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my girlfriend cheated on me with her ex and everything is all screwed up now were still together but i dont trust her at all anymore im always wondering what she's doing and who she's talking to it doesnt help that she works at a bar to i mean i guess i still love her but it makes me sick just thinking about what she did how am i supposed to trust her again (link)
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I guess it all depends on what you want. Is she someone you want to marry and be with the rest of your life? If yes, I would suggest you seek some couples counseling. Its important to discover what led to the affair, so a way can be determined to avoid it in the future. And can you forgive her? Forgiveness means not holding it against her, at all. Its tough, and a process. As for her working in a bar, if you feel this is the cause of the issues you both are having, maybe its time to sit down and have a serious conversation. How much does she want things to work? Is she willing to make a couple changes in her life to help put you at ease? Are you willing to do the same for her? Relationships are not about making ourselves happy, they are about caring about the person we love more than ourselves. If you do all that you can for her, and she does all that you can for you, you both will be taken care of, and hopefully happy. There is a book, called the "Love Dare"...I believe it was created to help relationships that are struggling. I reccommend you get a copy, and go through each step, but dont tell her about it till the end. As for the sick feeling, its tough, I know. But in time that yucky feeling in your gut will start to fade. Hang in there.
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okay i went to this awake-a-ton and meet this guy, hes 17 and im only 14. we got on great and were really open to each other. I only had known him for a day b4 he asked me for my home number msn, facebook ect. hes called several times and talks asthough he likes me.... the problem is he has a gf. he lives far away so im not sure what to do.... is it normal for a guy to call a girl/hug ect when he has a gf... how do i find out if he likes me .. without him thinking im a foulish teen ?? (link)
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I hope you take this seriously, I really do... Do not go meet this person. Not in any way, shape, or form. Do not give him any information, and tell your parents immediately. There are alot of people out there who dont have good hearts, and seek to hurt others. It is possible this guy is really nice, but if he is, he will have no problem coming to your home and hanging out with you and your parents. When I was younger I dealt with someone who really hurt me, alot. You can help avoid this by taking steps to protect yourself. Go talk to your parents, and arrange for this guy to meet them. I will tell you, that if he already has a gf, and he's flirting, you deserve someone better. Good luck.
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A while back, i was dating this guy exclusively, but we didn't call it a relationship. as time went on, he became more distant. he started bailing on plans multiple times a week, and basically only texted me to tell me he was too busy to hang out again, or to try to see me if it was friday or saturday night. i tried everything to deal with it, i suggested we study together if he was too busy to do anything else, i tried being more present in his life, then less, finally tried to detach myself completely. when that failed, i realized he didn't care about me and ended it. he said that after 4 months, he still couldn't be emotionally invested because i'm going abroad next year.
it's been a month, and i tried to move on. i met someone new who's wonderful, but we're taking it slow. last weekend, my ex saw us together and expressed to my roommate how upsetting it was for him. if i thought he cared enough to be jealous, i probably wouldn't have ended it in the first place. if we want to be together, it seems silly for my pride to get in the way, but i just don't know what to do. as of now, he's given me no reason to think he cares about me at all. should i wait for him to express it to me directly? should i initiate some conversation? (link)
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I think that it may be more than jealousy. It sounds like your ex wants a relationship with you, and doesnt want you to leave. Im not sure why you are going abroad, so I dont know all the details, but I think you two should sit down and talk. Lay everything out, and go from there. I dont know if you've ever heard the phrase, "love is an action, not an emotion" but its basically saying that loving someone means doing the tough stuff, not just loving when things are good. If you love him, go to him and talk.
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17/f, boyfriend is also 17 and we've been going out for just about 6 months.
Well, a few weeks ago was our 5 month anniversary and on that day I fell more in love with my boyfriend than I had ever been. We had really deep talks and we sat in a hammock under the moonlight and he told me that I was the most beautiful girl in the world. I was the happiest I've ever been. It was wonderful and perfect and I knew that we had never been closer than that night.
However, just a few days after that, a ton of bad things happened in my family. My uncle died, my cousin went into the ICU because of heart complications, and my parents started fighting nonstop because of funeral arrangements. Understandably, or at least I thought it was understandable, I was very upset. I didn't come to school for a few days and kept snapping at everyone, especially my boyfriend. I was also VERY prone to tears. I thought he'd understand because obviously losing somebody you're very close to, the possibility of losing another, and your parents yelling can really take a toll on your life! I thought wrong. My boyfriend is basically avoiding me. He says that he can't help me because I'm just letting the stress get to me and that I'm the only person who can make that go away. He used to write me letters, and kiss me, and tell me how much he loved me... lately he hasn't been doing any of those things. This has made me even sadder and more snappish. Yesterday he said something really scary.
Me: *RAWRMEANSTUFFRAWR*
BF: Well, I'm going to leave you alone because you're really pissed off.
Me: The only reason I'm pissed off is because you're pissing me off because you're not there for me!
BF: I'm still going to leave you alone now.
Me: Or leave me forever, that's what you mean, right? (Remember this was in the heat of the moment)
BF: If that's what you want, yeah.
Me: Well, you're probably not going to see me for a week. That's probably good... we both need to take a break from each other... but not a breakup break, just a thinking time.
BF: A long break.
So, we're not seeing each other, but we're still talking. The problem is, he rarely wants to talk to me and he's being really weird. I felt terrible for being so mean to him so I keep trying to make it up. I really regretted all the bad things I've said and tried to make it clear to him that they weren't anything to do with him, but rather, my life. I've apologized and told him that he truly means the world to me and that I don't want to break up with him. That this is one bad period out of months of wonderful ones... but he feels distant, cold, and agitated. It's like he doesn't want to be around me... I try to give him lots of space, but then he thinks I'm ignoring him. I feel like he's going to break up with me and I'm dreading it. I love this boy... When I tell him my fears, he says that I'm stupid and that I worry too much but he does nothing to help solve them.
I know you're going to say that if he doesn't see you through this, he's not worth it. Trust me, he's worth it. There's just a big wedge between us that I have to try and remove. I just want to go back to the way we were on our 5 month anniversary. I really really love him... and I'm far from ready for this relationship to be over.
That was terribly long... and I really thank all of you who took the time to read this. You have no idea how much it means to me. (link)
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Guys dont always handles stress well either... While you feel like crying and falling apart, he is probably helplessly watching you suffer, and not knowing how to help you. This is where communication is very important. You two need to stop ignoring each other, sit down, and talk. Things may not get better, but there is a chance that you two will work through this and then be able to develop a deeper, stronger relationship. The reality is, you know in your heart what you want to do, and you dont need our advice. You love him, so go to him and try to work things out. Good luck.
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if a guy asks if you masturbate, will he think its like "hot" if you say you do. i do, but like i dont want to say so if its like a turn off lol. idk. this is a weird question but its anonymous. do i answer yes or no ? (link)
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If your looking to develop a relationship with this guy, you need to be honest. If it's too personal of a question, too soon, tell him that.
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