no but my heart is telling me yes yes yes. I know he doesn't like me but it justs breaks my heart when i see him fliritng with anotehr girl. When me and him are haning out it's all good, but then when a nother girl comes into the pictures he totaly ditvhes me as my friend tells me i don't notice it but she syas she sees the pain in my eyes. I don't want to like him anymore. I got over him once but that's because i dint see him flirting and he started to again, so now i dont know waht to do anymore, i DONT want him back he's going to break my heart. I don't want to like him, i can't stop thinking about him, it's dirivng me NUTS< HELP AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

You want honesty? You got it.

Nobody is a great friend if they ditch you completely when another girl is around. It seems to me like he is a player, and when he between girls, you're there to pick up the slack...

So maye you need to ask yourself if the heartache is worth it. Which is more important to you: A sense of self worth, or the value others place in you?

And if you don't want to like him anymore, then get over him: Cut yourself off from him... trust me, I know what I am talking about.

Surround yourself with people who love you. Find a new guy. (easier said than done, i know)

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