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There's a boy in my class named Brian. He always sits with me and my friends and makes jokes and always makes me laugh. He always pokes and tickles me in the side a lot, pretends to take my stuff and just mess with me, and recently I've started to like him. I always can't wait to get to school to see him and talk to him. One day he was telling me how much he liked my best friend (she doesn't like him) (she doesn't sit with us) I felt crushed when he said that but didn't say anything. I also get mad with another "friend" making fun of me and saying if he did like me, he'd just want to sleep with me. I don't want to ask him out because I'm afraid that he'll hate me and not want to be around me anymore. How can I get him to like me? (Btw I'm almost 16) (link)
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If he doesn't already see you as someone he likes romantically, it might not happen. There is nothing you can do to make someone like you unless you become someone you're not. Which is a terrible idea. If you are yourself around him and he doesn't like that, then you should be looking elsewhere.
Just be the friend he sees in you for now. Who knows? Maybe he will get over your friend and see you as more simply because you are such good friends. Just don't try too hard because then you can come off desperate. That can be a turn off or he will just see you as someone he could potentially sleep with. You deserve better than that, so maybe just don't focus too much on that right now.
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So my ex boyfriend and i were together for over a year. We broke up for 3 months now and ive been trying to pull him back. Hes had major problems lately and i feel like because of how i keep like selfishly constantly askin him to get back with me that it gives him more stress. And due to that and our argument just not that angerily he told me he has no feelings for me anymore because hes so tired of all the problems in his life like fmaily problems and friends provlems.he told me tjat hes been trying to move on and forget about me but my constant texts make it harder for him. I was wonder if the no contact method would really work? Because i feel like if i dont contatc him he will forget me. Please give me advice on what i should do to get him back please. (link)
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If you want him back, maybe just be a friend for now. It sounds like he's going through a lot and may just need a friend at the moment. If you make it clear that you are there for him to support him, it will most likely bring you two closer together. In those hard times, he will think about how you were there for him and it may have him see you in a new light that could rekindle the relationship.
He won't think of you as the person who added more stress. Just be there for him now and maybe, just maybe, it will help you guys down the road.
Don't initiate no contact though because then it could seem like you just don't care. And don't send a million messages at once. Just take it slow.
Hope this helped.
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So I've been with a guy for two months now in a relationship.
He's really into me, and even talks of me being 'the one' and marriage etc.
However I recently went out clubbing and remembered how good the single life is. Not in a hoe type way-but how nice it is to be free and flirty.
I do love my boyfriend, but I just don't fancy him and (this sounds so harsh) I do think I could do better.
However I'm his first girlfriend and considering he thinks we'll be life partners, I don't want to hurt his feelings. He said he thought he'd be a loner all his life until he met me.
I used to think when I came to Uni that I wanted a relationship, now I'm in one all I want is to have a bit of freedom again. I mean heavens, somethings wrong here when I find 80% of the club guys hotter than my boyfriend.
How can I get out of this mess? And sorry this is so long! (link)
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Well first off, don't stay in the relationship because you are afraid to hurt his feelings. That won't be a healthy relationship for either of you. It will hurt him, but he will move on. If he found you, he could definitely heal and find someone else.
Honestly, talking about marriage that quickly might be a sign to back off a little bit. That shouldn't be the norm, especially for 18 year olds. No offense.
You may simply be destined to be good friends rather than in a relationship together. Just understand that you may not have that friendship if you decide to move on.
I hate saying it, but it doesn't sound like you should stay in this relationship. If you are more attracted to other people, then explore that. If you were with the one, you would think he was the only one for you.
I wish you the best of luck. I hope everything works out so that you are both happy.
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I am 26, his 41 things have only just started. He is married with 3 kids but things have been over for awhile it is all for the kids. He is very sincere and genuine and I do trust him and I know he won't purposely hurt me. He is very affectionate and I guess he is going to want to take it to the next level some stage. I am a virgin and keeping feeling like I might be like a hermit or frigid or something like that. I just really don't no what to think I don't want this to ruin the best thing that has ever happened to me. Just some advice would really be appreciated. Also any questions you have I will answer. (link)
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The best thing to do is to tell him your concerns. I figured this out the hard way and almost lost my relationship. It is better to voice it now than wait.
Just tell him that you are a virgin and that you want to be with him, but that it might take you a little bit to get there. Tell him, if you're nervous that is, that he should help you along and teach you. That can be a huge turn on.
Make sure to tell him your needs and find out what he expects from you and just discuss. It will be extremely awkward at first, but it will bring you guys closer and might take away some of that frigid feeling you have. If he turns you away for being open and honest and willing, then he probably isn't who you thought he was.
Hope this helped!
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There is guy at work I seen looking at me a couple of times. Both times I was looking down doing something and when I looked up i saw him looking at me as he walked by. One of the times when passed by he looked back at me. Why is he looking at me? I like him should I go up and talk to him? (link)
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I think the answer is kinda obvious...he is interested! Maybe the next time he looks at you, just smile or say "hey" just to make it less awkward and to break the ice for him :)
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